Protocols & Rules in Domination and submission
“What exactly are protocols?
The strict and general dictionary definition would be, “a code prescribing strict adherence to a pre-determined etiquette.” In a BDSM setting, protocols are the rules of behavior or rituals that can be used by couples, groups and communities. These rules can govern one’s or a groups bodies, behaviors and perspectives.
What about protocols in D/s-M, the Domination and submission married lifestyle?
Today, D/s-M is a new method to an age old practice that’s currently being practiced more on a main stream power-exchange stage. The stage brought to us by the books/movies from the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy. The D/s-M we have created is what happens after Christian and Anastasia got married, fast forward 20 years.
There couldn’t possibly be a universal set rules (protocols) for every couple. Every couple has their own unique connection, no two are ever the same. Each couple in D/s-M, gets to negotiate their protocols together. These are built on over time. We encourage you to make these protocols as a team and build on them as you get more experienced in your own dynamics. When you first begin, start with only a couple protocols that are easily achievable. No sense in setting yourselves up for failure when you have just begun. I know every husDOM and subMrs is very excite to prove themselves in their new roles look at D/s-M rules, rituals and protocols as an elephant that you CAN NOT eat all at once. This elephant you eat one small bite at a time.
low, Medium & HIGH Protocols
Protocols can be based on three levels, low, Medium and HIGH. They can be assigned in your daily D/s-M as well as special “outside” protocols. Outside, meaning outside your general dynamics or outside your bedroom or home.
What is generally called “low protocol” is a relaxed, mostly informal with few rules and restrictions. A “medium protocol” has some detailed rules governing parts of your behaviors and actions. A “high protocol” is where most if not all of your activities have instructions and have a very in-depth and thorough set of rules.
For examples of rules and rituals please register for Premium subMrs account and see the linked post.
Protocols in Domination and submission Married Lifestyle