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What's in a name?
How did you come about choosing the name that you use on this site? Did you pick it yourself or was it given to you by your Dom?
When I first registered on Submrs, I used the screen name “Mrs. Hickory”. I picked it myself based on the movie “The Wizard of Oz”. You see, at that time my husband and I had been married for 13 years and just sort of going through the motions. We both felt like something was missing, but we didn’t know that it was D/s-M. Sir has always been so stoic and never discussed feeling of any kind. This left me feeling as if he didn’t love me and, as ashamed as I am to admit it, I only made matters worse with my sharp tongue and the way that I treated him. I treated him the way that society tells women they should treat their husbands. (Just watch any family sitcom from the late 80’s to today.)
Finding this site and the methods within revealed to me that our marriage wasn’t the problem, it was the way we were going about it. In the Wizard of Oz, Hickory is the name of the farm hand who became the Tin Man while Dorothy was in her coma. The posts and forum topics on this site gave me the hope that my dear hubby, like the Tin Man, had a heart all along. It just needed to be revealed to him so that he could learn how to use it. I was determined to let my submission be the “oil can” that would undo the years of rust that had built up around him due to the acid words I had used. I chose not to use “Dorothy” as my screen name because unlike her, I had become fully aware of the coma I was in. I was ready to fight my way out of the world of negative thinking and submit my way to a better life for us. I also chose not to use “Mrs. Tin Man” because my husband wasn’t just a dream, he was my reality and I was willing to make the necessary changes to give him the best possible life in return. Also, Hickory woos is rare, beautiful, and STRONG. All of the qualities I admired in my husband and soon to be HusDom.
Two weeks after our formal acceptance, Sir texted me while I was in a board meeting to tell me that he had chosen a “sub name” for me. Then he drug it out for a whole month (which made me crazy) before telling me what it was. He was so nervous and afraid that I wouldn’t like the name he had chosen. He made me strip naked and kneel before him with my back to him. His fingers gently brushed my back, shoulders, and neck as he quietly told me the story of how he came up with my name. He has always thought of me as being his delicate flower. He also said that to him, I always smell good. He really loves that about me because he is the type of person that forms strong attachments between smells and memories. In Japanese, “Sakura” is a cherry blossom. To him, that name wasn’t good enough. He researched the traditions that surround the blooming of the cherry blossoms in Japan and discovered that “Yozakura” was a special time of the evening where the cherry trees were all lit up and dignitaries were permitted to view the cherry blossoms in private. Since Sir prefers to have me to himself, and since he rather enjoys when I “blossom” just for him, at night when the children are in bed and the house was quiet,he knew that Yozakura would be my new name.
Two days later, on the evening of our 14th wedding anniversary, Sir presented me with a beautiful collar with cherry blossoms on it. (But that’s another story 😉). I was instructed to immediately change my screen name on Submrs.
What’s in YOUR name? What special meaning does it hold? I love to hear stories from other subbies. Do tell! 🌸🌸🌸
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This is a great topic Yoz!
When I first joined the site, I chose a name that I used to use in a previous profession, in a “past life”, so to speak…Rachelle. After I had been on for a while and made friends while some other subbies, Sir and I had an opportunity to actually meet a couple IRL…it was awesome except for the fact that it was the fist time in many, many years that my Sir was hearing someone call me by that name. He did not like it. It was actually at that dinner, in front of the other couple that he chose Veruca, and I HATED it. Veruca was a joke to us…he would say that I was having Veruca Salt Syndrome when I was being impatient or wanted to buy something that he had told me “NO” about…basically when I was being bratty. This “joke” was something that he would say to me from the beginning of our relationship. That is the main reason I hated it…I saw it as a negative. After we got home from dinner, I told him I didn’t like Veruca. The next night in downtime, he explained it to me…why he chose Veruca and his explanation made me love and embrace my name. He told me that whenever he would call me Veruca in the past, it wasn’t as much of a joke as a term of endearment. That even though I was being a bit bratty at the time, he knew he needed to work harder for me. He said he loves my bratty side, especially when I pout after being told “no”. He also like that V is the beginning of my actual name as well and so he could always keep me in mindset by just starting to call me V all the time and no one would think anything was strange. Last but not least, he thought it sounded sexy, lol!Now he usually just calls me V; Veruca is saved for when I am in trouble or no paying attention. He calls me V in front of everyone we know and everyone now expects it, lol.
Smooches,
V
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