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Accepting your Body as it is
I am taking the rather unusual step of making myself incredibly vulnerable: I am a very large woman and when I joined Little Kaninchen 5.5 months ago I had next to no self-esteem. However partly through D/s and partly through challenging myself I have started to see myself as a sexy and even a beautiful woman.
It all started with the https://submrs.com/ds-mirror-scene/ I managed to complete it one go. It was the most most hardest thing I had ever done with my Sir. There were many tears and afterwards he just held me as I cried. Even then I wasn’t convinced that he actually meant the things he said because the things he loves most are the things that I hate the most: my saggy boobs with slightly inverted nipples and pale areola that are located at the very bottom of my breasts and the fat tummy that hangs over my pubic area. And now i have whiskers popping up on my chin too.
So I have posted pics of my boobs in a bra. I have learned a burlesque routine and performed in front of people as part of a small group. And yesterday I posted nude photos of my body on Fetlife. It was so hard. But I did it because a woman who had the most stunning body was expressing exactly the kind of things I think about myself. And I see it in our chats – so many of us feel the same way regardless of our actual shape and size. And so I’m going to post them here for my lovely and loving friends to show you that we all have our own beauty.
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Submission| D/s~Married Lifestyle | Mirror Mirror Exercise/Scene
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You are so right, LB. Regardless of size or shape, many of us do not have as positive a body image that we should. I believe that we are all unique and beautiful. Thank you for sharing yourself with us and I’m glad that you are making progress in having a more positive view of yourself! 🙂 You deserve it, you are awesome lady! xoxo
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LB, I am so proud of you and the strides you have made! You are an excellent dancer too! 🙂
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Lady Bird I’m so proud of you lady in how much you have grown to love all of you. Beauty is not what you look like on the outside but what is in the inside of a person. Always remember that lady! HUGS! xoxoxoxo
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What a beautiful post, Lady Bird! Thank you for sharing. I’m a larger woman myself and I struggle with similar issues. It’s so reassuring to know that you’ve made strides in this area (partly) through D/s. Inspiration indeed. (((hugs)))
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I also appreciated this post, while reading your description of yourself I thought you were describing my physical appearance, I am regaining self confidence through D/s too, I have been taking better care of myself and makes me feel good and even sexy, I had never been one for taking pictures of myself and I am not ready to share them, however my sir has been enjoying getting almost daily photos of what I am wearing and stuff like that…. so thank you for sharing because knowing you are not alone is huge in any difficult situation
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LadyBird, You have come a long way baby! Saw your video…. Good Job!
LK
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Thank you LK xoxoxox
The responses here and elsewhere have been heartwarming – and they have also shown that what I did was not only courageous on my behalf but really necessary. From the moment I joined this site, when I saw how much good was done here I made the decision to be completely open about my journey, because I think knowledge is a powerful thing. It has put me in a great place of vulnerability but it has helped me and others too, and will continue to write honestly. The 3rd of January 2015 will mark 6 months in my D/s journey. Look out for a post in the New Year.
Love
LB
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LB – Thank you for sharing this with us. I too have many body image issues that I’m trying to work through. Your post was very helpful in showing that it is possible for me grow to love my body and what I have to offer to my Sir.
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LB, I am so thankful to you for sharing this. I can imagine it was difficult. I struggle with issues as well. I think it is amazing that you are taking Burlesque lessons! I would love that! I did not see a video??
You are beautiful and you have shared so much with me here on the chat. I appreciate your honesty and courage. I hope I make it through the mirror scene as well as you did.
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LB,
I have had self esteem issues with my body as well. Sir has me say my mantra every time I look in the mirror naked after a show when I put on face and body lotion. My manta is ” I am sooo beautiful” I say it over and over. He also tells me that when we are intimate to reinforce the feelings. I saw a picture on the internet that says: How you talk to your submissive becomes their inner voice.
So now I have adopted the manta in my inner voice even outside the bathroom. It has really helped me a lot. (thanks to Sir!)
You mentioned vulnerability and I can relate to that too. Before my D/s, in vanilla world, I would never be intimate with any lights on, only dark with candles. This is because of my self esteem with my body image. Now with my manta, I am full on with all the lights on and looking at the full size wall mirror in the bedroom. The vulnerability at first was hard but not anymore! It takes courage to be vulnerable, to put yourself out there and share your thoughts and fears with the one you love and trust the most.
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correction on firs line : Sir has me say my mantra every time I look in the mirror naked after a shower (not show). Ha ha
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LOL MG that would take a whole other level of courage.
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LB, thank you! You are amazimg . You are so helpful and encouraging to all of us here at the warren. I hope that you continue to share and encourage us in the new year.
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LB thank you for this! I struggle with my body image daily, and even though my husband makes me feel wanted all the time, my personal struggle with my body is my own I have to work on. You are an inspiration.
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