How Bad Do You Want It?
The number one question I have found that I am asking new submissive’s is, How Bad Do You Want it? Meaning how bad do you want married Dominance and submission. Most times all of the submissive’s issues come down to me asking them this question. What are you really willing to do to achieve your “happily ever after”? Do you want a lifestyle built on Respect, Trust, Honest Communication and Love? Do you want to be that lady in the street and the freak in the sheets that every husband wants? What is your goal? Do you want the “MORE” that Married Dominance and submission can give you and your marriage?
When I talk to submissive’s about their road blocks there is usually two things that are happening. First, they are having a disagreement with their husDOM’s and they can not seem to get back on track, no matter what they do. It’s their Sir’s fault, their Dominant’s just don’t understand. Or secondly, submissives feel as if they have put in the time to sub-porting their role and somewhere along the way their husDOM has stopped doing in his part or maybe never got his part started, the way the submissive wants. I express to the submissive that they have to look FIRST at themselves and see what or how they could change their own behavior so that it could trigger their Sir’s actions. In essence the submissive gets what she wants, his DOMinance. “This I call submissive mirroring.” Submissive Mirroring is not for the bratty or the stubborn topping subMrs. This exercise is about being able to control yourself and not react. NO SELFISH BEHAVIOR. You many times have to put what you think is the perfect result or what you think should happen and the way you think it should happen away. Accept that and be flexible and the rewards are MANY!
You will need to remind yourself of “THE BIG PICTURE”, What’s your goal? The goal is to have a magical Dominance and submission marriage, right? Your goal is your prize! Keep your mind on the prize. Whatever is happening or not happening between you and your Dom, you have to keep in mind what it is you’re working for. As time goes by the stakes are higher. You work so hard for so long, you don’t want to waste the time and effort put in.
Set Your Intentions. Think about what you are trying to create in your life, your marriage. This means, look at the end product, and the behaviors, attitudes and traits you would like to see yourself develop in order to get there. Look at the foundations, then the tools and of course submissive charms. If you can find a connection to these things and a balance, you are sure to get exactly what you want!
How Bad Do You Want It? | Married Dominance and submission
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