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Introductions
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Hello, all! I am Jucksh… 30 years old. I am in a committed 24/7 D/s relationship. Not married yet, but we live together. My Dom/love is not on husdom yet, although I have shared the site with him. My job (and joy!) is to do most of the reading and research needed to strengthen our dynamic, which we both hold very dear to our hearts.
I have learned a lot so far with what I have found. But my biggest struggle is finding resources more geared toward the mental and emotional aspects of the D/s lifestyle. The kinky stuff is easier to figure out. He is naturally a wolf. A Dominate alpha-man. Which actually was the cause of most of our friction in the very beginning of our relationship, as I have always been (by necessity) a fiercely independent woman. It took several months of push back on my part and arguments that nearly led to our demise before I accepted that this is truly what I wanted and needed out of a relationship. He would snap at me not to interrupt him, or get upset because I was disrespectful. As angry as I would get at him for scolding me, it would also excite me. After doing lots of research as to why this turned me on (I’m a neurotic studier/planner!), I determined that I’m actually naturally submissive and I craved that control.
We have now been officially on this D/s journey for about 2 months and this morning he placed a beautiful day-collar inspired necklace around my neck and told me not to let him down. Any suggestions for maintaining this submissive mindset throughout a normal, vanilla day/life?Thanks in advance! Xo.
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Hi, i’m from the uk, i’m 50yrs old, been married 22yrs, have 2 daughters(25 and 16) have dabbled throughout our marriage,but never commited fully, i’ve suffered from depression all my life, caused by abandonment as a small child, i need security, which i feel becoming a submissive will help me, as i think most of you may have done, i watched the 50 shades trilogy, read the books, read more books on submissives and thought how similar my marriage was, i have spoken to my husband, and of course he is all for me being a bedroom submissive, i feel it is something i need and i want, sorry if i sound a little strange, obviously this is quite new to me, x
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Welcome zigzagbella! Come join us in chat!
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Welcome to the community! You’ll love it here!
Please let myself or any ambassador know if we can help you with the site in any way.
Smooches,
Veruca
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Welcome zigzigbella. You have found a great place to learn and join in with like minded subbies!
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Hi I’m 34, soon to be 35. I have 3 kids and my Sir is Theoneguy (on husdom). We’ve been married 11 years. We are pretty new in this, we’ve had somewhat of this relationship for sometime but it wasn’t completely a dom/sub relationship until only few months ago after we had a big heart to heart about our needs and wants. I don’t however know anyone who is a sub, let alone a married sub as well so I am hoping to learn more on here.
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Oops I just realized I typed my Sir’s husdom wrong… Lol it’s Thatoneguy. My phone is apparently working against me this evening. Lol
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Welcome to the community! And that is EXACTLY what this is…it’s not just a website. You are not alone in not knowing any married submissives…there are many here that in their everyday world feel like they are alone, and that’s where subMrs comes in! We subport each other every step of the way! Some of us that are Premium have even met IRL through the Gatherings and other events to develop ACTUAL relationships with each other in a totally safe, monogamous environment. I hope you find what you are looking for and if you have trouble using the different functions of the site, please let me or another ambassador know!
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Welcome Sparrow! I hope you are enjoying the site. Please let me know if I can ever be of any assistance.
HUGS!
lk
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Welcome LilSparrow! I know that you will find lots of ladies on here that have similar experiences. Come join us in chat!
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Hi everyone!
My Sir and I are new to the d/s dynamic. We have been married for 3 years this December. We are so excited to see how our relationship grows by living this lifestyle. It has only been a few days and we both adore each other more! My Sir isn’t on HusDom yet, but he is planning on joining soon. 🙂
I’m so grateful to have found this site because I don’t know of any other subs in my local area. I can’t wait to learn from all of you and make new subbie friends! 🙂-
I forgot to add that I am 25 and will be graduating college this December! 🙂
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Welcome to the community! I am glad that you are glad to have found us!
Read, read, read and then read some more…and come chat with us in the chat rooms if you have questions. I think your Sir will enjoy husDom…they are a really great group of men over there. I look forward to meeting you in the chat!Smooches,
VP.S. Congratulations on your upcoming graduation!
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Hi all, I am 47yrs old and married to my hubs for 7yrs now. We both married late but he was well worth the wait : ). We met on a spank finder site and for many years we were (trying but failing most of the time) living the DD lifestyle. As time went on we discovered that we wanted so much more. I am naturally submissive and his is naturally Dominate. After many late night talks we discovered that we were more suited to the D/s lifestyle. So grateful to have found a site that is for couples only, so tired of getting messages from men even though I clearly state that I am married .So here I am trying to learn all there is to learn.
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Welcum prestonolivia, I am happy you found us. Our sites promote marriage and monogamy. D|s-M is a little different then the standard D/s dynamic. In D|s-M you have a voice and its teamwork. We also work on our relationship and its not only about the kinky stuff. We are glad to have you and let me or any Ambassadors know if you need anything!
Hugs!
lk
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Welcome! Was so nice to chat earlier on today! You will find that this site is filled with wonderful ladies who will help and share to the best of their knowledge and abilities.. I have found a safe haven here on subMrs.. a second place to call home..
Just shout if you need any info – everybody is willing to listen!
xoxoxo
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Hello, I am siannabee, my Dom is CardioBoy on HusDOM. I am 27, married almost 9 years Been exploring D/S-M for a couple of months though we had experimented on and off the past couple of years. Finally decided to jump feet first. We have three kids aged 6,4, and 3. I’m looking forward to learning from you ladies.
xoxo
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Welcome siannabee! Glad you found our community!!!
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It was so nice to “meet” you on the video chat last week! I am ecstatic you are finding a home in The Warren!
Smooches,
V
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Hi there! I’m kitten and my Dom is RED on husDom. I’m 34 years old, mother to one, and have been married to my husband for 13 years. We have been into the kink lifestyle for the last 10 years but only within this last month have we really talked about taking our bedroom D/s outside of the bedroom. We are taking things slow and really trying to be open in communicating what we both want out of having a D/s-M. I was excited to find this website and really look forward to all the information within it. I’m also excited to get to know you other subMrs!
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Hi I’m Gahtinha — I’m 25 years old and have been married to my husband for just over a year and we’ve been together for the past 5. No children yet as I am in graduate school, but we have two adorable cats! I’ve been pouring over all of these blog posts for the past week and feel like I’ve finially identified a part of myself! Ive always liked spanking and hair pulling, and my husband is naturally dominant in many aspects (he is from South America and leading is part of his culture). He hasn’t joined husdom yet– i think he may be a little nervous reading the articles due to english being his second language (he previously told me this makes him uncomfortable talking during sex) but he seems excited and willing to try! Im excited to see where this goes for us 🙂
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Hi! I am RedVixen, married to Stag (on HusDom) for 21.5 years. We’ve been exploring kink & D/s for a little over a year. We have one daughter in college and a son finishing high school. We are looking at negotiation documentation/contracts to better define our D/s dynamic and expand it beyond sex.
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Welcome to the community lady! Let me know if I can help you with anything!
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Welcome! The blog posts are a great place to start on the site and the chat rooms are good as well…. they are just rather quiet this time of year it seems….as most of us are busy with Christmas and time with family and friends. Just a little heads up about the blog….I couldn’t figure out where all the blog posts were for quite awhile and I was getting discouraged by it. Then I discovered that I was going to the subMrs blog link INSTEAD of simply click the word “BLOG” on the top of the screen. Once I did that……pages and pages and pages of posts were opened up to me. SO…..just in case anyone else needed help figuring out how to access the blog posts….there you go!
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Hi gorgeous ladies!
My husband and I are just starting to explore d/s kink in our relationship, and this seems like a lovely community to do so. We’ve touched on this kink at various times in our relationship, but we’ve been starting to explore this and each other more.
Suffering from chronic anxiety, trying this in the bedroom has led to a magnificent calm in myself, which I very much want to explore as a 24/7 relationship!
We are very new, and I’m still negotiating with my husband/Dom about our lifestyle and hopes…
One thing in our favour, is it’s always been of interest to him, so he’s happy to explore with me – and he’s very much noticed a positive change in my general happiness!
I look forward to listening and learning to make this a wonderful lifestyle change!
Also, very much between us at the moment, we have a young son, so it’s very intimidating also!
Thank you all, and looking forward to learning and loving my dom more!!
K!tty 😻
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Welcum, Ktty!!! We are happy to have you join our community. Please cum chat with us in the New Members Chat! We are all here to support one another in this wonderful life of D|s-M. You will find several submissives that are just like you in just getting started out along with many who have been on the journey for awhile. It is wonderful to be able to discuss the things we do (TTWD) and bounce ideas or situations off of each other.
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Welcome Kitty! I’m so glad that you found SubMrs and HusDom. We just started here the end of Sept. and have been so blessed by and encouraged from this site. It’s crazy the friendships that can actually blossom and grow here as we subs try to maintain our mindset, seek help or advice when needed, and share our stories and experiences. The chats are awesome and you can learn alot simply by listening in. So…if you have the opportunity to come, join one.
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Hello everyone! My name is Angela. I am new here. My husband and I are also new to the d/s-m life as well. I am 35 and we have 4 kids. Any advice for a newbie? Hubby is lilgreenman82 on husdom.
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Welcome Lilangel. I’m so glad that you found this site. Advice: take things slow, and LOTS of communication about everything from hard limits to soft limits to what does it mean to be submissive to your hubby and a dom to you.
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Hello Everyone,
My name is Sonya, 47yrs old from Australia. My Sir has been in the lifestyle for over 25 years whereas I am fairly new and only really started exploring this properly after meeting Sir approx 9 months ago. I have been married and divorced twice and Sir has come out of a 20-year marriage (not yet divorced) with a lot of scars which has been very hard for me to deal with at times.Sir and I started dated through a Vanilla dating site but were aware from the beginning everything about him. I have been very fortunate to have a Sir that has let me find my way in this lifestyle without pressure. It has been hard for me sorting out relationship and dynamic but hopefully, we can work through things.
This site was recommended to me after going through some struggles recently so looking forward to making new friends, learning and advice etc
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Welcome to the site, Gypsyrose. We look forward to getting to know you. 🙂
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Hi Everyone!
The name is Sara. I am 31 years old, and the husband is 30. We have been married for 6.5 years, but we just now started this lifestyle. Definitely taking time to get used to this! Anywho, we have one son whom is 5 and we live in Iowa. My husband is active military and it is definitely a journey. We are originally from upstate/western NY with family in Maryland as well. Thank you for having me and I hope to learn more!
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Welcome! You will find lots of information here and even other military wives. Take a look around, especially in LK’s blogs. Check out the calendar to see when the chats are. Most of them are video now but you can always opt out of the video part and listen/talk with out the video turned on. They are a great way to get questions asked and see that the rest of us are all normal just like you.
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Welcome MrsMsub19!! I too am a military spouse!! Sir (aka Lord Commander) is active duty Army. Welcome to the community. We’ve been married 11 years, together 17 and are just starting this journey as well. The blogs are a wonderful resource!! I haven’t joined a video yet, but plan to soon! Look forward to seeing you around! Don’t hesitate to ask questions or anything!
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