Marriage’s Sexiest Secret, M.S.S Mindset

Keeping the Mindset

What does it mean when someone says. “How do I stay in my roles mindset?”

We all know that when practicing this dynamic you are yielding to to your husband’s authority or will and working together doing your roles to make up a rich and exciting marriage.  Keeping the mindset means you have the intention of keeping an attitude, disposition, or mood of your role through your thoughts, feelings, and actions.

Mindset Transition Ritual

I first talked about using a ritual signifying a change of mindset with Downtime. Let’s explore this ritual even further.  How do you find a way to transition your mindset from vanilla to submission, daily? You know the time you may get home from work, or maybe when your husDOM returns from work, in the evenings, how do you signal the time you are D|s-M or M.S.S.?  What transition ritual could you do that signifies to you both that the time you are spending together that evening is your building marriage time? You are giving the signal that you are his and working together to make this magic happen.

Busy subMrs & Vanilla Schedules

Weeks can be so busy with vanilla schedules that most couples can not have  “special marriage time” together every night. This is why Mr. Fox and I recommend doing downtime weekly, we also advise that you have a schedule or make one make sure you are ritually

showing one another, in some manner, that you are following him or submitting to him and that your Sir is being your Dominant leader. This feeds and also enables growth within your new lifestyle dynamic. 

M.S.S. Attire

How would you show him your are following his lead and submitting to his desires, basically being and practicing your role?  We have a ritual idea where you may change out of your day clothes into your subMrs ones or your roles attire. These clothes could be anything from a zip-down cover-up, pull over kaftan, a muumuu, or even a robe.  Your subMrs clothing needs to signify your role to your Sir.  First, you want it to make you feel sexy.  You should feel vulnerable, wear nothing underneath.  You want it to have easy access for your husDOM  or Leader to be able to feel and see what is his in a few seconds.  You may want to get two or three of these outfits so you can wear them all week, using a cleaning rotation.  You know how much leg maybe too much at your house in the evenings if you have kiddos around.  Sit in downtime discuss what it is that you both deem appropriate. Find the ritual way you both want your special marriage time time to be represented. Try to schedule at least 3 nights a week to do your ritual attire nights or maybe it will be every evening.  You can also do this for your Sir’s attire. You can get some type of loungewear for him to wear in the evenings.  You also can get your Sir’s clothing out for him as a service to him.

Little Kaninchen

Ritual subMrswear or Attire