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Submission during the Holiday stress!
The Holidays can be stressful and turn into one of those valley’s in our Ds relationship if we don’t work at it. As we are approaching a very busy, stressful time of the year that should revolve around love and giving, it is sometimes hard to remain in that submissive mind set. We may need to consciously embrace that love and giving mindset, especially as submissives.
I tend to be the one that does all the Christmas “work”-except stringing the lights on the tree. I used to get annoyed that I was doing all the “work” even though it was all my choosing. Now I turn that mindset around to one of “giving”. I am doing these things for my Sir and my family as my choice and my gift to them. He could care less about decorations or presents and just wants my love, attention and sanity.
I find that I don’t get nearly as “stressed” out since I am not focusing on what he isn’t doing to help, but rather focusing on what I am doing to make this holiday season a relaxing enjoyable time for him. If you find yourself getting upset or stressed, take a step back and ask yourself what your Sir wants of you. Is it important to him that you have 4 different types of cookies or is it more important that you made his favorite cookie and served it to him on a plate with his favorite beverage-maybe even naked with only an apron on!?
Love openly and give of yourself willingly! Enjoy the season and revel in your submissive servitude because, for those of us that are Christian, that really is the reason for the season! We just have to remember it and embrace it!
Hugs,
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Bliss,
Thank you for the reminder that it’s all about the attitude we bring to our seasonal stressors. I hope you and Mr. Grant have a wonderful Christmas. Miss you guys!!!
Staci
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Dear Bliss,
Thank you for the inspiring post. From reading your post, I have a new sense of what the work of the holidays can mean as a submissive. I am moving forward with the loving service that you mentioned. Merry Christmas 🙂
Warmest subbie regards,
Belle Soumise -
OMG I so needed this reminder. Thank you for sharing! I think I may just try the apron thing!
❤️ XOXO
Kleine -
Bliss thank you for sharing
with me a great reminder
what truely matters. Love and Servitude..
We wish you and Mr Grant
a safe and blessful holidays
Fan -
Thank you for sharing these wise words about dealing with holiday stress and maintaining the giving mindset. I told my Sir just last night that I’m already feeling overwhelmed. I needed this reminder today!
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Beautiful, Bliss. Thank you for the reminder. I think I’ll print this and paste it inside my journal because this is a great reminder for me all the time… not just the holidays. Thank you!
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Bliss,
Thank you for sharing. I think we women tend to get caught up in all the details of the Christmas season and trying to “keep up with the Joneses” as the saying goes…even if we don’t realize we are doing it. I’m all about simplifying this time of year and focusing on what truly matters for my Sir and family. What do the kids really need? Honestly, in many cases, I’ve found the less is indeed much MUCH more. Less time in the kitchen baking TONS of cookies, and more time baking that 1 or 2 batches of cookies together. Less time shopping in store for that “perfect” gift, and more time spent around the dinner table with family building memories and traditions. My Sir wants 3 things during the Christmas season: time with me not stressed or in pain from doing too much, rosy mint ball cookies, and….the breakfast cassarole for Christmas morning.
This year, I’m not doing Christmas cards or making 4-5 types of cookies to give to the neighbors (doing apple butter made this Fall instead), or Christmas parties, etc. We are serving at church, Sir is doing the lights for the Christmas service and our oldest daughter is singing for the first time in the children’s choir. This year, the girls will help wrap the couple gifts we got daddy and making cards for him, and some other family members and friends.
Simple…is good.
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