Sexual Body Exploration | Exploring Your Partner’s Body
“Houston, we have fewer problems in the bedroom!” This is what I hear time and time again after couples participate in sexual body exploration exercise or share in a Body Exploration Scene or session in the bedroom. Whether you’re just beginning this dynamic or you are seasoned and just looking for something to enrich your bedroom play, Body Exploration is the answer to deeper sexual intimacy. This immersive sexual experience is sensually exploring your partner’s body to further your knowledge about their sexual likes and dislikes. HusDOMs will gain the wisdom of how to work their subMrs body like an instrument. subMrs will learn how to use their bodies to heighten and please their husDOMs. This intimate play will allow both partners to practice working one another to further their sexual encounters. Sexual Body Exploration leads you both to sexual happiness and intimate fulfillment.
In the Zone
In Sexual Body Exploration, you want to know how your partner reacts to certain stimulation, even better, what parts of their body react MOST positively… and those areas they don’t like messed with. Get to know their Erogenous Zones. Erogenous Zones, the male and female HOT SPOTS. The word erogenous comes from the Greek words “eros” (love) and “genous” (producing).
Erogenous zones are parts of the body that excite sexual feelings when touched or stimulated. They may be genital or extra-genital. Either of these areas have been known to be able to produce an orgasm.
Female Extragenital erogenous zones
- Breasts/nipples
- Mouth/Lips
- Ears
- Nape or back of the neck
- Buttocks
- Inner thigh
- Lower abdomen/pubic area
- Fingers/Toes
- Wrist
- Scalp
- Behind the knees
- Perineum (the space between the anus and vagina)
- Lower back
Male Extragenital Erogenous Zones
- Mouth/Lips
- Ears
- Inner thigh
- Nape or back of the neck
- Nipples
- Fingers/Toes
- Perineum (the area between the anus and scrotum)
- Lower abdomen/pubic area
- Buttocks
- Scalp
- Stomach
- Lower back
The Erogenous zones, husDOM’s, are the areas you want to make sure you grab, rub, pat, pinch and spank etc…. subMrs, these areas on your husDOM, that with permission, you want to stroke, lick and suck.
Reactions
Couple’s should study their partners as well as their own Positive and Negative Reactions to everybody exploration scene they participate in. These are BEFORE, DURING, and AFTER reactions… Make sure to notice and write them out and journal if you need to explore why you are experiencing these.
Emotional Positive Signs
- Joy
- Contentment
- Interest
- Engagement
- Pride
Physical Positive Signs
- Pushing into you
- Female self-lubrication
- Heavy Breathing
- Swelling of Tissue
- Nipples Pebble
- Chest Flushing
- Mist of body sweat
- Skin color, texture, and color
Emotional Negative Signs
- Anger
- Fear
- Anxiety
- Sadness
- Depression
Physical Negative Signs
- No lubrication
- No signs of stimulation
- Hyperventilating
- Negative skins texture, sweat, color
Navigator & Guide
Navigating someone’s body is like navigating the ocean wide. You want to make discoveries and prospect new lands. The Top or Dominant in this situation will navigate his/her bottom or submissive. They take the helm and decide what direction to go. Some guidance is always appreciated, and showing them the way shows confidence and connection.
At first, it is hard to be “the guide” in your exploration, but take your time, and once comfortable, you can lead your partner around your body. Let them genuinely see inside your mind and body during your scene or session.
Atmosphere
During exploration, make sure you have a great atmosphere for comfortable nude exploration.
- Light; Lights on…. They can be dim but light enough to see things happen.
- Temperature; You’re both nude, so keep warm enough you both are very comfortable from the beginning.
- Scent; Do you both enjoy a certain scent? Go ahead, light a candle or use that essential oil. Use warmed massage lotions or oils that can manipulate all the naughty bits.
- Sound; Use a type of mediation music with NO LYRICS… I guess it’s annoying if you are singing during your exploration.
Start Here
In this Intimacy Exercise, the mind must be fucked first, FOR THEN the BODY will FOLLOW. Using your words to excite your partner is key. Send a sexy text, write a note, or send a few images. Get them excited and in their heads so their body will quickly follow. Overall, I would say start literally at the top and work your way down on the body during your exploration. Don’t let them have all the pressure or pleasure until you want them to have it… Explore, Torture, and then Conquer!
Verbal Guide
Verbally or audibly, ask questions and make comments! For the discovery, respond to your partner’s touch and questions.
Both can use their 5 senses to fill in words … adding to the excitement.
- Taste … Tastes like,
- Touch … Feels like,
- Smell … Smells like,
- Hear … Sounds like,
- Look … Looks like,
Check In's
There should always be a check-in from the discoverer… The explorer should use a way to measure the stimulation or feelings of the explored.
- 1-10 Scale
- RED, Yellow, YES! …. Greeeeennnn!!!!!
Physical Guide
Physically, you can guide them as well. Moving their hand or pressing into them when things are feeling good. Just remember, Verbal responses are better communicated and more easily understood.
Touch Techniques
Test Areas using these techniques. Hands/digits are good, but as you get deeper into your research, go ahead and use some toys and tools.
- Tickle ~Feather
- Rub
- Pat ~Crop
- Pinch ~Nipple Clamps
- Slap ~Paddle
- Suck/Suction ~Womanizer
- Lick
- Scratch ~Vampire Glove, Wartenberg Wheel
- Bite
- Vibration ~Wand
- Bondage ~Cuffs and Rope (tied down)
- Hot & Cold ~Warming stones, Ice cubes, Probes
Skin & Position
Change is good in this exercise. Changing your position or your partners angle of your bodies, its parts or its skin in the smallest ways can change making or breaking its stimulation. A result can be changed orgasmically by the slightest movement of the skin in the most intimate areas. A tightening of an area of skin, even in the most minute of ways, makes a HUGE change in the sensation the person is having. So move your partner around, stretch the skin your working with, and change your angles and positions.
Mapquest
This Body Exploration exercise will deepen your marriage’s intimacy and your carnal knowledge of one another. You must map out where you go, and it’s no different in this Body Exploration exercise; map it out or Journal your discoveries… Even MAP them. Make sure to share these thoughts in your next Downtime!
Just like the planets in the sky or the bottom of the ocean, your partner’s body needs a lot of ongoing exploration. Time also changes a body and its preferences, so an annual review or Body Exploration Scene is always a good idea. So, after this exploration of your heavenly bodies, you should get out your subMrs Journal or your husDOM little black book and write your experience, the results if you will.
Questions to Ask or to Be Found
- What does your spouse respond most positively to, the areas, and what stimulation?
- What were their negative responses? Where and when did they happen?
- Where and what areas would you like to explore further next time?
- What areas would your partner want to be explored further?
- What were their TOP 3 ?
- How can you explore better next time?
- Add toys or tools next time? Which Ones?
Your Quest
A quest, this dynamic and exercise is a true quest, a quest for knowledge and intimacy. A quest is a journey toward a specific mission or goal. The word serves as a plot device in mythology and fiction: a difficult journey towards a goal, often symbolic or allegorical. Tales of quests figure prominently in the folklore of every nation and ethnic culture. Marriage’s Sexiest Secret is a true “QUEST FOR FIRE”.
