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Submissive Thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey Movie 1….

Spoiler Alert!!!  I wanted to put out a quick review of the movie.

These are my submissive thoughts…

The movie over all did exactly as I thought it would. It brought BDSM into the light for the main stream in a positive way. It is a fictional movie and sensationalized because it’s a movie. The sex scenes were fantastic and showed things very sexy and true to what my scenes look like. This is a love story and not a how to book. Ok, thats my preface to my review.

The movie started out very quick and I wasn’t sure if I like it… I felt like we need more atmosphere so we could curl up and settle in it like a comfortable chair. They had a lot of book to cover. I love the way in Twilight they gave us that time and atmosphere..It was shot in almost a blue hue at first and it made us feel transported into the storyline. I always say ATMOSPHERE is everything!







If you don’t remember please go watch it.. It was a special effect…. I often wonder why they didn’t do that with the rest of the Twilight movies…The change to men…directors maybe?



I guess, I was hoping to be transported into a book depth… Put in that special place… but I warmed into it…



We moved quickly from chapter to chapter. They took out a few things….. added a scene that wasn’t in the book. The commitment to their roles were very different then I thought they would be. Dakota Johnson was a complete joy to watch. She acted well and you could feel she connected wit her role completely. I can only imagine if she had a leading man as connected to his role how great that would have been. She had mentioned it was robotic with Dornan. The heat would have been there with Hunnam. They said at the early readings the place was on FIRE!!!


Not great Leading man CASTING… I have to say that they gave Dornan the part during a time of his life where he could not identify with a man/a Dominant. He is married and just had his first baby. He mentions that in his interviews frequently. He had done another picture that was similar and looks the part. He has not been a sub-porter of the lifestyle per say in all his interviews. They should put a gag order on him because he will kill ticket sales if he further diminishes the idea of BDSM. It’s only good for all if he tells people he can somehow identify with the character that he is paid highly to play. You can tell that he is a bit disconnected in the role he is playing. I am hoping that the next movie he will see how he has came off in this one. Again, Twilight they put a legal gag on characters not to go into things personally… How would have it sounded if the characters in interviews said they hate vampire stories??? I think you get my drift. Hunnan is single and I think more then a few ladies have been under his hands… Yum!

The scenes were all exciting and you could feel the characters places like the book. One scene at the end… Where she asks Christian to take her to the red room and show her how bad it can get, so she make a decision to become his submissive. He spanks her with the belt (strap).


Showing her how bad a punishment could be…Let me remind everyone, HE WAS NOT PUNISHING HER… She asked him to show her. Well, this is where the true depth of the character, Christian would be tested and Dornan failed, BADLY… This is the part of the book where he showed the emotions for her that he had not had with another before her. The hurt and the depth he felt it was not shown… They repeated showed a face on Christian that showed almost a high he was given after every strike. NOT in character at all… It was the way it came off to all inside the theatre. It was wrong, They should have been so careful NOT to let that scene be released and portrays so poorly. I hope that most read the book can see past the look of “the fix” on Dornan’s face. Take it and transcend it to the feelings in the book. For all the vanillas the chance to show them this is NOT abuse was done inveigh. It came of abusive to some.

The Red Room of Pain…. Fabulous, the set directors hit it on the head! We all left there with ideas for our own….. Ideas of just how luxurious BDSM can be… It’s truly what you make it!


The suspension grate Mr. Grey pulls down from the ceiling..

Ohhh, Mr. Fox… Please Sir?!

The ending …as I knew it would with the elevator doors closing as they say one another’s names…

AWWWWW….. the whole theatre said aloud! Can’t wait for the next!!! Next movie…Hotter Scenes and plots thicken as does Christian’s length..LOL!

 Nothing is lost!!!  I hope that all is heard by the directors and the author, E L James listens to what the kinky public is saying. The next two movies will get better as Dornan figures out his role. I always like to be positive. I think that what this movie is going to do to open people’s minds when they hear the words BDSM or Domination and submission. They will no longer be ignorant of it and judge it to be dark and scary. It will lead many to better educate themselves and others to dip their toes into TTWD…. It can only be good for the writers of erotic fiction… You know we all were sponges after reading these books. It will lead the way for many Married & Long Term relationships to find their way to D/s-M . This movie gives my Sir and I a platform. We want to spread to everyone you can have this type of lifestyle. Your marriage can be reinvented and you can take a journey like no other.  A place where honest communication stands pillar. A place where you can ask for what it is that wish for. A place to take control or let go of it. Place your power in another’s hands and they in turn feed it back to you in ways better then any drug could. SO, go ahead… go see it again, I am!



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  1. Lk Subtastic post and you make a lot of good points, I can’t comment on the movie because I have not seen it yet due to bad weather here. I will comment once I do get to see the movie.

  2. Wonderful post LK! I agree with all of your thoughts on the movie. My Sir and I both overall enjoyed the movie. I thought Dakota was wonderful. I thought they should have cast anyone else but Jamie as Mr. Grey. I’m excited to see what happens with the next film. I do plan on seeing the movie again soon so I can see it with out the anticipation and excitement of opening day….hopefully I will be able to digest more of the movie.

    P.S. Sir and I both loved the Red Room. I would like to have the room transported to my house. Sir and I loved the suspension grate as well. Sir also loved all the display racks. I really feel like the nailed the Red Room spot on!

  3. Love love love the movie…Anastasia was so much better than I thought she would be. Christian the jury is still out with him. The movie moved so fast but was so good. The sex scenes were very tasteful and the Red Room well what can I say.. I so want a room like that. and I agree I so would love the ceiling grates. Someday we will have a Red room ( my favorite color) Can’t wait to see the next one,Im hoping they have more details and the Sex scenes should be even better.

    So glad we got to see it together LK, loved reciting some of the lines with you and the banter with the jeans. lol


  4. I very much loved the movie, LK’s review is very similar to what I was thinking. My Sir took me to see the movie on valentines and it was an extremely positive experience for us, it has inspired lots of discussion, Sir never read the books, but the visual at least gives him a grasp on things we have been talking about. I loved most of the casting except Christian, I was disappointed as soon as I found out it would be Dornan and I am also surprised there hasn’t been a gag order about the movie. For me that ‘show me how bad it can be’ scene has left me a little tormented, I have tried to discuss it with different people (here and with my Sir) and couldn’t really understand my feelings about it (maybe ?) well enough to explain it… LK hit it on the head for me with this part of her review…

  5. While I enjoyed the movie a lot, I felt at times that it did not flow right. I felt like they were just taking scenes from chapters of the book and putting them on the screen, instead of telling a story.

    I thought Dakota did a fantastic job. Loved the hardware store scene and when she called him from the bar. Dornan on the other hand not so much, he looked uncomfortable at times. I agree Hunnam would of been amazing in this part. I thought Kate and Elliot were hot and sexy, and I felt they had more chemistry then the 2 main characters did at times.

    LK, that scene you are talking about when Christian is striking Ana with the belt, my Sir even made a comment about Christian’s facial expression, he thought he looked like he was going to have an orgasm it gave him that much pleasure from striking her. Not at all in cohesiveness with that scene in the book.

    The red room of pain, amazing. The pull down grate, I want!!!

    The music was great. The flying scenes beautiful.

    The sex scenes in general very entertaining.

    Overall a good movie, like Panda said I want to see it again with out all the hype and anticipation…who am I kidding I will own I am sure when it comes out on DVD, ha ha.

    If people saw this without reading the books, they might not have enjoyed it as much. They may not even return to see the next 2 movies, where they get to see the 2 characters evolve and hopefully the movie makers will get it right the next time and the true love story of these 2 characters will show through.

    I am looking forward to seeing the rest of their story unfold on the big screen. Let the countdown begin again, lol.

  6. Well I enjoyed the movie. Sir enjoyed it as well. We talked about it after and there were a few things I would’ve liked different having read the book and Sir didn’t like the ending at all. He believes the strapping should have never occurred, she should have never asked for it and Christian should’ve never given it to her right then with the emotional state she was clearly in. Sir also believes since I read the book, I should have given him a heads up that they would be ending in a split lol The same thing happened in Gone Girl (i don’t want to give the ending away so I won’t say what happened), but I read the book and Mr. A did NOT like the ending when he took me to see it lol But for FSOG there are 2 more movies/2 more books so they have to leave us wanting more 😉

    It opened up even more communication between Sir and I after the movie over dinner, so it will never get a bad review from me!

    I will say I agree 100% that Charlie Hunnam would have made a better Christian (at least for me)….Dornan wasn’t horrible and he definitely had the boyish grin down when that was called for 😉 and there’s only room improvement for the next movie!

    I was definitely not disappointed in the sex and I lust for that red room! – pea

    P.S. I agree on the music for this movie…we downloaded the soundtrack and well it’s hot hot hot..the whole thing! Sia has a song on there and well I’m pretty sure my vagina has a lady crush on her voice 🙂

  7. Mr. Ward and I both enjoyed the movie and while there were some things that were out of order or not in Book 1, overall, for a book adaptation we were both very pleased (keep in mind Sir has not read the last 4 chapters yet).

    Red Room of Pain – exactly how I envisioned it. Simply beautiful. Mr. Ward noted that in some scenes Christian’s knot work with the rope was spot on and in other scenes they had him tie her in a way that a good Dom would not use on a sub. (That’s Hollywood for ya! lol)

    I thought the overall look and stylization of the movie was well done. It was beautiful and I am glad it did not have the look of Twilight. If E L James wants people to take her seriously, she needs to distance herself from Twilight (and I’m a Twi-hard lol) and come up with her own stuff rather than fan fic with a twist. Just my opinion, though.

    Yes, the early part of the movie felt somewhat rushed, but in thinking back to the book the timeline was extremely quick (like three weeks from Chapter 1-26). One of my favorite scenes was when she drunk-dialed Christian while waiting to pee. I thought it was hilarious and was way more entertaining than the way I read it. I also thought Dakota Johnson played a more “bratty” version of Ana than what the book suggested and I liked it very much.

    Casting – Mr. Ward didn’t think Kate lived up to the protective mother hen described in the book or the hotness factor as described by Ana. He also didn’t think Ana had nearly as many issues with her hair as what he expected after reading (gotta say… his analysis cracked me up on the hair lol). While I originally didn’t expect to like Dakota Johnson as Anastasia, I think she was excellent and think she did a wonderful job bringing Ana to life. As for Jamie Dornan as Christian, this is where I will respectfully disagree with LK’s review. I loved him. Thought he looked like Christian more than any other actor suggested with the exception of Ian Somerhalder whom I crushed on during his Vampire Diary days and pictured in my mind while reading the book the first time. But back to Jamie. While LK asserts he was disconnected from his role (and maybe he was), I interpreted it as Christian being disconnected with the emotional aspects of a relationship. In the book, Christian “doesn’t do” relationships or romance. That came through in the movie. In the book, Christian was very guarded with what he shared of himself. Again, that came through in the movie. During the final scene where he gave her what she asked for (six spanks of his worst), I read him as having conflicted feelings…. Christian is a sadist, his sub girlfriend has asked for his worst… it seems reasonable that it would generate excitement and sexual arousal in the scene. However, when she pulled away from him, his face fell and as he listened to her, he was (or seemed to me) to be disturbed by his actions/reactions and there was a moment where he suddenly saw himself as a monster. I thought it was powerful especially when he went after her and she commanded NO! He slid to a halt like a dog being brought to heel. It was, in my opinion, a great ending. Also, he asked her repeatedly if she was sure she wanted his worst (and shame on her for not safe wording!) We actually thought the sex and spankings were less graphic than the book. They were well done and beautifully choreographed, but still more tame than how we thought they’d be.

    I did not read or watch any interviews with the actors because I didn’t want to have any preconceived ideas of how they felt about their roles going into the movie. I wanted to see them on screen first and get a gut reaction.

    On a funny note, a couple sitting directly behind Mr. Ward clearly had not read the books or had any idea what the movie was about. He said their conversation went something like this-

    Her: Oh my…. uh, I didn’t know it was going to be this way.
    Him: Umhmmmm….
    Her: Oh my… that’s hot…
    Him: Umhmmmm…..
    *end of movie*
    Her: Let’s skip the drink and go straight home…
    Him: Let’s go…!


  8. Movie was good, not great. Better than expected, however. I was dying for Hunnam to play Christian, and I’m still heartbroken. Even Huz (knowing Hunnam is my top celebrity crush) said Charlie would have been wonderful in the role. He has the acting capacity to appear dark and amused; Dornan was just sort of stiff and uncomfortable most of the time. Dakota surprised me–she was great. I just now remembered Huz saying he liked how she giggled and challenged him sometimes, probably because he got to remind her that he meant business…mental note.

    In any event, we saw it at the drive-in, came home, sent the sitter home, and had amazing sex. So yay FSOG!

    1. Yes, Hunnam would have been sooo much better! They need to put a gag on Dornan…. He talks so bad about D/s… Shame on him ..why have the role? Dakota was soo great! But at least it’s getting D/s out there in the main stream… Thank you for commenting! xLK