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Practical Submission moment
So, my Sir’s parents were staying with us during the Christmas season and it was the last day they would be with us. I had found an amazing deal on a new bbq earlier that day and my Sir and his dad spent the afternoon assembling it. Sir was in charge of cooking the chicken on the new grill. We had done a lego day with our kids together in the family room and there were legos everywhere including Sir’s white architectural ones. The broccoli was halfway done roasting in the oven and the chicken wasn’t on the grill yet. I had texted Sir that I would like him to start cooking the chicken and he said, he’d go in 5 minutes. Well, at 6 minutes, I went downstairs frustrated that it wasn’t started yet to find out what was going on. Sir was finishing his creation and then cleaning up the room to prep it for dinner. I sat down on the couch, holding my mouth shut, as I watched Sir clean up…his parents were in the room, kids were in the room, and I just watched and waited. There was this HUGE internal struggle going on inside me about the chicken not getting cooked in time and the broccoli would be overcooked or cold and Sir isn’t doing what he should be doing and I REALLY REALLY want to make a comment about it. Anyways, I successfully kept my mouth SHUT and later that night Sir thanked me and said he really appreciated that I didn’t say anything as he could tell I was fighting to not talk. He saw my fight and struggle to submit and stay respectful and thanked me for it!! Whew! This was a first ladies! First time being frustrated with something and NOT saying anything about it. In the end, the chicken turned out amazing and everything was just fine….of course…
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Good for you- it is hard to be quiet and submissive when you are frustrated and there is a timeframe for things to be done. It is also commendable to be quiet and respectful in front of his parents.
Yea to your Sir for noticing and thanking you. What a positive example of the love and respect we have in these relationships. Great example of Ds/M done right 🙂
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Woohoo! Well done, Minx! I bet the praise and gratitude from your Sir far outweighed the satisfaction you would have felt in the moment if you had chosen to speak up. 🙂
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This example really spoke to me, Minx prema. (Hi, newbie here, hope it’s okay to jump in and comment, apologies if not.) I’m a serious control freak sub and often try to run things in our day-to-day lives, situations like you described above. Recently, I had a big epiphany, not only about the stress that was causing me, but the message it was sending my husband about my respect for him and his capabilities. I’m still FAR from perfect on it, but I’m more self-aware, and the first day I realized/acted on this new path, I saw a marked change in his behavior toward me as well. There was more room for him to be patient and loving with me, and for me to notice (and cherish it) in a way I hadn’t before. So thank you for posting that. You’re the first thread I’ve visited so far, so I’m delighted to see this kind of discussion happening that relates so directly to my own struggles/thoughts on things.
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I had this problem too. Because I ran such in our lives, it was difficult to let go of a lot. But I had to. I still run everything with the kids, but he takes charge in almost every other facet. Patience is a hard thing to learn.
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RESPECT, What a huge topic. You used your submissive tool belt and charm…. You should celebrate that win. It can be tough to hold back those OLD vanilla habits of control and expectations. Working on yourself is really what a lot of D|s-M is. You are building a better version of yourself. Finding yourself and building her better than ever before. You built his DOM that night. Keep it up… you will be rewarded 100 X’s over.
HUGS!
LK
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