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Introductions
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Welcome Lovelee and Lady and congratulations on finding a great, supportive community of subs walking the same path.
Feel free to say hello in the Daily chat sometime.
PK
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Hello everyone.
I belong to Vinnie on Husdom and we have just started out on this exciting journey. We’ve been together 16 years, married for 6 with a 3 year old daughter and I’m currently 9 months pregnant!
Our marriage nearly ended recently for a number of reasons partly due to lack of sex and intimacy and partly due to the way we were living life and treating each other. After looking at what went wrong and how to fix we ended up here and it’s clear to see now we’ve always had sub/Dom tendencies! Changing our lifestyle will hopefully save our marriage and give us the kinky sex life and structure/respect we both desire.Look forward to chatting with you all and learning lots about this new lifestyle.
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Hi everyone, I am Piccola (little in Italian) I am 32, together with my Padrone for 10 years, living together for 9, we have a 1 year old and live in the UK. We always had a kinky sex life but we have been in a D/s relationship for about 2 years and a half now. Looking forward to meeting all you and exchanging experiences 🙂
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Welcome Piccola. It was very nice chatting with you. I hope you feel you have found a safe place here to explore the D/s-m lifestyle.
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Thank you Pearl, you are very kind. It was really nice chatting with you. I already feel at home here 🙂
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Hi everyone! I’m 26 years old. My Sir is GreyWolf on husDom. We have been together for 8 years and Married for 6 of those years come March! We have been doing the D/s-M for under a month and We are both very excited to see where this new lifestyle takes our relationship in all aspects. We have 4 children (2 of which are from his previous marriage, I still consider them mine as I have been in their life since one was 2 and the other one 6 months old). 1 boy who is 10, and 3 girls ages 8, 5 and 4.
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Welcome MrsBaker!!!! Come join us the the Daily subMrs Chat!
Staci
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Hi everyone!
I am 27 and recently discovering my nature as a submissive, despite not having been in a D/s relationship. Happily married for 5 years, no kids, two beautiful fur babies! I am a graduate student working on a PhD in the US. I’ve been aware of my kinkier side always but through a lot of reading and soul searching I’ve accepted myself for what I am, even if my partner is not really interested in the lifestyle. I am just so happy to have found this community and I really just want to learn and connect with others who are like me. Excited to get to know myself and you all a lot better!
–TheUnwrittensub
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Hello! We found this site + husDom last night and have been pouring over all the blog posts ever since. I am R, my husband is A. I call him sir and mister at times, but no formal names other than our own. I love being called good girl but nothing beats hearing my given name in his voice. We are new to BDSM and I am so grateful to have found this place. Given our marriage (4 years, 11 years together) and general dynamic, other forums were sometimes informative but difficult for us to relate to. I’m not just a submissive, I’m a wife and mother first (just as he is my Dom, but a husband and father first). Not that everyone needs to subscribe to that dynamic but it is what works for us and it is difficult to find that in many BDSM communities.
We’ve had some ups and downs the past few months as we’ve explored. Life happens. As well as my control freak nature at odds with his second guessing. I keep reading about others having similar experiences at the beginning and that has made me (and him!) feel MILES better.
So excited to be here!
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So very glad you found us! There is lots to read here and if you want to interact with some other subbies cum visit us at the Daily Chat.
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Hello, I am Bea, 49, married/monogamous to sir (Spanky on husDOM) 26 years this month…4 kids (27,23,18,15) 1 granddaughter (1). started exploring D/s-M in Aug, it is totally new for both of us, although I experimented with Submission before meeting my husband, I had not put a name to it. Submission seems to come fairly natural to me, Sir is developing & pulling out his inner Dom, he is an incredibly amazing Dominant man. We are taking One Day, One Moment, One Breath at a time to discover and reconnect. It is a fascinating journey of discovery.
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Hello, I’m Tonysgirl, live in Florida. We have been together for 20 years, married for 17. 6 boys between us and we are down to the last 2, 17 year olds, at home. Looking forward to being empty nesters. We are both very open communicators in our sex life and have tried different paths. I never thought of BDSM because I thought that wasn’t really our thing. I got turned onto the idea when looking for butt plug animal tails and started seeing different sites with all kinds of new information I had not known. The submissive ideas fit SO perfectly for us, it was actually really a big eye opener and life changer. I brought the idea up to him and he was completely open to it. We had our first weekend of play at the end of October. We love this so far!The past few weeks, even my mindset is different.I’m glad I found a community of like minded people.
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Welcome Tonysgirl. Make sure your Sir checks out the companion site to this one that is for Doms only, husDom.com. This an amazin journey of discovery for both of you. Enjoy!
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Hi everybody. I’m Bigt, from Canada, married to Sir (not on husDom yet – soon hopefully!)for 17yrs and together for 22. We have 2 kids, 11 and 14 and I am 43 though I don’t feel anywhere near that..;-).
I want to thank everyone on this site for being so open and for sharing so much. We have dabbled in this before and have recently committed to making it our lifestyle. I was so excited to
find this on-line community and to see others going through so many of the same emotions.
I have always been submissive by nature, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized how much I craved this type of lifestyle.
Once we started to talk about it, we realized that he is a natural dominant and had been craving this as well. I can’t begin to explain the effect he has on me when he calls me good girl, and I know that I have done something to please him.
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Welcome to the site. There is lots to read here, LK’s blogs as well as the questions and answers in the forums. My favorite place is the daily chat. It’s a great place to “meet” the other subbies here.
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Hi everybody, I’m 26. Im not married but have been in a ltr for a while. I always knew I had submissive nature in the bedroom but I finally found a partner that I trust completely to introduce D/s more formally. We have dipped our toes in D/s but we can definitely learn more. I very very recently vocalized this desire to my partner and definitely need more guidance. I’m glad i found this place where I feel like I can ask questions freely and learn a lot!
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Hello,
I’m Caroline and I’m 30 years old. My husband and I have been married for almost 4 years; together for 9. I have always been the driver in our relationship, but I have always been the driver of my life, even as a child. Recently, I considered having an affair (I didn’t), but it made my husband and me take a look at our relationship.
I have been overly critical of him, sometimes downright hateful. I realized this was because I feel uncomfortable when I’m not in control of a situation, but I’m exhausted from being this way.I have been longing to give up my position in the drivers seat and let him take control.I felt the bedroom would be the easiest place for me to submit, and hopefully it would translate into the rest of our relationship.
He went from living with a very dominant mother, to living with a dominant wife, so he has never been in such a role before, but I believe he has a natural propensity to be a very good husDOM and our relationship would flourish with a change in dynamics.
I am a business owner that works in a male dominated field and recently being a dominant personality at work, and at home, has become tiring. I believe I am naturally submissive, but due to life circumstances I have taken on a more dominant role.
We have just started talking about changing our dynamic and entering this lifestyle, but we are still vanilla. It’s all a bit overwhelming to be honest. How does one even start? How does one know when they’re ready to start?
It seems most resources are for people in a non-monogamous relationship, except for this site, which has offered some amazing insight, so I’m glad to be here!
It’s so nice to meet you all and I look forward to learning more!
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Hi Caroline!!!
Yes, you definitely found the right place to help you pursue married and monogamous D/s. You had asked about where to start, so here are some of my favorite foundation posts. Come join us in the Daily subMrs Chat whenever you have questions!
Staci
https://submrs.com/how-to-begin-ds-m/
https://submrs.com/submissive-advise-formal-acceptance-ds-lifestylefsog-lifestyle
How to Begin D/s-M | Grey Marriage | A FSOG Type of Lifestyle
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Greetings. I would like to introduce myself to this forum. I married my best friend nearly 12 years ago. Together, we have two wonderful children. I am an educated woman, working on my Masters Degree. I have been going to college since the age of 14. My husband and I have dabbled in Dominant/Submissive relationships before. Each time, we fell away from that relationship style for one reason or another. I do not know what I want out if this style of relationship. I always have aimed to make my husband happy and he has always put my needs above anyone or anything else. I can honestly say that he knows me as well, if not better than I know myself.
In addition, I come from a family of very strong willed women who would very strongly oppose the idea of being submissive to anyone. I feel that some of that childhood training has been strongly rooted in my brain. I am very strong willed. I do not know how to handle being submissive (which is what I would like) and overcoming my strong will to be equal, strong, independant, etc. I raise my children to be strong and independant. How do I teach my children to be strong and independant when I myself am submissive to their father?
My husband and I have discussed what it is that he would like out of this style of relationship and I feel that I would like to assist him in achieving those goals. However, when he asks me what I would like out of this style of relationship, I have no real answers. I do not know what I want? Are there things I am supposed to want? I know that I want to continue to raise my children to be smart, strong and independant. I know that I would like to make my best friend/husband happy. I would like to be happy but, I am already happy. I can see some benefits. My husband and I do not fight. We have occasional tiffs usually revolving my indecision typically over an unimportant choice, which causes stress. I feel that if he were dominant, we wouldn’t encounter scenarios in which we have tiffs over small, unimportant decisions such as what movie to see. Over the last many weeks we have been “dipping our toes” into the water, so to speak. I am just having trouble diving in completely.Thank you in advance for any guidance.
KittenSoko
If this was not the correct place to post these thoughts, please simply let me know which area would be best to repost it.
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Welcome KittenSoko!!
I’m glad you found this community, because I’m sure once you get to know us you will find many educated, professional, strong women who find great pleasure and comfort in turning over control to their dominant husbands. It isn’t that we are weak or can’t do things for ourselves, it is that we have so much trust in our HusDoms that we are finally able to let go.
Come join us in the Daily subMrs Chat!HUGS!!!
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Hello Staci,
Thank you for your response. I will continue to research different topics on the site in order to learn as much as possible. Everyone seems very encouraging. Even though my husband and I have dabbled in this relationship style before, it is settling and encouraging to see a site set up specifically for married/long term commitment couples. I look forward to chatting more with you in the future.
Thank you,
KittenSoko
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