Muliebrity, the state or quality of being a woman; the features of a woman’s nature, womanhood. Much the same as femininity AKA, womanliness. Both terms are commonly known to have general set of attributes, behaviors, and roles associated with women and girls. Femininity is considered to be a socially constructed ideal and could be either or both biologically or socially influenced. Both males and females can exhibit feminine traits.
The Ideal of Femininity
The traits traditionally cited as feminine are nurturance, sensitivity, sweetness, supportiveness, gentleness, warmth, passivity, cooperativeness, expressiveness, modesty, humility, empathy, affection, tenderness, and being emotional, kind, helpful, devoted, and understanding. The ideal femininity varies across societies and individuals. They are influenced by a variety of social and cultural factors. Sexual passiveness, or sexual receptivity, is sometimes considered feminine while sexual assertiveness and sexual desire are sometimes considered masculine.
Muliebrity, Now & Then
Currently, in recent years the world is softening to the idea that masculinity (virility) and muliebrity (femininity) are not traits we associate with gender only but instead depending on the character of the individual and their energies. A true realization is happening that there is a need for a balanced energy of both masculine traits and feminine traits. We always have had both and now more then ever we are open to explore them and choose what we want to build on. It’s all about respecting and having acceptance others. In history the paradox of femininity and the ideal female body has changed. You can see it through art. The female body, for example was much curvier. Those curves being a sign of health and wealth at different times. Culturally today, a woman’s look of femininity can be the opposite then what we first picture here in the West. Some women wear their clothing in a way, such as buttoned up to her neck or even covering their faces. Not showing any skin is considered very feminine in some other parts of the world.
The Parallel of Muliebrity & Submission
There is an interesting parallels in regards to muliebrity or femininity and submission. One of the most interesting is sexual objectification. Sexual Objectification is the act of treating a person solely as an object of sexual desire or as a commodity with out regard to their personality or dignity, a type of dehumanization. This is clearly the vanilla definition and not the way a married submissive looks at it. Again, the difference is in our choice and the role we have decided to use in this dynamic. As a married submissive, we choose to submit to our husbands or husDOMs. This is a gift we give and a dynamic we offer to them or they offer to us. Married Dominance and submission is about the relationship, making it healthy and building on those most amazing foundations. It’s an investment in yourself and your marriage. D|s-M is the best marriage accessory!
Submissive Femininity & Its Affects & Effects
The Affect: To have an effect on; make a difference to. To touch one’s feelings or move emotionally. The Effect: A change which is a result or consequence of an action or other cause.
The subMrs Body
Affect: SubMrs want to improve their overall body. They begin to see themselves as their Sir’s do.
Effect: Self confidence is improved and the way you self observe improves. You. become more comfortable in your own skin!
What influences our subMrs, married submissive in regards to our submissive bodies ?
The things we wear, NO MORE sweatpants! Nudity, not wearing anything. Nudity becomes more comfortable. Body Exploration OURS and HIS! We again gain confidence in the exploration and learn about each other in ways you never have before! We now shave or wax and do more up keep to staying visually appealing to ourselves and our Sirs.
The subMrs Mind
Affect: You have a change of perspective. You feel sexy. Developing a self awareness that helps your marriage. Be more positive about the state of your marriage.
Effect: Finding a new female mindset and helping you understand your Sir’s better. Building you new female identity internally, changing your self perspective. Making your marriage first in your mind.
How does Femininity influence our subMrs minds ?
Explore the new sexy perspective or build on it in ways you never have before. A want to learn how to be more feminine. Mirroring and taking responsibility in your marriage and sex life in ways you may not have done in the past. Thinking about servanthood and his likes and wants as a husDOM. Thoughts of how you can “masculate” your Sir’s and STOP emasculating him.
The subMrs Heart/Spirit
Affect: You Care and are cherishing what’s most important. You become positive about yourself and your marriage.
Effect: Showing your vulnerable in ways you never thought. Stop building walls and keeping grudges. Forgiveness for the past.
How does Femininity influence our subMrs heart and or spirit ?
You will find your submissive heart and the emotions attached to it. Communication develops in positive ways. Get in touch with your inner self. Making time and place for yourself so that you can be the best subMrs you can be. Find your subMrs charm. Explore spirituality, where you may have not before. Finding a new sacred sexuality. Finding your fight for your intimacy important!
Virility & Dominance
Virility: A man’s qualities that may include having strength, energy, and a strong sex drive; manliness. The Traits that can be considered Virile are things like, masculine, Dominant, strong, independent , assertive, brave, & innovative.
Virility, I need to touch on as it is the opposite side of Muliebrity. Most husDOMs have some or most of these traits. Just as femininity’s ideals have changed and even the definitions have fluctuated over time, same with virility. I think as a submissive most of us look for these traits and wish our Sir’s to expand on them and grow in them.
In my opinion, muliebrity or a submissive’s womanliness comes down to one thing. Feeling and becoming a better version of ourselves not only for someone else but for ourselves. We want to love and be loved. Use the traits you want, expand on them and develop them to have the best marriage and Dominance and submission dynamic that you can. Have an open mind and explore and become subMrs!
Wiki Image & Definitions
Venus with a Mirror (c. 1555) by Titian, showing the goddess Venus as the personification of femininity.