What does it mean when someone says. “How do I stay in a submissive mindset?”
We all know that when submitting you are yielding to another’s authority or will. Keeping a submissive mindset means you have the intension of keeping an an attitude, disposition or mood of a submissive through your thoughts, feelings and actions.
I first talked about using a ritual signifying a change of mindset with Downtime. Let’s explore this ritual even further. How do you find a way to transition your mindset from vanilla to submission, daily? You know the time you may get home from work, or maybe when your husDOM returns from work, in the evenings, how do you signal the time you are D/s-M? What transition ritual could you do that signifies to you both that the time you are spending together that evening is your D/s-M time? You are giving the signal that you are his?
Busy subMrs & Vanilla Schedules
Weeks can be so busy with vanilla schedules that most couples can not have D/s-M time together every night. Why Mr. Fox and I recommend doing downtime at least 2 times a month, we also advise that you have a schedule or make one to make sure you are ritually
showing one another, in some manner, that you are submitting and your Sir is being your Dominant. This feeds and also enables growth within your D/s-M Lifestyle.
How would you show your submission on your sleeve, well how about literally…. Yes, have a ritual where you may change out of your day clothes into your subMrs or submissive attire. These clothes could be anything from a zip-down cover up, pull over kaftan, a muumuu or even a robe. Your subMrs or submissive clothing needs to signify your submission to your Sir. First you want it to make you feel sexy. You should feel vulnerable, wear nothing underneath. You want it to have easy access for your husDOM or Dominant to be able to feel and see what is his in few seconds. You may want to get two or three of these outfits so you can wear them all week, using a cleaning rotation. You know how much leg maybe too much at your house in evenings if you have kiddos around. Sit in downtime discuss what it is that you both deem appropriate. Find the ritual way you both want your D/s-M time to be. Try to schedule at least 3 nights a week to do your ritual attire nights or maybe it will be every evening. You can also do this for your Sir’s attire. You can get some type of loungewear for him to wear in the evenings. You also can get your Sir’s clothing out for him as a service to him.
** Watch Calendar for Chat about submissive attire.
Ritual subMrswear or submissive Attire