EDGE PLAY, IT’S DARK, SCARY & DANGEROUS….. what is it? In D|s-M, you can bring light to this dark subject and make it your own…. Play with an edge without getting cut. What used to be literal can be somewhat figurative for Married Dominance and submission couples.
Edge-Play is a subjective term used for Sexual or Mental activities that may challenge the conventional safe, sane and consensual. If someone is aware of the risks and consequences accepts them, then the activity is considered RACK, risk-aware consensual kink. Examples of the types of edge-play are breath-play or erotic asphyxiation, fire-play, knife-play, fear-play, wax-play and gun-play, as well as the cutting/ blood-play, Mummification and Suspension Bondage.
First, a warning to all submissive’s and Dominants, REAL, BDSM, edge-play involve the consequences of potential disease, harm and even death! This type of play can cause triggers and mental relapse. If you or your partner are on any medications, clear any type of BDSM or Edge-Play activities with all your doctors, mental and physical.
Faux Edge Play
I wanted to make a point of letting couples know that you can faux or fake edge-play. It is what we advice to our married Dominance and submission couples. Many of these edge-play dynamics and be role-played and still have enough of the mind-fuck that a submissive and Dominant are looking for. Below I have posted a few stand-in’s and inspiration.
- Faux: breath-play or erotic asphyxiation- Just putting your hand over the mouth, finger’s splayed so the sub can breath. Covering only the mouth or nose, not covering both. Use a ball gag. All of these are great substitutes.
- Faux: Fire-Play/Wax-play- Play with soy candles that burn lower heat. Cover the areas with a layer of massage wax first. Heat up a glass toy just to warm, never HOT, light a match so she smells it, blow it out… doing this when sub is blindfolded, she will feel heat smell the flame, getting the mind fuck but no real fire!
- Faux: Blood-Play, Cutting/Knife-Play- Buy a massage knife or muscle scraper. They are usually metal and have the feel of a real knife, but no blade. Some people use their wax play removal wood knife for faux knife play. You want blood, buy some fake blood, Amazon sells it everyday not just at Halloween. Cover your scene in downtime with your partner.
- Faux: Fear-Play/Gun-Play- Cover whatever the scene is together in downtime session. Both making the decisions what the session will entail and cover safe words. It’s about a mind fuck and NOT a heart attack!
Should you go out on the ledge or even over the edge? You can jump in the shallow end first. Jump! …….. Have fun with the edge you both create. Edge-play is probably the term most used with D|s-M Married couples, that is on their HARD LIMIT lists. Pushing and Breaking through those limits or challenging those boundaries is what a Dominant is trying to do. My message to submissives is this ….. Just like your husDOM’s penis after a great LONG scene, your list of Hard Limits ….well, becomes very soft after 6 months of experiencing this magic intimacy.
Most of us have been in marriages for an extended amount of time and have earned and grown great trust, (An assured reliance) with one another. This trust lends to a great D|s-M dynamic. You can reach higher heights with true trust. This trust is from repetitive actions and long time honesty. You will quickly find that you are eager for more.. Edging or pushing your limits, enjoying every second of this part of your journey. Everyday you both will think on how you can go higher, achieve bigger mind fucks and a deeper intimacy. You will even surprise yourself many times, how far you will go!
Leave the more EDGIER things for the future or tomorrow…. if you ever go there it’s up to you and your Sir!
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