BDSM| Submissive| Give In…. Surrender

I have gotten many emails……. Talking about how it’s hard to “give up” your control outside the bedroom. You want this dynamic.. You want it to spill out into your everyday life…. You are a submissive. How bad do you want it? How much do you need it?

 

You are NOT giving up… change your thinking, THINK SUBMISSSIVE.... Think of it as GIVING IN... SURRENDER YOURSELF…. You’re giving him, your DOM, giving him those final decisions… Giving him your inner stress. Handing it over for him to help with those decisions. You feed your Sir by doing this. It will build your Sir’s Dom…. Again, an exchange happens & you feed each other.

 

My Sir will take an issue for me ….I will hand it to him and he will break it down into smaller bites…Manageable pieces. I look at this as a bonus. Yes, there are subjects that you will broach that will be hard to negotiate, things like children & finances.

A good Dom takes your input like normal and makes the final decision. Not much changes in discussion except as a sub you let go and he makes the final decision and usually states why…

Keep reminding yourself…. My Sir will reward me and feed me for surrendering to him…

 

Best Wishes in Submission,

Little Kaninchen

 

 

 

 

LK

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  1. I don’t think of my submission as me having gave in or gave up – the only thing I gave was a gift. A gift to Husband, of my complete and total trust; and gave myself the gift of finally being able to let go of a lway of thinking and living that was making me miserable.

    (But, for clarification, giving in and giving up were synonomous for me growing up)

    1. I agree… A lot of inquires have come my way about the feeling of giving up control…

      SUBMIT = Submission….. Giving in and giving your Sir a gift .. Your submission…..

      LK

  2. I agree- I have gained much more than I “gave up” We are still early in our journey here- but already we have both changed so much. We are communicating on a different level- in all areas. I have learned much about myself and look forward what comes next for us.

  3. I really love this post! Life is easier now, since my submission. Communication is at an all time high! Quite amazing!
    I often thinks that if others would take on this D/s relationship that the divorce rate would cease to exist!

    1. If couples use the D/s foundation of HONEST communication …………… Then there would be less hurt out there for sure. You’re right a lot less divorce…

      LK

  4. Love this…I would so willingly surrender everything to my Sir, I would give in without a second thought…it is just sometimes his job is so stressful that I feel guilty, like if I were to do this I would be adding to his stress level. He works so hard to provide for our family… the submissive in me wants to make things easier for him. How can I change that mindset?… That said, I do love when he makes a decision for me or the final decision, which is more so than not. ❤️

    1. BF in your situation, you’re doing things the right way but to make sure it’s the best things that could help him is… downtime: sit ask him.. “as your sub I want to help you … help make things easier for you.” Service your Sir………

      He will tell you, then there’s no question. In turn he’s fed and you are to! You are probably already
      doing this but I wanted to throw out example.

      LK

  5. Im always asking myself…am I being the best sub I can be?? When I surrender myself to my sir I can feel the difference.. I’m at peace with things and decisions…there are still moments I feel the control but quickly rethink my words and mindset to feed my sirs Dom.. my sir is still learning and the more I submit the more confident he becomes…

    1. I need to “rethink my words” a lot…. That’s where I need to work this year… Great post idea. Thanks Sweetness….

      Stay being mindful… You’re doing great!

      LK

  6. Great post Lk! To me there is no gave in or gave up,,,,when I ask my husband to try D/s-M and he said yes I gave up that right in a way. I am his submissive I gave Sir my gift…all of me, which is my Honesty, my Trust, my Total commitment, and my Communication. I’m learning to change how to speak to Sir in front of our family that is staying with us until spring. It is hard sometimes keeping a submissive mindset since we started the first five months 24/7 with only us at home but I will cope until we have home back to ourselves again. I don’t believe there is a perfect submissive because we are human and will always make mistakes. Mistakes are good… it challenges us to learn and grow and that’s whats makes us a unit…we grow together.
    Roadrunner♥

  7. I don’t necessarily call it giving in… I look at it more as supporting my husband in his leadership role. The role he was created for is to lead, the role I was created for is to submit to his authority and support his leadership. The bedroom stuff is easy, because, who doesn’t like all the kinky bedroom fun! It’s outside the bedroom where I find the most peace and truth in my submissiveness.

    1. This post was about the emails I get from others….

      Some woman have lead a dominate role in their marriages up until finding D/s. Then it’s hard for them to change the dynamic within themselves. Letting themselves give…….. giving the control their Sirs…

  8. You already know how I feel about calling my submission a ‘gift’, so I won’t open that can of worms again! LOL!! Not only do I not see it as a gift, I also don’t see it as giving in. I see it as giving Sir my all – my mind, my love, my fears, my worry, my life, etc – and trusting in Him to do with all of that as He sees fit. Not giving in or giving up, simply giving all. ~shygirl

    1. I’m not sure what you mean about Gift… but Gift or “giving it all” both sound like a positive action…

      Just a play on words… I hope you still enjoyed the post….

      LK

      1. I don’t see my submission as a gift for my Sir at all. I shouldn’t write things when I’m hungry… and I’m hungry again!! lol.

  9. Great post! Explains so much in our mindset as submissive. Its exactly how I feel. Thank you LK!

  10. This is a really good post LK!
    I have found a certain sense of freedom and peace in handing the control over to Sir. It is rewarding to see him in his role in AND out of the bedroom. When we first started this, I thought it would be difficult to do but it was honestly easier than I thought….I like Sir being in control.

  11. Thanks V, You’re always so sub-portive. I have watched you grow as a submissive and I am so happy I could be a part of it. Many ways I have learned from you as well. HUGS! LK

  12. D/s was the best thing that could have ever happened in my life and in our marriage. Great post LK!!!
    Smooches!

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