“What exactly are protocols?
The strict and general dictionary definition would be, “a code prescribing strict adherence to a pre-determined etiquette.” In a BDSM setting, protocols are the rules of behavior or rituals that can be used by couples, groups, and communities. These rules can govern one’s or groups bodies, behaviors, and perspectives.
What about protocols in D/s-M, the Domination and submission married lifestyle?
Today, D/s-M is a new method to an age-old practice that’s currently being practiced more on a mainstream power-exchange stage. The stage brought to us by the books/movies from the Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy. The D/s-M we have created is what happens after Christian and Anastasia got married, fast forward 20 years.
There couldn’t possibly be a universal set of rules (protocols) for every couple. Every couple has their own unique connection, no two are ever the same. Each couple in D/s-M gets to negotiate their protocols together. These are built on over time. We encourage you to make these protocols as a team and build on them as you get more experienced in your own dynamics. When you first begin, start with only a couple of protocols that are easily achievable. No sense in setting yourselves up for failure when you have just begun. I know every husDOM and subMrs is very excited to prove themselves in their new roles look at D/s-M rules, rituals, and protocols as an elephant that you CAN NOT eat all at once. This elephant you eat one small bite at a time.
low, Medium & HIGH Protocols
Protocols can be based on three levels, Low, Medium, and HIGH. They can be assigned in your daily D/s-M as well as special “outside” protocols. Outside, meaning outside your general dynamics or outside your bedroom or home.
What is generally called “low protocol” is relaxed, mostly informal with few rules and restrictions. A “medium protocol” has some detailed rules governing parts of your behaviors and actions. A “high protocol” is where most if not all of your activities have instructions and have a very in-depth and thorough set of rules.
For examples of rules and rituals please register for Elite subMrs account and see the linked post.
Protocols in Domination and submission Married Lifestyle