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Transitioning Ritual
Hoping to get some suggestions! We are trying to think of some type of ritual thathat will help me transition from work where I am basically in a position where I tell people what they are and aren’t allowed to do. I find it difficult to get into a submissive mindset when I first am home and that usually ends up with me being sarcastic or argumentative and then he gets mad and everything goes vanilla. He works from home and is generally still working when I get home (on our proprty but not in the house itself) so he isn’t always able to do more than say Hi and talk about dinner until an hour or so later. I know everyone had a different way of doing things but any ideas would be great!
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I totally understand this feeling Hisgirl. We have had the same issues in the past. Some things that worked for us were doing a passing of the torch ritual. I believe LK has a post on it. It included me kneeling when I got home. Sir would pick out what I wore for the evening. Sometimes he put my collar on. Other times it was an inspection. You could try kneeling and mediating when you get home. A little time to calm your mind and start putting it in a better space. You could also try reading a little when you get home. Just some thoughts.
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Thanks Filina!
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Our “newest” ritual actually was put into place to address this. I have had a day collar that I wear everyday for a while now…but I felt I needed more to help me transition from my “boss mode” into submissive mode when I got home from work. Due to my Sir’s shoulder surgery, he is still home before I am most days and that affected my mindset switch for a long time.
We started the ritual that when I get home, I go take my day collar off and bring him what we call my “night collar”. My day collar looks very much like a pretty necklace with a lock, but my night collar is a leather collar with an actual heart shaped lock that only he has the key for so only he can put in on and take it off. He takes it off every morning before he goes to work and I put my day collar back on after I shower.
It has honestly helped transition my mindset…I did forget a few times, but now it is a built in ritual.
Smooches,
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https://submrs.com/submissive-mindset-ritual-transitioning-into-a-submissive-mindset/
https://submrs.com/dominance-and-submission-ritual/
I also have had a subMrs in the past tell me about how she would sit in her car and give her time to transition. She would listen to a great song and think about submitting and intentionally set her mind. Consciously letting go of everything work related, only mentioning it if she needed some help with it in downtime. Setting the mind, then coming in showering away the day and putting on your subMrs loungewear…. Hopefully this helps!
HUGS! XOXO lk
How to Stay in Your Role’s Mindset | Mindset Transition Ritual and Attire Ritual
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Thank you all for the suggestions and insight I will try some of these ideas.
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Hg,
These are all great ideas. I love the idea of your Sir picking out what your wear. One of my rules is NO PANTIES. He loves his easy access. If we are home alone it is not uncommon for me to be partially or completely nude. Now that it is getting colder I am usually draped in a comfy blanket. LOL!
Another idea is perhaps kneeling at his feet every evening in silence. You can recite S.O.A.P. in your mind. Make it a daily 5 minute ritual. The idea is presenting your submission to him.
Hugs!!!!
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Hg,
These are all great ideas. I love the idea of your Sir picking out what your wear. One of my rules is NO PANTIES. He loves his easy access. If we are home alone it is not uncommon for me to be partially or completely nude. Now that it is getting colder I am usually draped in a comfy blanket. LOL!
Another idea is perhaps kneeling at his feet every evening in silence. You can recite S.O.A.P. in your mind. Make it a daily 5 minute ritual. The idea is presenting your submission to him.
Hugs!!!!
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What does S.O.A.P.stand for. Being new i have no clue
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Heartfly3,
SOAP is a submissive mantra that stands for:
Serve your Needs
Obey your Orders and Commands
Accept your Dominance
Please your Desires
LK has several blog posts about what SOAP means and how it helps build your D/s. I’m on my phone so I can’t do a link but if you go into the blogs and do a search you will find them! -
Hubs and I have a slightly complicated transition ritual, but it works for us. I’m a homeschooling mom of two, and my days can be very chaotic and crazy. Once the kids have brushed their teeth and I’ve gotten them into PJs, Hubs takes over and puts the kids to bed. While he’s doing that (it takes about 30 minutes), it’s my chance to change into submission mind space. I usually take a shower, veg out on social media, or return any emails I need to…and then change into something Hubs would like (I have a drawer dedicated to his favorite nighttime clothes).
After the kids are asleep, Hubs finds me in bed, ready for whatever he needs.
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Thank you for the response McRugers girl!
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