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! You know what your foundations are …. Honesty, Communication, Trust, Respect, Love & Intimacy. submissive Tools… (I do not mean your Dominant Tool, LOL!!!) These...
! You know what your foundations are …. Honesty, Communication, Trust, Respect, Love & Intimacy. submissive Tools… (I do not mean your Dominant Tool, LOL!!!) These...
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You know what your foundations are .... Honesty, Communication, Trust, Respect, Love & Intimacy.
(I do not mean your Dominant Tool, LOL!!!)
These are the tools you have to possess or work on possessing.
Let's talk about how do these submissive tools apply to your D/s-M.
Lets review POSSESS....
What it means.... Own, have, hold, be in possession of, acquire, gain, get, enjoy, be endowed with, be gifted with, be blessed with, boast, hold or wield.
OR.... seize, take, obtain, acquire, take over, take possession of, take control of, get, occupy.
Last but Not Least.... influence, control, dominate, bewitch, haunt, enchant, infatuate, obsess, demonize.
Patience: The capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.
Patience it is a virtue and I have found as I have gotten older I have become more patient. Just like fishing... You the submissive has to set the hook.
How can you show patience as a submissive? You want to get your D/s off and running as fast as you can..We all did it. We all learn that we will run and fall and have to learn to crawl then walk within our new dynamics. Your patience often goes hand in hand with your expectations.
There is a word for you..EXPECTATIONS:
A belief that something will happen or is likely to happen.
A feeling or belief about how successful and or good, someone or something will be.
You have to understand that you have to lower your expectations at first, like the first 9 months. You will be guiding and learning for you and your Dominant (husDOM). You are NOT "Topping from the Bottom" if your Dominant is a new Dom. He will need some guidance and you have to learn how to deliver the guidance without being controlling or pointed. That's another post..
You are learning how to submit and your partner is learning how to Dominate. You have to give up controlling your body but also your mind in certain situations. So patience in all things D/s is key to remember.
Attitude/ Charm A positive attitude is settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something using optimism and encouragement. A person with a positive attitude holds the belief that the outcome of all situations will be ideal for everyone involved or finds the positive and reveals it. People with a positive attitude possess a "glass half-full" mentality and is reflected in the person's behavior. A positive attitude requires gratitude for the way life is currently unfolding. A positive person finds the good qualities and features of others and strives to use those in their own lives. A positive attitude hard to keep but will help you in every possible direction in Domination and submission. Whenever you're at a crossroads and no matter how disgusted you get, think to yourself... NOT..... "it a wonderful world"... LOL.. No think to yourself... What is the positive I can pull from this situation? What can I do to make the situation a positive one? Then, DO IT. You will not disappoint yourself or your husDOM. No one can ever fault you for trying.
Charm goes along with attitude.
Studious: Spending a lot of time studying or reading. Showing great care or attention to those things that you study and read. Not only learning about submission but your the place where your Sir will learn the foundations. What you put in is what you will get out. You are the inspiration, the pull and he will be the Motivation or the push in your Domination and submission lifestyle.You will always be the inspiration maker in your D/s.
Team Player: A person who plays or works well as a member of a team or group. You have to work as a team while doing D/s . One person can not feed the both of you. You have to learn how to work together to make the dynamic work. You have to sit in downtime and discuss things you can each do to make the most out of your interactions and play. Know that he will be the one to make final decisions... He will make the win for both of you. Both of you winning is the whole idea of D/s .
Spirit:
Thankful Spirit: The feeling or expressing gratitude; To be appreciative.
You have to learn how to show your Sir how much you appreciate him giving you the lifestyle and the experiences that you desire. Every effort even the smallest ones have to be magnified and paid much appreciation repeatedly. Especially in the beginning you have to make sure to let your Dominant know this is what you're committed to and is not only just a phase you are going through.
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Forgiving Spirit: To wipe the slate clean, to pardon, to cancel debt. A conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
You have to learn how to let go of your old vanilla ways of using guilt and blame. You have to change your mindset. You have to be able to forgive your Sir as well as forgive yourself. You won't go far without using forgiveness. You will have to use your forgiveness to heal one another's hearts.
Effective Communicator: A person who communicates, especially one skilled at conveying information, ideas, or policy to the public. An EFFECTIVE CONVERSATION is a conversation in which no one gets confused by the other person's MEANING. How to be one of these is another post. You have to learn how to maneuver the best ways with in your downtime. Downtime is where you both get to communicate about your D/s and your days. You make the most out of your time. Sometimes its hard translating your feelings into words. So if thats the case write in a journal before hand and read it to him during downtime. Also, talk on the Warren Chat and vent to other subs that may be able to give you some perspective that you never thought of before. Write down notes. Most the time you will answer your own questions just by communicating them to others. You will get better and better at being an effective communicator. A post about Effective Communication will follow very soon.
Playfulness: To be full of play: Frolicsome & humorous.
You will quickly find out that there is a very dark and pensive part of your D/s that requires you to be very serious... taking your Sir and yourself very seriously. Along with this you have to balance things out. You will both work hard so the best thing to do is play hard. You have to learn how to unwind yourself and not to take yourself so serious all the time. Learn to laugh at yourself. is a place and time to be the professional submissive but your Sir will love that you can also play and laugh with him as well. Laughing about things is the best medicine. When things get tough give yourself a break and do things that make you both happy.
Understand Timing: The choice, judgment, or control of when something should be done.A particular point or period of time when something happens.
You know your husDom/Dominant. You know what makes him happy or upset. You have to learn that timing is everything. Most men in general are much more approachable after they have sex. They soften to things that they may not be willing to do or discuss regularly. You know how and when your Sir will put up a wall. No matter what you do or say he will not waiver in his decisions. You have to understand when to communicate things to him where he will hear you..Not just listen but hear you. Don't bring things up or to light in a knee jerk reaction. You know when you are walking on a thin line. If you want Downtime know when to call it. If he is NOT in the mood..You know it will not go well. Wait for the best timing for everything. This takes time...You will find your submissive timing.
Consistency: Conformity in the application of something, typically that which is necessary for the sake of logic, accuracy, or fairness. A steadfast adherence to the same principles, course or form. You and your Sir staying consistent in your rules, rituals and downtime is a MUST. If either of you fall short in one of these areas then the other will start to feel like their partner is not doing their part and will become resentful. Remember your partner will lose faith in the whole dynamic a little every time you don't follow through. So if you want this then make sure you do not deviate from all that is asked or required of you. Little reminders to your Dominant will be a must in the beginning but learn how to do them in a fun and non-pointed way.
D/s Mirroring: I define this as taking a look at yourself in a mirror and finding the things you can do to get the results that you want. You are in charge of seeking out and making your Married Domination and submission dynamic. If things are not going the way you wanted them to or you feel like somehow things are coming up short then take a good look in the mirror... Look at what you are doing. Observe your actions, your attitude, your mannerisms. What can you do to them to change the outcome to something more preferable. Eventually, you and your Dominant will be able to communicate and do this together. Say the way or time you're doing a ritual is not working for one of you then you communicate it and look at yourselves and find ways you both can negotiate how to make the ritual work better for both of you. There are always things you can be doing to improve your D/s . Things are only hopeless when you both have given up.
***If you have your foundations and keep using your tools then you will be successful in your Domination and submissive relationship.
If you have any questions or concerns about this post please do not hesitate to email me or private message me. LK@subMrs.com
Site for new/experienced Dominants: www.husDOM.com
05/15-original
Little Kaninchen
Update 10/19
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