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Inspections – Looking for insight
Hello lovelies,
My Sir and I are fairly new to living out this D/s-M, only a few months in, but we have been looking into it for years to see if it fit us or if we just liked kinky sex. It fits – YAY!!
We are not yet doing any punishments or discipline outside of disobedience during a scene so I am fairly certain this is a future piece to our puzzle but … you never know until you talk it out.
Last week in the chat the subject of inspections came up. When I shared with my Sir about the rituals, he asked what I thought about inspections. Neither of us have read up on this topic before so we don’t know what they consist of, how you would perform them, what impact they have into the mindsets and ultimately if it would be something healthy to add into our relationship in the future. This being the case, I have set off on a researching trek to figure it out.
I have read every post/forum that has the word inspect in it here and also have read a number of other blogs and forums looking for insight. But what I am finding is mostly very vague in that it states “He made her take an inspection position” or “He called for inspection” But not what that really entailed, or how it fed either one of the parties.
If any of you have inspections as part of your lifestyle, would you mind sharing as many details as you feel comfortable with?
How often?
What triggers one?
What is “he” looking for?
What positions? Or if not a physical inspection what does that entail?
How are you “graded/pass-fail”?
Why do you feel they are good for your relationship?
How does it affect your sub mindset?
Do you know how/if it feeds “him?”
Do you like them and why?
What punishments would you receive if you didn’t “pass?”
Does your inspections that result in punishment have aftercare, if so, what kind?And anything else I may not even know to ask.
Thank you in advance for any responses
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Welllll……lol
For us we are moving slow….the first one I cratered ! Just to much too soon ……so, I will say now Sir will give me a heads up …..I make sure I’m silky smooth, smelling good, in the mind set ! I do like the way I’m proud to show Sir his subby/ wife ! Sir praises me, tells me I’m beautiful, sexy …..yummy!
These are rare for us now, fun,even if I failed Sir would never use that word ….I have too much little. It would make me cry. Sir would never make me cry ….but, he would say ….I like your other panties ( meaning don’t wear the ones I’m wearing again). Your feeling sooo good ( meaning keep working out lol). I think Sir might use inspection more in play. Scenes . Hearts, Curveyn -
My husband and I don’t really do inspections. Sometimes he will after I shower and shave but mostly it’s a fun sexy exercise. He might let me know I missed a spot, but that’s about it. I don’t take any particular position, I’m usually standing but we also might be laying next to each other in bed. We may decided to do something more formal in the future but that doesn’t fit us right now.
Did you read Kaninchen’s blog posts – https://submrs.com/inspections/ and https://submrs.com/practice-positions/? She gives some advice on when inspections could happen, what your Sir could look for, punishment, etc.
If you want to incorporate inspections my advice is do what fits your relationship, what the two of you feel will add to your dynamic. I think it should all enhance the Dom’s dominance and sub’s submission, giving both the opportunity to exercise and grow these traits. Inspections can give the Dom a way to exercise control telling the sub how to be prepared – shaved/waxed and where, how to be dressed or not, what position or positions to get into; and they give the sub an opportunity to practice obedience and pleasing their Dom. Whether this is a time for the Dom to admire and praise their sub with only a little constructive criticism or a time for the Dom to be very exacting and hold their sub to a high standard, or anything in between, it should fit and enhance the relationship.
I’m sorry I don’t have more personal experience to share. Good luck.
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