submissive Musing | Vulnerability

~Little Kaninchen~

What is a “muse” you ask…. Well most think of it as a thought or a period of reflection. I want to share some submissive thoughts that are sure to inspire other subs out there to think upon their D/s-M and their submission.

What does it mean to be vulnerable?

Definition, easily hurt or harmed physically, mentally, or emotionally.
To be open to attack, harm, or damage

“Show your vulnerability”

“It feels like weakness”

“No, it isn’t. It makes the person you claim to love actually know that you care for them.”

Many times I read in introductions in our forum, I am a strong female. I am the leader in at my work and even the leader within the marriage up until this point where I want to be the submissive or I want him, my husband to take control. Many of them emphasize how they are NOT weak that they are strong.

I always explain that D/s-M is a dynamic requires a leader and a follower. One to make final decisions. One to have a final say. As a submissive you are to be valued for your service as well as your brain. You still get to add to the mix your opinions and your talents. Your Sir makes the final ruling or outcome. You take the submissive role. You are his “Second”. You have to put down the sword, the control and lay it at his feet. Let him pull you apart and put you back together again. In essence tearing you both apart to form a new better self.

“How do I do this? Forget the strength I had or have now to give it to my husDOM?”

You show him your vulnerability. 

Put yourself in a position that you could be be hurt by him, show him your trust. Show him your commitment to your role in your new dynamic. You have read the words everywhere, “You have to be strong to submit”.  submission is NOT a weakness. In fact it is harnessing all the control, need and desire inside yourself and giving it over to your husband. This will feed him in a way that he’s not ever been made familiar to. This will show your love and the depth that your willing to go to show it. This can be a beautiful thing. Not to be feared or shied away from. Shyness is something that has to be dealt with in the very beginning of your D/s-M with the body exploration scenes that I advise, but that’s another post. Things to show your vulnerability, kneeling, calling him by his Dominant name, exploring your desires and sharing them with him… like you have never done before, tell him your fantasies. Show him physical love like none other… Do the taboo. Instill the desire in him to control you to protect you and use you in the ways you covet.

I have to mention that D/s-M dynamics are one Dominant and one submissive. The dynamic is not a M/s, Master/salve one. This is not a Top/bottom either. You can still have control as a bottom and have a TOP, do just that top you in ways you both discuss that you both want. As a bottom you control the scene and the play and tell your Top what it is you wish to happen. There is nothing wrong with that… Nothing so if that sounds like more your element that you are wishing for then please go for it, make it what you wish. There is also a dynamic where you can “switch”, it is what it says… You can switch the roles.

Stop controlling…. Stop topping as some say. Guide him in the beginning in ways that are respectful. Find ways to control that strength and use it to control your body, control your mouth and most of all your mind. That’s what this is about, becoming a submissive…. becoming more then all your vanilla wife counterparts. Become the freak in the sheets and the lady in the streets! Make your marriage, unforgettable to all. You have one life, make the most of what you have, make the fantasy bigger then yourself. You won’t be sorry!

Forget what you used to be…. What do you want to be now?

SUBMIT to becoming submissive…. Be VULNERABLE! 

An interesting fact: A “muse” is also known as…. 

(Greek myth) any of nine sister goddesses, each of whom was regarded as the protectress of a different art or science. Daughters of Zeus and Mnemosyne, the nine are Calliope, Clio, Erato, Euterpe, Melpomene, Polyhymnia, Terpsichore, Thalia, and Urania

~Little Kaninchen

submissive Musings | VULNERABILITY…