Submissive Training

[theoneyouwishyouknew]

Following this thread as I’m in a similar situation!

[pearl]

There are quite a few subbies here that are in the same boat and will give you some great suggestions. How much contact do you have with your Sir while he is gone? That can make a huge difference on what you can do. I will make sure some of them stop by and give you some suggestions.

[Kaninchen]

mrssubk, Thanks for writing…. I have to say that many of your questions answers lie with in yourself and your Sir. There is no right way for every couple to answer this question. Are you familiar with my Downtime post in the blog? You said you’re looking for: I would like to work on being a better submissive while he is away at work so it’s more fulfilling when he is home. Well first being a better sub means that you are pleasing him…. Have you first sat with him and ask what would please him? What would he like to see in you or in your actions that would make him so happy when he returns. Ask yourself what makes your Sir happy? The answers you’re looking for sit with you having downtime and discussing where you’re going with your D/s-M. What are your goals in your submission or D/s-M? I hope this puts you on a track of learning and the answers you are seeking… HUGS!

I have a post cumming called Being a submissive VS Being submissive…. Look for it soon it touches on this subject! HUGS! LK

[Kaninchen]

Posts like submissive charm may help as well. The respect post….

Hope these help! LK

[Veruca]

I don’t deal with this issue, so I have no ideas or anything…just cyber hugs!
Smooches,
V

[missy-sirtomissy]

I am not away from my Sir and i have regular contact throughout the day. But daily i try to find the time to ask myself how can i please Sir today? It could be a chore unprompted, wearing sexy underwear, a photo, anything i think that would be pleasing. Its amazing the little things we can come up with.

If there is regular communication you could share daily, or record it in a journal if you have one and on his return share. Even if hes not there daily to witness the pleasing actions, im sure it would be pleasing that you are taking the time to connect in that way.

[staci]

Hi mrssubk!

14 and 14 sounds like an oilfield schedule! My Sir works in that industry and is away for extended periods as well. Some of the things we do that help keep the D/s-M flame burning are:

-I send him explicit photos (sometimes my choice; sometimes he asks for something specific)
-I am required to ask permission before touching myself when he is gone. Sometimes he gives me specific instructions (for instance, after you go to the gym but before you take a shower, I expect you to have an orgasm.)
-I journal at least once per week anyway, but when he is gone I tend to come up with more things I want to discuss during Downtime, so I write them down.
-I wear his day collar

I’m not sure that answered your question, but I hope it helps!
Staci

[Unknown Member]

You ladies are great. Yes! He is in the oil field so we are able to communicate via text throughout the day. I have been working on my 20 min of kneeling each morning and I can see how it is helping me to clear my mind and stay submissive. I love the explicit pics idea. I do send him some sexy gifs about submission/dominance and it always gets a great response! He has set up rules for me as far as masturbation while he’s away and house rules. One thing I notice is it’s easy to fall back to vanilla while he’s away if I don’t stay on top of the rules, etc. I think I am still moving ahead of him on making it a true lifestyle so I am trying to be patient and just keep engaging him. We have had downtime and it has made a difference for us. We try to do a “FaceTime” downtime session at least once while he is gone, usually turns into some fun phone sex!! I am looking forward to the post you mentioned LK and I will read up on the links you posted for me!!