BDSM| Is it Right for Us? |Defining it , Accepting it & Building on it |FSOG Lifestyle

BDSM| Is it Right for Us? |Defining it , Accepting it & Building on it |FSOG Lifestyle

 ~BDSM~

What is it?

Is it Right for You? 

Define it, Accept it & Build on it……

 

In BDSM, I have found along the way that a lot of people are not familiar with the definition of This Thing We Do (TTWD) …. Sometimes we start our journey and need reminders of what it is we are aiming for.  Couples also,  at a certain stage  start re-evaluating what we are doing and what parts are working for us and what’s not working for us… In that process, if it is not turning out to be what one or both partners want they tend to start redefining it and making/shaping it into something entirely else. You make it your own remember but you stay within the BDSM & D/s dynamics.  No one can change this definition…. … BDSM is what it has been since the beginning…. and will be until the end… So let’s review…. 

 

BDSM stands for An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD),

Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM).

Definition: BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint. 

This definition can not be changed..It will forever be the same. 

In a BDSM relationship there is a dynamic D/s…. A Dominant & a submissive. In D/s you can be single or you can have a D/s-M… a dynamic between a married couple or LTR (long term relationship) partners.

 A top or Dominant is the partner in a BDSM relationship or in a BDSM scene who takes the active or controlling role over that of the bottom or submissive partner. 

 The bottom or submissive takes the passive, receiving, or obedient role.  A bottom can be subjected to acts such as flogging, servitude, or humiliation and can be physically restrained by bondage, which can itself inflict pain. ..

The BDSM term is an acronym intended to take in all of the following activities:

Again, These definitions were not something that was made up here on subMrs.com or husDom.com but are in ……. wikipedia.

 

These are the pillars that all of our dynamics stand on.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*Enjoy one another’s flesh…. Doms take your power and subs provide it…. Let the Magic Begin….. Just as you read in FSOG….

The power, the edge, the luxury, the relationship you desire, can be yours….

How Do I become a submissive?

How Do I become a Dominant?

Make sure you know their definitions,…….. then……

Contact: Little Kaninchen @ LK@subMrs.com or husDOM… MrFox@husDOM.com

*If this is a review and you find that maybe you and your partner need to take a couple steps back to recapture what you were looking for in the beginning… That is fine.. Take the steps back sit in DOWNTIME and re-evaluate and get back on track…. BDSM, should be fun and inspiring NOT a continuous struggle. It should deepen your relationship.

BDSM will take you to higher heights.

You Work HARD … You get to PLAY HARD! 

 

 

HUGS! ~LK

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Responses

  1. Great post LK…thank you for posting it. It is always great to have a reminder of what BDSM means and why we started this journey in the first place.

    As for the Mine video, love it and I can never tire of watching that one.

  2. Lk thank you for this post lady! 🙂 ” BDSM is a variety of erotic practices involving dominance and submission, role-playing, restraint.” But to me being married and entering into a BDSM Lifestyle with my husband the word BDSM has more meaning. It means that my husband and I had to agree together to commit to one another in this journey and that we would take responsibility seriously in our roles in this lifestyle and not as it fits us today but not tomorrow. BDSM means more to me than just kinky sex it means to be committed honestly, with respect and open communication in all matters concerning us. To trust each other knowing that we would never do harm physically or to verbally hurt one another in anger. To care and have patience in listening and understanding each others feelings even though we may not agree with each other. To be responsible to learn our roles and grow together as one beating heart and to always love each other and not change our personalities of who we truly are as individuals. To become the best dominant and submissive we can be to each other in our D/s- M relationship. It isn’t always perfect but it can be close to perfect as long as we are committed to our D/s-M together.

    Lt♥

    1. Lt, your words are so beautiful and they never stray from the heart of the matter, ‘together’. BDSM can be a casual or a part-time thing for some people depending on where they are in their lives. I think for many of us who are married or with our life partner, it runs deep. We don’t want just a taste, we want to feel the weight of it upon us, to let it seep in to our pores until it bleaches our bones, for it to take on a solid form in our relationships and leave it’s mark for ever more. Perfect in it’s imperfections as we journey together, becoming more entwined, understanding of, and in love with our other half.

      darlingheart x

      1. Lt and DH,
        Both of you have said this perfectly… I feel the same way…
        I feel so fortunate to be able to take this journey with my Husband.

        ♡SSB

      2. Lt and DH-
        Wow, both of you spoke so eloquently and really summed up exactly how I have been feeling and what it all means. It has deepened our ties to one another in ways I never could have anticipated or dreamt of. And while the kink is great, it’s so much more than that. It’s a willingness to embrace and explore a new dynamic between us that requires a higher level of trust and communication than ever before. I’m not sure it’s right for all couples, but it is right for us.
        Looking forward to more and more of the journey with my Mr. Ward.
        xoxox to you both-
        june

  3. The BDSM world is so varied and has such a huge scope of practice within the definitions and roles given that that no two BDSM relationships are alike. This gives us a lot to play and experiment with. At times, you can get a little lost along the way and this is a great post to remind us of the foundations of BDSM and that building upon these foundations can lead to a ‘fun and inspiring’ relationship and way of life. Having said that, being a little lost TOGETHER is also part of the adventure. The things I have learnt the most and integrated into my life have been from situations where I have gotten a little lost and off the beaten track. I would never have found BDSM if it was not for getting lost in my vanilla world.

    Great post LK and the video was hot!

    darlingheart x

  4. Great info for newbies and extremely relevant for for us in a D/s-M to remember. Great post, LK. LT, spoken beautifully and from the heart as always. All of us here are so blessed to have such wonderful, caring mentors.

  5. Thanks, LK! I love the magic that this lifestyle brings Sir and I. Growing everyday. It truly is a part of who we are.
    LT, I always love your passion. Its such an inspiration. Like LR said, love having such great mentors on here. Never enough thank yous.
    Your sub sis……LB

  6. Ladies thank you for your kind words! Sir gives me my passion and inspiration in our D/s relationship. But it is Lk and all you sub-sisters that are out here everyday in LK’s community that keeps me mindful about my submission. So thank you for sharing and teaching me ladies. ♥

    HUGS to all you sub-sisters!
    Lt♥

  7. I am new to this community and bdsm in general, although mentally I have been co templating it for some time. I have experienced revelations of myself in the words of other submissive women and have felt that life can be so short, why shouldn’t I fully submit myself to my husband? We’ve been together nearly 17 years and I am shocked at how much closer and more satisfied we have become after embracing this in the bedroom. Outside of the bedroom is still uncharted waters for us and I am reluctant to initiate that aspect of d/S, exoecialky with children still in our home. I am thankful for this site and the knowledge and the sense of normalcy that I am gleaning here.

    1. Welcum lady! You’re name says it all. This site is for classy subMrs… I am happy that you love the site. PM me anytime! HUGS! LK

  8. After twelve years with my husband I have finally have opened up to him about my need to be submissive in the bedroom to start. He went all pro on me the first night but since isn’t showing any interest or effort. I sent the husdom.com link to him but he hasn’t read it. Any suggestions?

    1. Keep talking and communicating your desires to him. Keep submitting and showing him your real need to have the dynamic in your marriage. PM me here on site anytime or email me lk@subMrs.com

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