- September 15, 2016 at 10:25 pm #24265KLB ModeratorParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello Everyone! Welcome to the New Submissive Group here on SubMRS! I am so happy to have each and every one of you. Please introduce yourselves so we can all become one big happy family.
I am 36 yrs old, I have 2 young kids. My Sir is Crash on HusDOM. We have been married for 13 years. D/s-M over 2 and a half years.
- September 16, 2016 at 1:42 am #24267DarlingLadyParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi! I am 32 years old. My Sir is TheCaptain on HusDom. We’ve been married for 7 years (together for 10) and D/s-M for about a month. We have 2 kids, ages 4.5 and 1.5.
- September 16, 2016 at 10:30 am #24270MeauxParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi ladies 🙂 Meaux (pronounced “Meow” – long story but it’s an old gamer name from way back when.)
I’m 46, have been married for 21 years (he’s on Husdom, but I don’t know his username there.) 2 kids, older teen (high school & college). We’ve often played with D/s themes but this is our first time exploring it as more of a lifestyle situation. Started almost two weeks ago now.
- September 16, 2016 at 12:34 pm #24271SereiaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hey Ladies! I am Sereia (Sir-ray-uh) and I am a moderator here on the site. I am 26, married to Ferrous on HusDom for 4 years, together 6 total. We do not have children but have 5 adorable sweet furrbabies. We’ve been D/s-M for 7 months now but have dabbled in the lifestyle about 3 years off and on. We are in MO/USA.
While we’ve been D/s-M for 7 months I am still learning on this new journey and I joined the group to hopefully expand my knowledge. I believe that no matter how long you’ve been doing something you can continue to learn and perfect it. This group expresses it is for subbies in the D/s-M dynamic less than a year which I do fit in. Please understand that while I may not be as green as you there is still so much I can learn.
- September 17, 2016 at 12:44 am #24276LK Founder D|s-MKeymasterPremium subMrs™
Hello All, I wanted to re-intro myself here. I am far from new sub but you never learn everything. The day you stop is the day you are done in D/s-M.
Hello, I am Little Kaninchen owner of the site/community. We ask that you come here with an open mind and a loyal heart. The energy here is a positive one. We all sub-port one another.
I am married to Mr. Fox the owner of husDOM.com . husDOM is a community for Dominants only. I ask you to register your Sir there at your earliest convenience.
My day job is Intimacy Life-Coaching and Mentor. I am 46 Yrs young, monogamous, 2 kiddos, Live in N. E. USA . Been D/s-Married Lifestyle since 2012 . Any questions please do not hesitate to Private Message me here on site.
- October 28, 2017 at 9:24 pm #28504LadyParticipantPremium subMrs™
I just wanted to say thank you for creating this site. I have been searching for a safe place to learn and talk to other submissives. I was surprized and happy to see the husDOM site as well. I have been with my sir for 18 years and we have staarted to explore the D/s lifestyle over the past year. I know i have alot to learn and i am glad i found a place that my sir and i can learn and grow.
- September 17, 2016 at 7:44 pm #24282Anonymous
I’m married to Sir1967 on HusDom. I’m 49 and we have been married for 4 years D/s for 3. I’m so very happy to have found this space to support and be supported. I look forward to many chats and getting to know y’all.
- September 18, 2016 at 1:46 pm #24287ashleykParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m ashleyk. Just joined by order of my Sir 🙂 We have been married 6 years; together 12. We are very happily married and have 3 incredible kids all in college. We have been exploring this lifestyle for about a year now but more in fun and games. Just recently, we are taking it more seriously and further. And loving it. I’m excited to be a part of this community!
- September 20, 2016 at 12:45 pm #24299srmtss062ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, I’m Tiffany, I’m 36 years old, I have 3 amazing wonderful talented daughters 17,14,& 11. I’m just recently separated after 15 years of marriage. I have been talking to someone who is extremely dominant and has been for years. He also is going thru a divorce. I had no clue that this lifestyle/world exists until 50 shades of grey came out. I have done alot of reading on the subject. This site has helped alot with understanding it more.
- September 21, 2016 at 10:35 am #24306His girlParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m his girl. I am 39 and have been married for 10 years and together for 18. We have 2 wonderful young children. We have dabbeled here and there in this our entire relationship, but i hope this time to make it stick. I have always needed to be submissive to him, he understands and is not against it, but has trouble holding up his side. He is dominant with me and I am submissive to him, I just want it to be more. I am excited to learn new things and see how I can improve this dynamic in our relationship. I also want to understand myself better and explore my submission further.
- September 30, 2016 at 4:01 pm #24371LSW4HimParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, everyone! I’m LSW4Him (Little Slut Wife), and I’m 31 with a beautiful 2-year old daughter. My Dom and I are engaged and have been together for three months. From the very beginning of our relationship, we have had a very natural D/s dynamic, although we are only recently realizing how significant it actually is in our relationship. I am also a bit of a masochist, and he may be a bit of a sadist. He feels the need to take care of and protect me, and I feel the need to be completely honest and vulnerable with him.
We are both rather open-minded and hedonistic, and have been considering bringing others into our intimate space. It’s long been a fantasy of mine to be with two or more men at once, and my Dom supported me and became really turned on by the idea of me being able to enjoy the raw pleasure of being with other men, but after much discussion and soul-searching, we’ve come to the decision that the “slut wife” dynamic is just too risky in so many ways, with no real promise of reward or satisfaction for either of us.
I have never read or seen FSOG, but am adding it to our list of “must watch together” movies! I have always been turned on by the thought of being used or completely owned sexually, and my Dom is intrigued by my fantasies of D/s, and makes no bones about wanting to own me completely.
I am so happy to have found this community and (hopefully) a more safe, sustainable dynamic for our sexual endeavours and maybe more. We are starting basically from scratch, and I’m not sure how we will incorporate the D/s dynamic beyond what comes so naturally to us. All advice is appreciated, and I will continue to do my homework in preparation for our Formal Acceptance! I look forward to getting to know you all and soaking up all of the knowledge I can.
- October 1, 2016 at 6:43 pm #24379TessaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi, I am Tessa. Honestly, I am just exploring. Married nearly 30 years, 6 kids, happy, an educator. Very new to D/s but I feel I need it. We need it. I hope you all can help me learn. Thanks!
- October 2, 2016 at 5:57 pm #24387SDLFT ToyParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, I’m SDLFT and called Toy. I am 51 years old and married to Sir Geopetto for 19 years. We have three adult children with one still at home in FL. We began our D/s-M journey earlier this year as a joint initiative and did our formal acceptance on our anniversary on Sept 7. We find so much subport, encouragement, friendship and training on subMrs and husDom. Thank you!
- October 6, 2016 at 10:20 pm #24427EvaJean85ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I would like to introduce myself. I am 31 years old and from FL, USA. My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for almost 9 years, we do not have children. He is 33 years old and is the only person on this earth that I trust unequivocally. We have been interested in the BDSM and dom/sub lifestyle for most of our relationship but have had obstacles in our way preventing us from implementing. I have asked if he wouldn’t mind checking out husdom site and possibly joining as a way to help us on our journey and he has agreed. We have played in the past but events in my previous relationships have made it rather difficult (ok….impossible) for us to fully enjoy the bondage that we both want so badly. At the age of 19 I was in my first “grown-up” relationship. It was a very unhealthy relationship to say the least. I don’t want to go into too many details here but will later on. For now we are starting off slowly, trying to anyway. We are not entirely sure what all we want in terms play, but we are learning. So far we are enjoying the power play and I love him taking control away from me. I have always craved sexual pain but that is an area he isn’t very comfortable with. We are working on figuring out our limits and desires. I am sure this community will be able to help us in our journey. I am so happy to be here
- October 10, 2016 at 3:36 pm #24447AdorkableParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone! I’m 30 years old, been with Sir for 10 years, married for 7, and we started exploring D/s around 4 years ago. We have not taken the leap into 24/7 and had to pump the brakes earlier this year due to me getting very badly injured. We are now trying to get back into things, learning my new physical limitations. I look forward to meeting some of you and learning lots!
- October 21, 2016 at 3:26 pm #24516GingerBunnyParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi! I am 48 yo in a relationship with a new life partner after the death of my husband. We are new to D/s and both are very excited about exploring the lifestyle. We both have our reasons for pursuing D/s, mostly knowing that dom for him and sub for me have been buried inside for as long as we can remember. Looking forward to what we can learn.
- November 2, 2016 at 6:26 pm #24595Belle AmeParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone. I am not married but involved in a D/s relationship. I am personally rather new to this self discovery and am enjoying the journey of self discovery and what D/s relationship can bring to my relationship.
I am mom of 3, baby is graduating from HS. Wow-
I have already found this site not just informational but a home and a family.
sir has shared with me that this is a discovery that each individual needs to realize on their own and I am grateful that he was so patient in allowing me to find this out for myself. He saw in me what I needed to see and he patiently watched from the sidelines.
I am excited to be here and would love to offer any feedback from my own experiences as I am grateful for the information I have received from others stories. we are all growing together.
Idompj is my Sir.
- November 6, 2016 at 2:47 am #24619AlloyCharParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am 26 with 2 beautiful children under 3
I have been with my husband for almost 10yrs married for almost 5yrs.
Until a few months ago our sex life was lackluster and not very satisfying. It changed because my husband has started being more dominant in the bedroom. While he has been away for work recently he did some research and discovered Husdom and he suggested that I check out this side of things. My husband describes our sex as Vanilla with a twist so we are really new to this scene. I am really excited at this journey we are embarking on. I never knew being so submissive would be so liberating.
- November 6, 2016 at 5:55 pm #24623subMrsPhoenixParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi! I’m Kelly (subMrsPhoenix) or HisPhoenix. I am 38 married to TheDragon (not yet on husDom but am encouraging him to join). He is 42. We have been married 9 years (this week) together 12 years in December. we have an 8 year old son. Our marriage has been good for the most part – ups and downs like most I assume. Then 6 months ago we experienced a 180 degree turn in our lifestyle — he retired from the military and I went back to work full time. He is now the Stay-At-Home-Parent and I am the income earner. This role reversal has put a strain on our relationship – mentally, emotionally, and sexually. I have been reading and researching ways to improve our marriage and kept finding the blogs and articles that resinated the most with me were D/s related. I realized that when we were the “best us” my husband was D and I was s …. not just in the bedroom. I also looked back on past relationships and found that I was happies in those with a strong D partner. I wasn’t sure how D/s relationship could work in a marriage until I found this community. I am looking forward to learning from you all – especially on how to communicate my desire to be more submissive for my husband and to foster and develop his D.
- November 14, 2016 at 1:39 am #24650MasterKernsSweetPeaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everyone. I’m MasterKern’s SweetPea. I’m 36 years old and I have been with Master Kern for nearly 20 years. We have been married for 12 of those years and just started our journey with D/S-M. We have two sons, age 11 and 6. About five months ago, my husband had to move out of state for work. To our surprise, even though we are further apart, we have grown so much closer together. I’m able to go visit him once a week for about a month and those weeks so far have been amazing! I know we both still have lots to learn, and we are enjoying learning it 😉
- November 27, 2016 at 4:45 pm #24686ChocolateParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello! I am Chocolate and I belong to Mr. Midnight. I am 30 years old and have been in the D/s or M/s dynamic for less than a year. I am still learning. It has been a wonderful journey so far and I am looking forward to what the future holds.
- November 27, 2016 at 7:43 pm #24687LiebchenParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everyone, I belong to DMike on HusDom. I’m 36 years old, married to DMike for 6 years (together for 9), no kids. We’ve dabbled in D/s for about 2 years now, mostly in the bedroom, but both want to take things to a new level of intimacy and respect. I’m hoping to learn from the more experienced subbies on this site.
- December 18, 2016 at 5:21 pm #24747LittleBearParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone. I’m 29 (soon to be anyway) years old. My Dom is Nednil on husDom and we’ve been together for 10 years and married for 2 and have 2 young children. This lifestyle has been long a time coming for us and we’ve been officially D/s for a few months now with some ups and downs with it. We’re happy to find a place that suits the dynamics of the married lifestyle to help each of us learn! Looking forward to meeting everyone!
- December 18, 2016 at 7:58 pm #24748LadyKParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m LadyK, I’m 29, I have been with Hubby (The Chad on husDom) for 7 years. We hare engaged but not likely to actually get married any time soon. We have a toddler at home. We are about a week into our new adventure, hoping to do formal acceptance for Christmas but our progress is slow so I’m not positive we will be ready. We both are so happy with this new dynamic and it has already done a lot for our communication. We are excited for this new adventure, and I’m so excited to have found such a great place to learn 🙂
- December 20, 2016 at 2:48 pm #24758Southerngrl54ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everyone! I’m 31, been with hubby for 10 years, married for 9. We have 4 kids. We talked about moving towards this lifestyle a couple years ago but life got in the way. We never made it a priority. We finally sat down and had a real talk about fully committing. We are taking it slow. Figuring our what works for us and our crazy life!
- December 20, 2016 at 5:16 pm #24759RRsubParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone. My Sir found husdom last night and then I found this site this morning and was so excited! I’ve been looking for exactly this type of place! I’m 39, mom to three boys. Sir and I are only about 6 months into the D/s relationship, mostly in the bedroom but wanting to expand it into a lifestyle. Thanks for having me.
- December 30, 2016 at 11:09 pm #24821shellabellParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello everyone! I am new to subMrs. I am very happy to have found a bdsm site for married couples. I’m amazed that many of you are in the same age group as I am.
I am a 46 year old wife of 23 years & mother of 3. My Master & I have been exploring bdsm for about 3 months. We started to explore our kink after attending The Everything to do with Sex Show. I am absolutely loving the passion and intensity of our scenes – I have never been so consumed by sex in my life! It’s an exciting new hobby!
Nice to see other like minded people here.
- January 5, 2017 at 4:15 pm #24862OpalParticipant
Hello, I go by Lovedoll or Opal. Im 48, living full time with my Master for about 7 months. I am new to this live style but enjoying every minute. We have met lots of wonderful people and learn many things. My Master talk a lot about everything, we have so much respect for each other. I have 3 children, ages are 24,22,and 21. 2 of them still live at home, so we try to be careful when we have our playtime. We have a wonderful start but I want to learn from others.
- January 5, 2017 at 5:57 pm #24863RRsubParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi Opal. Welcome. 🙂
- January 18, 2017 at 9:00 pm #24949REIGNSdropParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi my name is Love Drop and my husband is Mr. Reign. We have been married for 10 years and together for 12.5 years. We are both currently 49 and very interesting in incorporating this lifestyle into our marriage. I would consider myself to be a natural born sub. Pleasing others makes me the most happiest and pleasing my Sir is my joy. It turns me on to do things for him. We are very new and need a lot of direction. Our first hurdle is the fact I am attending school about 6 hours away and we don’t see each other and won’t until I am finished in April. So I am doing research and informing and teaching my Sir and myself in preparation when we reunite. That day can’t come soon enough for me as being away from him drives me crazy and it almost kills me as I am not there to do for him.
- January 18, 2017 at 10:28 pm #24950PumpkinParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone! I’m Mr. Wolfgang’s Pumpkin. 27 year old disabled veteran, and mother to a 4 yr old. Mr. Wolfgang and I have been married for almost 2 yrs and just now starting our journey to a 24/7 D/s lifestyle. I’m currently going to school for my BA and enjoying every minute of it.
- February 25, 2017 at 8:31 pm #25182MrsTNvetParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m TNvet’s subMrs. I am 27. We were high school sweethearts and have now been married 8 1/2 years. We have been doing D/s off and on for 3 years and are in a much better place now that we have been taking it more slowly, communicating better, and realizing we have a natural D/s dynamic in our relationship. We have 2 kids (8 y.o. and 4 y.o.) who do numerous extra-curricular activities. Sir is gone a lot due to his job and I work long shifts and weekend shifts so when we are together and alone, I do my best to be the sweet, sassy, slutty submissive he loves.
Any tips on how to stay in the submissive mindset and to please Sir from a distance (text/email/video/pictures, etc ANYTHING!) would be greatly appreciated!
- March 2, 2017 at 5:28 pm #25199
Hello, my name is Staci. I have been married for 5 years to a wonderful alpha male. I am 44 and it has taken me this long to figure out that I am a submissive. I was reading some BDSM fiction and it was like a lightbulb came on that this is who I have always been, and it caused me to reflect on my choices and behaviors. My husband has always been very protective and possessive of me, and naturally takes the lead, but he had not labeled himself as a Dom until I shared some of my new revelations with him. Doing so unleashed something in him and gave him permission to embrace that side of himself rather than dialing it back to what society tells us is respectful.
We are entirely monogamous, and my very limited knowledge about the lifestyle community leads me to believe that most of the BDSM clubs and conventions are geared towards people looking for additional partners (which doesn’t interest us at all). I am not sure what this will evolve into for us, but I am happy to be here.
- March 9, 2017 at 10:44 am #25339Quinnz.ShowParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone…. My name is Quinn. I am 29 years old between myself and my Mister we have 8 kids. My Mister and I have been together for 2 years and are just stepping into the world of d/s. We have always done scene and now would like to venture into the 24/7 lifestyle. So excited to have found a welcoming community to speak freely and ask questions…
- April 8, 2017 at 11:41 pm #26737boneriderParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hey y’all! I am Bonerider, and I am a new here on the site. I am 25, married to Bonedriver on HusDom for 5 years, together 7 total. It’s currently just us and our one furbaby. I talked to my Mister about interest in the lifestyle and he’s DEFINITELY on board, but up to this point, we haven’t crossed into anything formal. It’s hard to know where to start! I’ve read the blogs about Formal Acceptance and the kneeling ceremony. Can’t wait to dig deeper into it all on subMrs.Thanks for your friendly welcomes.
- April 19, 2017 at 3:37 pm #26840SidecutParticipantRegistered subMrs™
My husband and I have been married two years, been together for 16 years. There has always been a BDSM bedroom play since the beginning. Over the years we have talked about master/slave dynamic and taking it more then just the walls of our home(Bedroom play). I was not sure if that was what I wanted or what it entailed. Since then we had joked about somethings here and there. We openly hid our Dominate and Submissive vows to each other, in our wedding vows. It was a very humbling for me. I am a natural submissive and tend to all of my Husbands needs. Just a few months back I had a realization that I shared with my now Sidecuts Sir. That looking back about 15 years ago and realizing what I wanted and needed was a dominate man now dominate husband. Ever since having the conversation which sparked our decision on trying this new lifestyle everything has been great. Sidecut’s Sir found this HusDom/SubMrs website I am glad he did. It has helped us and we are learning lots. Things are amazing this D/S lifestyle has helped me/us in so many ways. I am looking forward to learning and being the best Submissive I can for my Sir. Please share some experience.
- June 2, 2017 at 6:06 pm #27266JezzParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m new here. I’m 37 and currently together with the sweetest man for 2 years. Between us we have 5 kids. Unfortunately we aren’t living in the same country at the moment which makes everything a bit more difficult. Hopefully that will change in the foreseeable future. I am happy I found this place.
We have started ttwd about 6 months ago and we are taking things step by step in a slow pace, the fact that we live on separate continents is a factor in that too ofcourse.
We have always had a dynamic which made me the submissive and him the dominant and some things come natural because of that and the rest? Well we learn, discuss, try, evaluate and have fun.
It is awesome to have found a lot of like minded people. Hope to get to know you all and learn a lot here.
- June 8, 2017 at 7:49 pm #27312kmeyerParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m new here! Holy cow, where to start? I’m 41. My Sir and I have been together for 13 years, married for 3. We have 3 and a half kids (we fostered an older for a few years, but we still consider her ours). I used to be a Domme 20 years ago when I was young, however, before I met my husband I had stopped. I always believed that just by nature I was a Domme due to being an Alpha most of my life. And then I met my husband. Holy hell that changed things. It took me about 10 years to get the courage to tell him what I wanted, and I don’t think he actually believed me at first. We’ve progressed, always up for learning. I wanted to join here for guidance, and it does look like there is quite a bit to be learned on here!
- June 10, 2017 at 12:52 pm #27329subMarie/SirEdParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello y’all. I am SubMarie. A few weeks ago I was doing some research on-line and came across subMrs. I was stunned at the similarities as I read the story of Mr. Fox and LK and many of the members. I found my people! I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 21 years. He is registered as DomJ618. (He is on husDom) We are in our early 40’s. Our children are almost out of the house (ages 17/20). (EXCITING!) We look like your typical suburban couple. We both work outside of the home as professionals which can make being a sub a little more challenging!
Throughout the years we have enjoyed varied levels of kink and BDSM. I have always been submissive in the bedroom with my husband always being the dominant. In fact, I read the Fifty Shades of Grey series and thought our bedroom was similar. At the time, I did laugh at the kneeling.
We are not sure how or when it happened but over time the kink left the bedroom and our communication just stopped. Even the vanilla sex had no flavor. We were acting more like roommates. I was even at the point of thinking through a future that did not include my husband. One evening a few months ago I finally hit a breaking point. I’m glad it happened because it forced us to talk and say exactly what we were feeling. There were some underlying health issues that we simply needed to work together instead of facing them alone. Our kinky, BDSM was back!
I recently started to notice the benefits of the D/s relationship in the bedroom. I noticed how much my Sir loved being in control and how much less stressed I am when I transfer my power. I realized that I really do love to serve him. After doing some research specifically on married couples, I approached him about trying D/s-M 24×7. When we commit to something, we commit! It has only been three weeks but the result has been nothing short of amazing. We have slowly been adding rules and rituals to include kneeling. (You know, the thing I laughed at a few years ago.) Honestly, I did not realize how much we needed this. This is a lifestyle.
I realize this is lengthy so I will close. I am looking forward to growing as a 24/7 sub to serve my Sir. This site and support group is going provide me a wealth of information. Who knows, we may be able to attend the next Warren Gathering!
(I apologize if this is a duplicate post. I attempted to edit the original and it may have disappeared.)
- June 11, 2017 at 10:41 pm #27343Shey17ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi all, I’m 46 and my Sir and I have been married for 22 hears. My Sir is on HusDom but I don’t know his user name. We’ve been mingling in D/s-M for a year or so but just a month or so 24×7. We have 3 children, 2 grown and married and a 16 year old senior in high school, my mom also lives with us, which complicates this lifestyle. I’m a very controlling and OCD person and its great to let him have control, but its also a struggle. I have a lot to learn Nd I’m still getting into trouble quite a bit, but I’m trying and loving the lifestyle.
- June 20, 2017 at 1:26 pm #27376Yozakura/GrizzledYetiParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hey all! I’m Yozakura (formerly known as Mrs. Hickory-long story). I’ve been on Submrs a few months and only just found this group. I’m still working through this website and trying to gain all that I can from the knowledge shared by fellow subbies. My Sir is Grizzled Yeti on HusDom. We have been together almost 17 years, married 14 years. We have 4 beautiful children on our cute little poultry farm in the middle of nowhere near the Canadian boarder. We have always “attempted” a D/s type relationship for religious reasons, but it never worked. The Bible studies on submission are far too vague and there’s little to no actual instructions for either the husbands or wives. For 14 years I carried a lot of resentment in my heart towards both my husband and God for putting me into a position where I felt like I could never win. I have gotten more information and support on how to be a submissive wife and how to be truly fulfilled by it in the last few months on Submrs than I have from over a decade of religious studies. Sir and I have had great success in taking what we have learned on HusDom and Submrs and applying it to our spiritual lives. I am so thankful to everyone here. I no longer feel like a constant letdown to my husband and to God. Believe it or not, the subport I have received on Submrs has undone 18 years worth of psychological damage that was inadvertently caused by the church. You can’t raise kids in the church and constantly beat them over the head with the idea of sex being “gross” or “dirty” or “wrong” and thensuddenly on their wedding night expect them to switch gears and suddenly desire sex with their spouses. It’s a wound that drove deeper and deeper as time went on in our marriage. The friendships I have made in this community have shown me that I don’t need to resent God or my husband for the life I was given. You ladies have shown me how powerful and beautiful submission can be. You’ve shown me that it’s not “gross” of me to want to enjoy God’s wedding present to us that we call “sex”. You have shown me that even though the world of kink is viewed as “taboo” it actually follows the Biblical ideals for marriage (assuming that your particular type of kink is monogamous(…only difference is that you ladies actually say HOW to make this happen. Sir and I have never been happier. We have worked through so many problems and healed so many wounds and I owe it all to LK and her amazing community. Thanks for setting this up to be a judgment free zone where I can share my past negative experiences with misguided submission and set things right. Thank you from the bottom of mine and my Sir’s hearts!
- September 25, 2017 at 10:56 am #28211Bliss aka Mr. Grant’s muffinParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Great post Yozakura! It is amazing how so many of us have very similar stories and we have been lucky enough to find this place that helps us get “un-stuck” from the things that were instilled in us. I had a very similar experience to your’s except it wasn’t the church that did it, it was my Mom. I loved my Mom dearly and she only did what she was taught so I don’t blame her at all. I just had to spend the majority of my life feeling guilty about having sex with my patient and ever so loving husband! Since we have found D/s those feelings are getting buried deeper and deeper. I don’t think you can actually remove learned things but you can cover them up with other teachings. My Sir knows this and can now snap me out of it, if need be. I am thankful that he was so patient with me all those years of trying to give me pleasure, but me not feeling worthy to accept it and then him not feeling worthy at being a good lover. What a vicious cycle that kind of dysfunctional teachings of sex it is!
We have found that this is definitely more in line with our Biblical foundation. We don’t fight over control any longer and he is for sure our families Spiritual leader and I have no issues any longer of giving him the control for familial decisions.
Welcome to the site!
- June 20, 2017 at 2:54 pm #27377
That was a beautiful post, Yozakura! I wholeheartedly agree. My submission is not in conflict with my faith. I’m so glad you are here.
- June 25, 2017 at 6:07 pm #27423AnyaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi, I’m Anya, 27 from London. I’m new to the community in a sense, as in I’ve never had a D/s relationship, but I’ve been craving it for years. My circumstances doesn’t allow for me to get out there as such and I just needed to find a place not so intimidating where I can get to know more and be myself. Hopefully this is that place.
I look forward to getting to know you all.
- June 29, 2017 at 12:13 am #27433SansaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi Everyone. I’m Sansa, 43 and live in San Francisco. My Sir is Ziggy on Husdom and we’ll be married 10 years in September, but have known each other almost 20 years. (We dated for two years, broke up for six years, but stayed best friends, then rekindled and got married after 6 months.) We have two children ages 9 and 7. We dabbled in light BDSM in our 20’s, but broke up before things really got going. When we got married we had kids right away, so my interest in this world had to be put on hold for awhile. Sir and I had been going through a very challenging time in our marriage these past couple years, and I wasn’t sure we’d even last. D/s has honestly saved our marriage. After years together, I was finally able to open up about my interest in BDSM and he was open to it again. The more I read and researched, I realized I am a true submissive and wanted to be in a 24/7 D-s relationship. It’s what I’ve always craved but didn’t even realize it or think “normal people” could have that type of relationship. Anyway, we’ve only embarked on this adventure for 2 months now, but it’s been amazing so far. We’ve probably had more sex in the past 2 months than we did all of the last two years combined. 🙂 My biggest challenge is that My Sir doesn’t want to move as fast as I do. I feel like I’ve finally found “my people” in the D/s world and the kind of relationship I’ve always wanted, so I was ready to dive in head first. Sir wants to move slow and “let things happen organically” which is a bit frustrating since I know exactly what I want (D/s-M), but we’ve come to a pretty good compromise so far and our relationship has never been stronger or sexier. Because we live in San Francisco we’re very lucky to have a thriving kink community here and lots of resources, but I haven’t found anything that focuses on married D/s relationships, so I’m thrilled to find this community on Submrs. Looking forward to learning from all of you!
p.s. I’ve convinced Sir to take a class with me tomorrow night here in the city called “Bedroom Kink for Beginners” and it’s taught by a locally famous Dom and his sub partner of 20 years named Stefano and Shaye. Should be interesting and I hope to learn a lot!:-)
- July 1, 2017 at 1:02 am #27443stormyfeathersParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am stormy, an artist and a medical researcher/professor and I have just turned 50, married 30 years–hopefully soon-to-be subMrs to Doc, age 64.. an incredibly sexy, strong, super smart scientist and geek (hopefully, Human development psychologists do will do demographic and psych studies on all of us, with the open-information we post, to help open doors for future generations). Anyway, it took me 10 years into our marriage, due to severe medical issues with our daughter and living under “survival mode” for 15 years of our marriage, to tell him about my needs.
It was and is difficult to get him to understand my 24/7 sub needs, except for the kinky sex of course. Many years went by until our children were grown and I felt I could push harder. Two years ago I ramped up my efforts, the internet is so helpful. I started by sending him photos and gifs. from BDSM and Spanking blogs, while I was out of town, and he responded in the sweetest way..he ran out to a sporting goods store and bought a ping pong paddle, and then to a tack store and bought a crop. About the minute I walked back into the house, he practically dragged me by the hair to the bedroom and paddled me till I was stinging and dripping..I made him wait on the crop (was a little scared, but now its one of my favorites besides the lexan paddle, ha). I cried a few days later when I told him it was the best present he had ever bought me because the enthusiasm and the desire to give me what I wanted overrode his fear of hurting me, and that was very encouraging.
Since then the sex has been the best in our lives, and my newly boosted happiness and confidence changed so many aspects of our marriage and our personal growth that I wish I had told him sooner. Now I want him to become more dominant outside of the bedroom. I am very submissive, and very, very, very masochistic/sensation junkie (past events conditioned me as a young child, a future post) and it is a complete turn-on and such a strong need that I get “squirrely”(anxious) if I don’t receive boundaries, instructions, clear expectations, and pain on a regular basis..I actually can’t orgasm unless there is an element of pain, even slight. I thought I was seriously screwed up in the head until I studied some research on “Spanko’s and BDSM players” and then happened on a Fet-Life recommendation to check out subMrs and HusDom since I am in a happy monogamous marriage and don’t like pain unless it comes from my trusted and loving Doc. Ive been stalking this site for a while, and I am astounded at the sensitivity by all the members here..I literally cried the first few days of reading the “available” posts, it was such a relief to see very taboo, sensitive, sometimes scary issues treated with intelligence, respect, open-mindedness, and great care. Its an even greater relief not to be stalked by PREDATORS posing as DOM’s when you are just asking questions, or to be treated with contempt or hostility by immature voyeurs. Your posts have already relaxed me, I’m not worried about the “how-to’s” anymore, I’m not afraid to ask questions, and I really hope Doc will get into the HusDom site and grow into a satisfied dominant..though he is such a sensitive, respectful man, who was physically abused as a child, and who witnessed the severe abuse of his mother, that it is going to be hard for him to get over his “kid-glove” approach to our marriage…he is enjoying the benefits though.
Demonstrating MORE submissive behavior than I subtly show already, asking for a respectful ritual such as kneeling, and encouraging him to read and get advice from MALE Dominants rather than from me was great advice I learned here on my first viewing, Thanx.
I will be asking lots of questions and advice, and I hope to contribute my experience, but I can’t thank you enough for this forum. I know it takes a lot of time and energy to share and help others here, but it is truly valued!
- July 17, 2017 at 12:49 pm #27527Manderin4783ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello everyone. I have been plugging around the site for a few weeks now and finally have the courage to introduce myself.
I am an Insurance professional in management (I make a lot of decisions and have a lot of control at work). I have been married to my Sir for 14 years. We have two children (14, 10). I just recently started discussing my desires with him. A lot of which I think stems from the amount of responsibility and control I have at work. I want to surrender all of my home/marriage/wife stress and trust that he will lead me. He seems open to the discussion, but I am worried he isn’t truly Dominant. We have enjoyed talking about different sexual things and about my desires to submit. He has started a few rules, but I am overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. I have read the blog from start to finish (thank you LK for sharing), but still find I need some direction. Any assistance is appreciated. 🙂
- July 18, 2017 at 9:49 am #27546Anonymous
Hello, I am 32 years old been with my sir husband for over twelve years. We have four kids. I use to run a large company but for the past four years I have been a stay at home mom since our last two children were born. My sirhusband has always preferred that traditional type of dynamic and so do I. Our marriage has always been vanilla with lots of argument’s conflict in general we separated and divorced for three years before getting back together. For a while now things have been back to that struggle between the both of us. I have always been a difficult one to express my self. After a long while now of hearing him say what is wrong with you I can’t help you if I don’t know why you are so miserable, I went to him a few weeks ago and expressed my needs wants and desires as best I could. That I wanted him to become my dom. I keep trying to get him to husdom.com but practing some patients. Guiding him isn’t easy I have always just sat back and went along with what ever he wanted.
- July 19, 2017 at 5:06 pm #27560Sweetgirl1974ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m 42 married to my Sir for 18 years who is on HusDom and new to this. It’s been about 4 weeks since I told him I wanted him to take command and he has embraced it with a firmness I didn’t know he had and I love it. We’re talking and loving more than we have in a while or maybe ever and I am glad to have found a forum for me to ask questions of other married subs.
So – nice to meet you all! ?
- July 19, 2017 at 10:55 pm #27562juloli77ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello all. I’m 39 years old and have been with my husband since I was 17. We have 4 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I’m a Nurse and he’s a retired contractor who has an eBay business. I asked him to join me into this journey after discovering it in a romance novel (not 50 shades), one that actually educated me on the lifestyle and consent and contracts. He jumped right in with his entire being and we quickly realized that we have been very much a D/s-M couple since the beginning and didn’t know it! Part of my tasks are now to get all the information I can and report back to him. I also thought it was important to find some like minded people as my 2 friends don’t really want to hear about my adventures too much.
- July 24, 2017 at 10:12 am #27615sMrsBParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi! I am 53 years old and Sir is 54. We blended our families 7+ years ago. I have 2 children – a 24 year old working in Corporate America and a 21 year old senior in college. Sir has 2 kids, 15 and 13 who live with us 50% of the time. We love each other very much however we have experienced a roller coaster of ups and downs with one common thread – arguing for situational control. After much research and soul searching I realize the D/s-M dynamic is what we need. I spent many years as a single mom and climbing the corporate ladder – always in charge and always on point. It is time for me to ‘let go’ and allow the man I love to take the reins. I asked for FA on Saturday and he said ‘YES’. We still have a lot of work to do BUT our journey began July 22!
- August 1, 2017 at 11:14 am #27655DelicateSnowParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m DelicateSnow, reintroducing myself after beginning away for sometime. 37 years old with two children, married for 8 years & have been exploring d/s for around 3 years.
Nice to be back 😇
- August 4, 2017 at 7:21 pm #27677HisMarieParticipantRegistered subMrs™
The basics…I am 47, and we’ve been together 7 years. Between us, we have 5 5 kids, aged 26 to 12. We started out in a vvanilla and long distance relationship. We’ve lived together 5 years now. The vanilla was ok. But I got frustrated one day, and felt something was missing. I was too scared to tell him…and didn’t know what it was I wanted to say. I wrote him a letter, in which I basically said…please stop treating me like a delicate China doll that might break. We started to incorporate some bedroom things. It was awesome! And I was totally greedy. He still couldn’t seem to take it up to the level I wanted, but it was good. Then he was on a trip that got delayed. He was stuck in LaGuardia for 28 hours. We were texting the whole time…and he was in total frustrated beast mode when he got home…fast forward, and he’s apologizing for how rough he was and I was sitting there telling him it was absolutely hands down the best I ever had…and if I had to, I’d send him back to the airport if it meant I’d get it again. So we turned another corner….in the last two weeks, we’ve realized we are ready for even more. This time, I am away from home. We’ve talked at length, worked on details, and when I return home, I will be ready to kneel for FA…with both of us ready to start this new chapter together.
- August 4, 2017 at 11:49 pm #27679
How awesome is that!
Welcome to the rabbit hole (aka the Warren)!
- August 5, 2017 at 2:47 pm #27681Mystery_womanParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Good evening everyone!
I’m theoneyouwishyouknew, age 33, I’m married with a 3 year old child and I live in rural England. I told my hubby about my submissive tendencies about 5 months ago now (after 10 years together, better late than never!). He is your stereotypical ‘nice guy’ in every way, but he wants to try it out, at a slow pace. We have also been going slowly with it because of circumstances (living with my fairly young father-in-law who never sleeps or goes out, and hubby works away a lot).
A few weeks ago when we did actually have the whole house to ourselves, we got a bit tipsy and ended up getting out every toy we owned and having a very naughty play session in the living room.
After that, hubby said he felt more connected to me than he has in ages, and I knew I couldn’t go back to how we used to be. We still have a house full of random family staying with us, so zero privacy at the moment…. so we’re forced to take things slow, but its okay because I’m hoping to use the time on here to get lots of ideas! And maybe make some platonic but open minded female friends too 🙂
Looking forward to sharing ideas with you all
- August 7, 2017 at 11:36 am #27683
Welcome! Come join us in the chat room when you’re comfortable!
- August 8, 2017 at 4:31 am #27691mrs_michelleParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m 37, married for 12 years, together 17. We have one teenage daughter. We’ve been exploring d/s for a few months now. My husband found HusDom and I think we’ve found our niche here. Hubby is MrBomber on HusDom. I’m looking forward to learning more x
- August 8, 2017 at 12:36 pm #27693texas3sumParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am not sure what to say about myself. My husdom and I are very new to the lifestyle and are unbelievably happy to have found such a wonderful place to make new friends. I feel alone on this journey as I cant share this with my friends or my family. This lifestyle has us both feeling like when we were dating. We are excited to try new things and grow together.
We are in our late 40’s and have two older children in college.
We live in the near Houston Texas.
Thanks so much for making a place like this.
Cant wait to me others like me.
- August 8, 2017 at 1:28 pm #27694
Welcome to submrs! You are not alone, we are here for you! Come on into the Warren Chat room when you are ready!
- August 8, 2017 at 7:10 pm #27702Daddys bbg/ReuleParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Daddy’s bbg (beautiful baby girl). He nicknamed me that from the very beginning. I’m 36 and have 3 girls. 2 from a previous marriage and my little one is with my Sir. We have been together for 2 1/2 years. I introduced him to D/s a year ago. He’s now ready to jump in with me and it is amazing!!!! He loves TTWD 😊💕 I’m loving this site bc it is real for real people. Thank you for this wonderful community of committed couples making this dynamic shine with all its beauty.
- September 12, 2017 at 1:10 pm #28091Prix/Mister BarberParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Welcome! We love new friends and subport members. I am Prix (Pree), married to Mister Barber for 12 years and D/s-M for almost 2. We have two beautiful boys and live near the WI border. I am 30 and try to get on as often as I can, but am doing clinicals and finishing my grad degree this quarter. Feel free to PM any of us. We are all very supportive.
- August 9, 2017 at 12:24 pm #27710
Welcum to the site Daddy’s bbg. We are all real people dealing with all the everyday things while trying our best to do D/s-m. When you get a chance come on over to the warren chat and join us in a conversation.
- August 9, 2017 at 5:22 pm #27721mntjulpParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am new to everything. Older at 46. My Sir likes to be called Master in our room and My Love anywhere public so that’s what I call him here and everywhere else. He wanted something we could use out in public that wasn’t obvious but he didn’t want me using his name. We have really been enjoying each other again and all the things I have read in the blog and from different people have been really helpful.
- August 9, 2017 at 5:27 pm #27722
That’s wonderful and welcome!
- August 10, 2017 at 4:22 am #27732SageParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, I’m 39, been with my husband for 21 years, married for nearly 19. we have three kids, 18,15, and 12. I am so very new to this whole thing. I was given the information about this thru a very amazing friend who is on here. I have sorta brought up the idea of D/s to my husband, but he knows how hard headed I am and doesn’t think I would ever be a sub to him. I am a control freak and so this will be a struggle for me. To be brutally honest we have struggled for years to stay married. I love him dearly and would do anything to bring a sense of refreshens to our marriage, hoping this helps. I am ready for the change and ready to do what it takes to be an amazing sub (slowly of course). I may “lurk” for a while till I get a better feel of how to get him to say yes!
- August 10, 2017 at 7:48 am #27733
Welcome!!! I’m sure once you get to know the other subs on here, you will find a lot of strong-willed women with whom you have lots in common. 🙂
Come join us in The Warren Chat.
- August 10, 2017 at 2:57 pm #27736
Sage I think a lot of us can relate to your “control freak” issues. Working on yourself first to get in the subbie mindset is a good idea. Join us in the Warren chat when you feel comfortable.
- August 11, 2017 at 10:51 am #27749Claimed kittenParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi I am Heather aka Claimed kitten. My Sir is master wolf on Husdom. We are not married but both divorced and know that we will eventfully get married. We have been together a year and each knew in the previous relationships that we were D/s just could not peruse our roles. We have been toying with D/s since we meet but truly accecpted our roles about two weeks ago. We have four kids, 3 mine, 1 his, and are very excited to be on this journey together.
- August 12, 2017 at 7:31 am #27750
Welcum CK! This is a great p;ace to learn about D/s-m. Enjoy the journey.
- August 12, 2017 at 11:58 am #27752subbellaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi. I’m Bella.
Vanilla life: my husband and I have been together for 9 years and have 2 kids. He’s in the military and I work as a receptionist (but have also been in the military and worked as an EMT, a personal trainer, and a writer).
We’ve dabbled into BDSM since we first got together because I’ve always been into certain kinks. But recently, we’ve started to REALLY dive into the D/s lifestyle. I think this is what I’ve always craved and had a deep yearning for, so the transition isn’t as difficult for me. But I think it’s harder on him because I do have a trauma history and he, being the amazingly, wonderful, loving man he is, I think is worried about pushing me too far.
I’m glad I found this page though and I look forward to hearing for others and getting advice and guidance on how to be the best sub for my wonderful hus Dom.
- August 13, 2017 at 10:13 am #27760lillysubwifeParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi I’m lillysubwife
I’m relatively new to this LS.
We’ve been married for nearly 8 years with 2 young kids, but recent events have led us down this path of discovery of our kinks and what we enjoy.
Due to the issues that lead us to this honesty of who we are and what we desire I sometimes lose my submissiveness, it’s something we are working on.
I truely look forward to learning and hearing from everyone here and learning how to let go of the past and embrace the future with my husDom
- August 23, 2017 at 10:54 pm #27924Anonymous
I am KittenAnn, 26, living in WA. married to my Sir, Frog King, just over a year, together a total of 5 years. We have no kids yet, only two fur babies. While we’ve always had somewhat of a D/s dynamic in the bedroom, we’ve been exploring this as a lifestyle the past week or so, and are excited to learn and experience more.
- August 25, 2017 at 6:05 pm #27945amazonpixieParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am amazonpixie, although that name is self-given, not by my Sir. I am 48 years old, and my Sir and I have been married for twenty-five years. We have only recently started our journey, mostly due to religious repression on my part. We have two amazing children, 15 and 8, which can make D/s a little challenging, like others have mentioned. Up until about six months ago, our dynamic in the bedroom was absolutely vanilla, so this has been a huge change for us. My Sir is on husDom, and I am so grateful to have both sites to help us navigate.
- August 27, 2017 at 4:03 pm #27951Lilla F/Mr.AParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am Mrs.A. Happily married to my Sir (MrA on husDOM). We have been together since 2003 and married since 2009, we have two young daughters.
We got started December last year when I finally shared my cravings and asked him to dominate me. We are keeping it mostly to bedroom play for the moment and we are slowly learning more about ourselves and finding our way together. What I have read here so far has already helped us on our path.
- August 29, 2017 at 2:21 pm #27967beccaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m Rebecca…becca is what most ppl call me. Me and my husband have been talking about D/s for a few months now and have been trying to read about it. I am glad I found this site…there is so much info here that I haven’t found on other sites. I like that it is about being married and how to make it work in our marriage. I am shy about talking to ppl I don’t know but I hope to learn and make some friends that I can talk to. every one I have talked to is very nice and helpful. I’m still making reading the blogs…theres so much!
- September 2, 2017 at 11:42 pm #28006AdriannaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m a married 46 year old sub of 24 years/26 years together. My Sir is Julian on HusDom.
we have only been in this lifestyle since May, lath obvious signs early on (when we look back). Outside the house I’m full dominant in a high paced world, but at home or around my Sir, I prefer to attend to his needs. Odd no?
We are exploring this journey together, finding our way as we go.
Hope to get to know some people and learn as we go.
- September 11, 2017 at 9:02 pm #28072MrsShnorkendoodleParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am a married mother of 3. My Sir is Mr Shnorkendoodle(inside joke) on husDom. I realized fairly young that I liked to be dominated sexually but fought it for years thinking it was wrong. My Sir has opened up a new me, and together we are exploring this new sexual freedom. We knew it was for us not long after trying it. Been using submission in the bedroom for 4 years. But we just recently signed a contract to make it official and are now exploring what our commitment looks like in everyday life.
I can’t wait to meet all of you!
- September 12, 2017 at 12:42 pm #28090
Welcome to the site MrsShnorkendoodle. Make sure and join us is the Daily chat when you can. If you look at the top of the page there is a pull down menu titled Where to Begin. There is some great reading there as well as all of LK’s blogs.
- September 14, 2017 at 1:19 pm #28129Kleine/KönigParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hi All! Being a new subbie is hard but finding this place has made things much clearer for me. My Sir is new as well and very excited about our journey together. We have been married for 5 years and have a beautiful little girl together. We started our journey into the D/s-M dynamic in June….. and I am a runner. 🙂 Finding subMrs has helped me find the patience to slow down and enjoy each phase for what they are. Born an Aries I am a natural leader very outspoken and go at things with a ferocity most don’t. So when deciding to start this journey I knew it was going to be a challenge.
A little about how I found my desire for submission. A piece of me of course always knew. I always dreamt of a husband that would take care of me and dote on me all the time. I always wanted a career so not totally 50s house wife but pretty much everything else was what I invizioned the perfect man. I model this after my grandfather he was awesome! My parents did not have this type of relationship, my mother carried all of the stress of our family and that was the last thing I wanted for myself. My marriage is the one place I have never WANTED to lead. And in college where everyone finds theirselves I found my sexual appetite for rough sex and domination. I have had a hard time talking to my husband about our sex life. He would get upset at just the thought of someone else being with me. So that has a bit of a hurdle in our sex life. He has had to learn to put aside his jealousy and insecurities about my past because it’s the past, all that matters to me now is him. Actually it’s kinda how we started. I love adventure and new things so naturally after 5 years of the same thing I was getting bored and decided I had to confront him for the sake of our marriage. He understood and agreed to start trying new things and once we started doing things I had never done before he began to be much more comfortable in his own skin. Now that he was more comfortable I started reading trying to find exactly what it was I was l👀king for. It didn’t take long for me to find BDSM. Once I presented it to my Sir he loved and we began our D/s-M dynamic.
I love this site so much. Keep all of this bottled up could drive someone crazy. It’s so nice to be able to share and learn from others!
- September 27, 2017 at 7:46 pm #28245Hot Doll/MasterChiefParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hi. I’m Hot Doll. I’ve been married for 36 years to Master Chief on HusDom. Three grown children with 6 grandchildren. Empty nesters. We are new to the D/s lifestyle. Although, we have played around in the bedroom only off and on. We are monogamous. We have run into some rough times within the last year when I realized I wasn’t giving him what he wanted or needed and he had an affair. I guess I can say Vanilla life got in the way of our intimacy. He stopped the affair as soon as I found out, but there was damage that was done. That made us talk about what he was looking for and what he wanted. And I realized as we talked, I also wanted some of those same things. So here we are. We are both enjoying learning and reading about how to make our D/s the best it can be. Looking forward to learning more and finding out what our new dynamic is and where our dynamic is going.
- October 2, 2017 at 7:12 am #28292Bea/SpankyParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hi, I’m 49, and have been married to my sir 25 years, we have 4 children, 2 still at home and a grandchild. We have just begun our journey into the possibilities a D/s relationship could have for us. I have fought the desires to be submissive since being mildly introduced to it as a teenager. I thought my sir would think I was nuts…I fully regret now not being more open about that part of my past, we could have been so much better with each other sooner! I have sent him the link to Husdom and he has begun to build himself as my Sir. But we are both totally new at this as it has never crossed our minds as a couple, well his at least. We are starting the journey slow in the bedroom, and I am working on encouraging him to be confident and allow me to fully submit to his desires. I feel he is still testing the waters to see how I react…I need lots of practice.
- October 2, 2017 at 10:50 am #28294
Bea, Welcum to the site! This is an amazing place to help you on your amazing journey. Life is full of regrets but it is important to keep looking forward and don’t let the past stall your journey. It is important to lay everything out on the table, past hurts, regrets…all the junk you carry around with you so that you can start fresh from here.
- October 3, 2017 at 10:48 pm #28309freeandopenParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi I’m 47, and my Ma’am is not on HusDOM yet. We have been married almost ten years, have an amazing 2.5 year old son, and are actively trying to have more children. I have wanted to submit to my Wife since we were dating, but never got up the courage until it became obvious to me that holding back this core aspect of my sexuality and romantic affect had been causing a real problem in our emotional and sexual connection. My “coming out” to my Wife has really set me free to express the depth of my love for her, and her acceptance of me in this has been the very first time in my life I have felt truly accepted for who I am. Our intimacy has blossomed over the past two months in ways I did not dare to hope. I’m glad to have found this community, because it doesn’t feel safe to talk to anyone else about all these feelings, and I don’t want to overwhelm my Ma’am. She’s being so good to me, as She struggles to figure out how to engage this strange but admittedly delightful shift in our dynamic.
- October 4, 2017 at 7:08 am #28310Anonymous
Welcome Freeandopen. Nice to see another submissive husband here. I hope you’ll find the group here as helpful and welcoming as I have. We’ve been married 20 years and D/s for about 10. My Ma’am just recently joined HusDOM and is starting to explore a little further. Perhaps we’ll run into each other in chat one day soon.
- October 4, 2017 at 12:43 pm #28312
Hello! I am so glad you are here! I am also glad that you like it here…
We are here to subport all of our sub…subbies AND sub hubbies! Please let your Ma’am know about husDom…it is the other site for Doms that is run by LK’s Sir, Mr. Fox.
- October 21, 2017 at 11:49 am #28479sub16ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi I’m sub16 I’m 39 me and my ma’am been together for 16 year’s married for 14 and have three boys we are new D/s we started this journey a little over a month since we started are communication and intimacy have much improved I want to continue to grow so I can serve and please my ma’am the best way possible
- October 25, 2017 at 12:19 am #28486LoveleeParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi I’m Lovelee Sir and I have been together for 28 years however we have been on and off D/s-M for about 2 years. Yes it has been a while for us to get it together. However I know we will and I can’t to tell you when that happens.
- October 28, 2017 at 9:20 pm #28503LadyParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello everyone, I am lady. I am 32 years old and i have been with my Sir for 18 years this month. I have have been a bedroom submissive for the majority of our relationship. Over the past year we have started to take the D/s relationship out of the bedroom. I am glad that i found this site as i have been looking for a safe community to be a part of and learn. My first day here i met Katyusha, she was so nice and provided me with some advise. I have read through some of the posts , finding them very useful. I look forward to meeting everyone and learning.
- October 30, 2017 at 7:42 am #28512Anonymous
Welcome Lovelee and Lady and congratulations on finding a great, supportive community of subs walking the same path.
Feel free to say hello in the Daily chat sometime.
- October 30, 2017 at 7:20 pm #28514Mrs VParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I belong to Vinnie on Husdom and we have just started out on this exciting journey. We’ve been together 16 years, married for 6 with a 3 year old daughter and I’m currently 9 months pregnant!
Our marriage nearly ended recently for a number of reasons partly due to lack of sex and intimacy and partly due to the way we were living life and treating each other. After looking at what went wrong and how to fix we ended up here and it’s clear to see now we’ve always had sub/Dom tendencies! Changing our lifestyle will hopefully save our marriage and give us the kinky sex life and structure/respect we both desire.
Look forward to chatting with you all and learning lots about this new lifestyle.
- November 6, 2017 at 5:44 am #28531PiccolaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everyone, I am Piccola (little in Italian) I am 32, together with my Padrone for 10 years, living together for 9, we have a 1 year old and live in the UK. We always had a kinky sex life but we have been in a D/s relationship for about 2 years and a half now. Looking forward to meeting all you and exchanging experiences 🙂
- November 6, 2017 at 4:54 pm #28532
Welcome Piccola. It was very nice chatting with you. I hope you feel you have found a safe place here to explore the D/s-m lifestyle.
- November 6, 2017 at 5:01 pm #28533PiccolaParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Thank you Pearl, you are very kind. It was really nice chatting with you. I already feel at home here 🙂
- November 7, 2017 at 1:30 pm #28538
Hi everyone! I’m 26 years old. My Sir is GreyWolf on husDom. We have been together for 8 years and Married for 6 of those years come March! We have been doing the D/s-M for under a month and We are both very excited to see where this new lifestyle takes our relationship in all aspects. We have 4 children (2 of which are from his previous marriage, I still consider them mine as I have been in their life since one was 2 and the other one 6 months old). 1 boy who is 10, and 3 girls ages 8, 5 and 4.
- November 7, 2017 at 5:13 pm #28540
Welcome MrsBaker!!!! Come join us the the Daily subMrs Chat!
- November 7, 2017 at 6:32 pm #28542TheUnwrittensubParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am 27 and recently discovering my nature as a submissive, despite not having been in a D/s relationship. Happily married for 5 years, no kids, two beautiful fur babies! I am a graduate student working on a PhD in the US. I’ve been aware of my kinkier side always but through a lot of reading and soul searching I’ve accepted myself for what I am, even if my partner is not really interested in the lifestyle. I am just so happy to have found this community and I really just want to learn and connect with others who are like me. Excited to get to know myself and you all a lot better!
- November 8, 2017 at 12:28 pm #28547Darling/RedParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello! We found this site + husDom last night and have been pouring over all the blog posts ever since. I am R, my husband is A. I call him sir and mister at times, but no formal names other than our own. I love being called good girl but nothing beats hearing my given name in his voice. We are new to BDSM and I am so grateful to have found this place. Given our marriage (4 years, 11 years together) and general dynamic, other forums were sometimes informative but difficult for us to relate to. I’m not just a submissive, I’m a wife and mother first (just as he is my Dom, but a husband and father first). Not that everyone needs to subscribe to that dynamic but it is what works for us and it is difficult to find that in many BDSM communities.
We’ve had some ups and downs the past few months as we’ve explored. Life happens. As well as my control freak nature at odds with his second guessing. I keep reading about others having similar experiences at the beginning and that has made me (and him!) feel MILES better.
So excited to be here!
- November 8, 2017 at 5:07 pm #28549
So very glad you found us! There is lots to read here and if you want to interact with some other subbies cum visit us at the Daily Chat.
- November 12, 2017 at 1:04 pm #28569Bea/SpankyParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello, I am Bea, 49, married/monogamous to sir (Spanky on husDOM) 26 years this month…4 kids (27,23,18,15) 1 granddaughter (1). started exploring D/s-M in Aug, it is totally new for both of us, although I experimented with Submission before meeting my husband, I had not put a name to it. Submission seems to come fairly natural to me, Sir is developing & pulling out his inner Dom, he is an incredibly amazing Dominant man. We are taking One Day, One Moment, One Breath at a time to discover and reconnect. It is a fascinating journey of discovery.
- November 12, 2017 at 3:45 pm #28575TonysgirlParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, I’m Tonysgirl, live in Florida. We have been together for 20 years, married for 17. 6 boys between us and we are down to the last 2, 17 year olds, at home. Looking forward to being empty nesters. We are both very open communicators in our sex life and have tried different paths. I never thought of BDSM because I thought that wasn’t really our thing. I got turned onto the idea when looking for butt plug animal tails and started seeing different sites with all kinds of new information I had not known. The submissive ideas fit SO perfectly for us, it was actually really a big eye opener and life changer. I brought the idea up to him and he was completely open to it. We had our first weekend of play at the end of October. We love this so far!The past few weeks, even my mindset is different.I’m glad I found a community of like minded people.
- November 12, 2017 at 6:18 pm #28577
Welcome Tonysgirl. Make sure your Sir checks out the companion site to this one that is for Doms only, husDom.com. This an amazin journey of discovery for both of you. Enjoy!
- November 13, 2017 at 10:15 am #28582BigtParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everybody. I’m Bigt, from Canada, married to Sir (not on husDom yet – soon hopefully!)for 17yrs and together for 22. We have 2 kids, 11 and 14 and I am 43 though I don’t feel anywhere near that..;-).
I want to thank everyone on this site for being so open and for sharing so much. We have dabbled in this before and have recently committed to making it our lifestyle. I was so excited to
find this on-line community and to see others going through so many of the same emotions.
I have always been submissive by nature, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized how much I craved this type of lifestyle.
Once we started to talk about it, we realized that he is a natural dominant and had been craving this as well. I can’t begin to explain the effect he has on me when he calls me good girl, and I know that I have done something to please him.
I am so excited to make some connections on this site and to share experiences with like minded people.
- November 13, 2017 at 11:29 am #28583
Welcome to the site. There is lots to read here, LK’s blogs as well as the questions and answers in the forums. My favorite place is the daily chat. It’s a great place to “meet” the other subbies here.
- November 14, 2017 at 4:56 am #28588r4di4ntParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everybody, I’m 26. Im not married but have been in a ltr for a while. I always knew I had submissive nature in the bedroom but I finally found a partner that I trust completely to introduce D/s more formally. We have dipped our toes in D/s but we can definitely learn more. I very very recently vocalized this desire to my partner and definitely need more guidance. I’m glad i found this place where I feel like I can ask questions freely and learn a lot!
- November 18, 2017 at 1:18 pm #28593TheLovelyCarolineParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I’m Caroline and I’m 30 years old. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years; together for 9. I have always been the driver in our relationship, but I have always been the driver of my life, even as a child. Recently, I considered having an affair (I didn’t), but it made my husband and me take a look at our relationship.
I have been overly critical of him, sometimes downright hateful. I realized this was because I feel uncomfortable when I’m not in control of a situation, but I’m exhausted from being this way.I have been longing to give up my position in the drivers seat and let him take control.I felt the bedroom would be the easiest place for me to submit, and hopefully it would translate into the rest of our relationship.
He went from living with a very dominant mother, to living with a dominant wife, so he has never been in such a role before, but I believe he has a natural propensity to be a very good husDOM and our relationship would flourish with a change in dynamics.
I am a business owner that works in a male dominated field and recently being a dominant personality at work, and at home, has become tiring. I believe I am naturally submissive, but due to life circumstances I have taken on a more dominant role.
We have just started talking about changing our dynamic and entering this lifestyle, but we are still vanilla. It’s all a bit overwhelming to be honest. How does one even start? How does one know when they’re ready to start?
It seems most resources are for people in a non-monogamous relationship, except for this site, which has offered some amazing insight, so I’m glad to be here!
It’s so nice to meet you all and I look forward to learning more!
- November 18, 2017 at 3:51 pm #28594
Yes, you definitely found the right place to help you pursue married and monogamous D/s. You had asked about where to start, so here are some of my favorite foundation posts. Come join us in the Daily subMrs Chat whenever you have questions!
- November 18, 2017 at 11:22 pm #28596KittenSokoParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Greetings. I would like to introduce myself to this forum. I married my best friend nearly 12 years ago. Together, we have two wonderful children. I am an educated woman, working on my Masters Degree. I have been going to college since the age of 14. My husband and I have dabbled in Dominant/Submissive relationships before. Each time, we fell away from that relationship style for one reason or another. I do not know what I want out if this style of relationship. I always have aimed to make my husband happy and he has always put my needs above anyone or anything else. I can honestly say that he knows me as well, if not better than I know myself.
In addition, I come from a family of very strong willed women who would very strongly oppose the idea of being submissive to anyone. I feel that some of that childhood training has been strongly rooted in my brain. I am very strong willed. I do not know how to handle being submissive (which is what I would like) and overcoming my strong will to be equal, strong, independant, etc. I raise my children to be strong and independant. How do I teach my children to be strong and independant when I myself am submissive to their father?
My husband and I have discussed what it is that he would like out of this style of relationship and I feel that I would like to assist him in achieving those goals. However, when he asks me what I would like out of this style of relationship, I have no real answers. I do not know what I want? Are there things I am supposed to want? I know that I want to continue to raise my children to be smart, strong and independant. I know that I would like to make my best friend/husband happy. I would like to be happy but, I am already happy. I can see some benefits. My husband and I do not fight. We have occasional tiffs usually revolving my indecision typically over an unimportant choice, which causes stress. I feel that if he were dominant, we wouldn’t encounter scenarios in which we have tiffs over small, unimportant decisions such as what movie to see. Over the last many weeks we have been “dipping our toes” into the water, so to speak. I am just having trouble diving in completely.
Thank you in advance for any guidance.
If this was not the correct place to post these thoughts, please simply let me know which area would be best to repost it.
- November 19, 2017 at 12:37 pm #28598
I’m glad you found this community, because I’m sure once you get to know us you will find many educated, professional, strong women who find great pleasure and comfort in turning over control to their dominant husbands. It isn’t that we are weak or can’t do things for ourselves, it is that we have so much trust in our HusDoms that we are finally able to let go.
Come join us in the Daily subMrs Chat!
- November 22, 2017 at 7:37 pm #28619KittenSokoParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Thank you for your response. I will continue to research different topics on the site in order to learn as much as possible. Everyone seems very encouraging. Even though my husband and I have dabbled in this relationship style before, it is settling and encouraging to see a site set up specifically for married/long term commitment couples. I look forward to chatting more with you in the future.
- December 12, 2017 at 5:49 pm #28822MissyParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello, I am Missy to my Mister…
We have been married for 35 years as High School Sweethearts.
We are so excited to have found this safe place to join others in this lifestyle. This is a new thing for us. It is perfect timing and fitting for us.
We have come through a lot in our 35 years of marriage. I have had to over come some childhood traumas which many of the memories where repressed and unknown to me until recently. My Mister has suffered so much because of it but has always stood by my side. I have finally taken back my “POWER” and have been able to gift it to my Dom/Mister.
I am submissive at heart…I suppose that’s why I love being a wife and mother. I love being used/useful.
I am confident that this new journey is going to help me and my Dom/Mister to grow and connect with each other in ways we never dreamed. So looking forward to getting to know and learn for some of you other subs 😊
- February 28, 2018 at 12:48 am #29595ReynaniteravenParticipant
Hi Everyone! I’m Reynaniteraven, I’m 45 years old, I’ve been married to my Sir for 24 yesrs, we have been together for 26 years. We have two children a 23 year old daughter and a 18 year old son. My Sir snd I are very new to the D/s-M…like two/three weeks new. I know my Sir registered on HusDom, I’m not yet sure of his user name.
I feel so happy to have dogs SubMrs and HusDom to help us learn our way on this journey
- March 22, 2018 at 11:06 am #29743
Hello Reynaniteraven! Welcome to the site! I’m so happy that you found this site! There are a ton of great posts from LK our founder. When you are ready come join us in chat!
- April 25, 2018 at 7:31 pm #30037subQueenParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hi everyone. I’m 32 and my Sir and I have been married alittle less than a year. Together for 2. We have 4 kids in or blended family. We’re very new to D/s-M so I’m here to learn more! He isn’t on husDom site yet, but he plans to if I get good info from here 🙂
- April 26, 2018 at 1:57 pm #30045
Welcome to submrs subQueen! I am Veruca, Head Ambassador and just wanted to let you know that if you need any help at all, please feel free to contact me (you can send me a private chat if I am on or email me at email@example.com), any other Ambassador or LK herself!
Here are some links to some great blog posts:
Glad you are here! I look forward to chatting with you soon!
- May 17, 2018 at 1:18 pm #30260miasubParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Registered on this site a while a go and periodically came on and had a look around before finally introducing myself.
I am not married but have been in a LTR for the past 12 years. We have no children only a spoiled cat. I explored the idea on a Sub/ Dom dynamic a couple of years ago with my fella. At first I did not feel he was particularly receptive but a conversation a couple of days ago actually confirmed that it was something that he was really interested in exploring. By day I am in a professional career where I am expected to lead and give direction. However at home I am very much a submissive by nature. I see exploring my submissive side of me as a way of letting go and seeking healing from my past. We both felt that although we deeply love each other we wanted to explore this dynamic to create greater emotional intimacy between us. However as a woman I feel conflicted with my own sexual and emotional needs and societal expectations. I’m sorry if I’m not making much sense, I realise that it is very early days and there is so much to explore. Thanks for reading.
- May 23, 2018 at 9:48 am #30290
Welcome to submrs!
- May 24, 2018 at 3:05 pm #30307Dm101ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I registered a while back but not engaged yet as not really sure what to join in with. Still finding my feet.
I a strong woman in control of all day to day things but when it comes to sex want and need the complete opposite. I am married with a grown up child and want to chat with others who are like minded.
- May 27, 2018 at 7:53 pm #30344Anonymous
Hello, I’m Cherry. My husband and I have been married almost 17 years, together for almost 20 years. We have two kids under 10. We’ve been mostly vanilla with a few kinks thrown in over the years (some roleplay, light bondage and power play). Lately I’ve expressed my desire to have a bedroom D|s-M dynamic. We’ve done our yes/no/maybe lists, a couple of playtimes and one scene. My focus is on the long game and being patient because my husband has a slower to warm up time frame. Thanks for reading and looking forward to learning with y’all.
- June 1, 2018 at 12:42 pm #30387
Welcome Cherry! We are happy you are hear! Come join the new/register chat room any time when your ready! Cant wait to chat with you and learning more with you!
- June 3, 2018 at 7:01 am #30392Esde/MrJFParticipantPremium subMrs™
Hello, I am 36, married to my Dhusband (who is not not husDom yet) for 5 years and we have been together for 11. We have 2 kids ages 5, 3 and I am 31 weeks pregnant (due in August). We are very new into our D/s relationship but this was the dynamic our relationship had when we first began dating, but fell into the bored habit of everyday which has lasted the last 10 years. Recently, for his birthday, I put our fun bed straps on the bed and let him have his way. I spent a week obsessing over how much I loved the power he had in the room and his confidence the days after. I started researching why I enjoyed it so much and stumbled upon bdsm and to dive into what the dynamics of a D/s relationship looks like. I knew I wanted this everyday. I presented him with the idea and he was all on bored. We have stared out bedroom only but I know this will quickly move to 24/7 D/sM relationship and I could not be more excited for this lifestyle.
I am very happy to have this group to find topics on married life, particularly with small kids, and advice on how to navigate these waters. I look forward to engaging with each of you.
- June 3, 2018 at 10:27 am #30394
Welcome to subMrs Es!
We are happy you are here! This community is fll of subporrtive subbies and LK, our Founder, and posted blog post on her journey with Mr. Fox, the Founder of HusDom, that are ful of great tools. When you are ready you can join us in Chat! I look forward to meeting you and getting to know you better.
I also have younger kids a 5 and 6 year old with My Sir and he has an 11 and 9 year old from his first marriage.
- June 29, 2018 at 5:45 pm #30677HisSub17/KSC420ParticipantRegistered subMrs™
I am 40 years old and my sir is KSC420 on husDom. We have been together for 10 years and married for 6. We have a 15 year old son and a 17 year old daughter. We have always had an amazing sex life. We have had some issues over the last year. I recently revealed to him my desire for submission. He has always been so gentle and sweet that I never thought he had it in him to give me what I secretly wanted. He gave me a brief demonstration right away that let me know he was more than up for the task. Last night I did the formal acceptance and then had an amazing night of incredible sex at a completely higher level at his direction and domination. We both feel like this is already taking our marriage to another level. He said this gives him a whole other way to nurture and protect me that he didn’t even know I needed. We’re excited to learn more together and I’m so happy he found this website. It shows me his level of commitment. Hopefully, we will both grow and learn from each other and everything on this site and maybe one day we’ll be able to go to an event and put some faces with the names.
- June 29, 2018 at 6:55 pm #30680
Welcum to our community! It is very nice to meet you and read your story. You and your Sir are off to a great start. I look forward to getting to know you better and to share this journey.
- June 29, 2018 at 8:00 pm #30682
Welcum HisSub17 to subMrs!
It’s been a pleasure to meet you and to chat with you some!! I can’t wait to get to know you better! Grey and I had a rough year or two when we found this community and it changed us and saved our marriage! We are happy you are here and can’t wait to share this journey with you!
- July 9, 2018 at 11:50 pm #30757wnysubParticipantRegistered subMrs™
Hello, my name is Nicolle and I have been married to my husband for sixteen years. We have two amazing children, ages 15 and 9. Although, I have know I am a submissive for some time, I have just recently shared full details with my husband. I had hinted before, but never fully went into detail until this weekend. He seemed happy when I told him, but i wanted him to do some research of his own to really understand. He has joined Husdom to begin his part of the journey. I am hoping we will both learn more and become even closer as we share this journey together. Any advice and support would be amazing. Thanks!!
- July 11, 2018 at 8:55 am #30776
Welcum to SubMrs! Its nice to meet you! When your ready I hope to chat with you in chat and get to know you better and to learn more about your dynamic!
- July 10, 2018 at 5:48 pm #30769
It is very nice to meet you. Best of luck on your journey. I hope to get to know you better in our chats 🙂
- July 11, 2018 at 2:32 pm #30780
It was so nice to chat with you! I hope you find the answers to help you on your journey.
- July 14, 2018 at 3:47 pm #30804HisgirlParticipant
Hi Everyone! My name is Valerie. I’m 54 and have been married for 26 years and together off an on before that for 9. We both had a child when we met so we have never been a couple without kids. We’ve done some bedroom D/s in the past but never really knew that was what it was. Then life started getting in the way and we sunk into a vanilla life. Like so many women, I read FSOG and was like, “oh hey, there you are.” It was like a light bulb went off in my head. I’ve spent the last 26 years basically trying to be in control of everything and everyone around me and honestly I’m exhausted. Our marriage had taken a back seat to work, school and kids. The past year we have been grieving the loss of our son and it nearly destroyed me. I really believe BDSM is saving my life. I know it has brought sex back to our marriage and that wsa something we completely lost. My Sir is reluctant to move this lifestyle into our everyday life but is more than happy to embrace it in the bedroom. At least it’s a start. I’m so happy to have found this site. It is very hard not having anyone to talk to about things and I am looking forward to learning from all of you.
- July 14, 2018 at 9:47 pm #30807
Welcome! Glad you found us and if there is anything we can do to help you, just hop into the chat room and ask…we all subport each other! I look forward to chatting with you soon!
- July 15, 2018 at 9:40 am #30808
Very nice to meet you. Your story is very moving and relatable. Thank you for sharing! I am looking forward to chatting with you and reading more about your journey in the forums.
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