smoothest bikini shave help!

[staci]

Coincidentally, I just returned from my Brazilian laser appointment. I go 3 times per year and I am completely smooth. If he wants utterly hair-free results, laser is a much more effective solution than shaving, and it is far less costly than waxing in the long run.

Good luck!
Staci

[Veruca]

Hello there! This is a topic that has been discussed a lot in the chat room…how to get “smooth”. I shave and have been shaving my entire life. Unfortunately, I have never discovered anything (with shaving) to get that completely smooth look when EVERYTHING is being shaved. The skin is sensitive and the “mound” is an especially sensitive area. I just don’t think it is a possibility to be quite honest…at least it isn’t for me. I do have some tips to help with the razor bumps though.

One mistake that many women make, especially dark haired women, is that they want to shave UP in order to try and achieve that smooth look. That is the main cause of those razor bumps. You have to shave down or to the side; WITH the grain and not AGAINST the grain. I use a special exfoliating brush, anti-bump shave gel and then an anti-bump after shave cream. These all help with the razor bumps. The thing about shaving is, you are only cutting of the hair at the skin level, so when you shave UP, you are pushing that hair INTO your skin…shaving down helps with that, but it will never be baby butt smooth. Shaving also grows back so quickly that I can shave in the morning but by the next morning it is right back…think about a man’s face and the phrase “5 o’clock shadow”, it’s the same concept. I know some subbies have gone through laser hair removal with great results and if you can’t wax, that might be an option for you.

I do not want to keep getting punished for not following his requirements but am lost

Why are you getting punished for something that you really can’t control? It sounds like this is something that you might just not be able to accomplish with shaving and it is not your fault, it is just how your body is. Has he tried to help you find solutions or showed any understanding about your struggle with this issue or offered to adjust the expectation? Either way, I don’t think you should be getting punished for something out of your control. This would be something that I would bring up in downtime if it were me.

Smooches,
Veruca

[subMarie-CSM]

Hi Spicy!

I echo the sentiment about getting punished over this. That seems outside of any funishments that my Sir and I would have since this would not be anything I could change. If your Sir is not familiar with vaginal grooming, perhaps you can ask your Sir to have a scene and shave each other so he can see how it works in reality. If your Sir remains concerned about this, I highly recommend asking about investing in laser hair removal. You say you are allergic to waxing. There are different types of waxes that can be used. It seems there should be one that could accommodate you. What specifically are you allergic to? I can ask my esthetician for recommendations for you.

sub-Hugs!
subMarie

[lossoprema-mr-m]

I go to a salon that offers sugaring… Similar to waxing, it pulls everything out by the roots but it’s gentler than wax and may be less allergenic for your skin (it doesn’t stick to the skin, and it’s literally just sugar and lemon so you can actually eat the stuff off you want and any residue just dissolves in water). It’s going to cost about as much as wax, but it’ll be less than laser (if up front cost is a concern) and longer lasting than shaving (in my case, sugaring keeps me brazilian bare for about three weeks, then a bit of stubble in week four before I go back for my monthly appointment…and while my Sir isn’t thrilled, he understands why there is stubble in week four and why our budget prevents me from sugaring more often).

And I’m going to add my voice to the consensus… You shouldn’t be punished for a biological reality that you have no control over. Maybe bring this to your Sir during downtime and ask for their advice? Perhaps they’d like to shave you each evening so they know that you are doing everything possible within the reality of your hair type, or pay for laser treatments that would help you achieve the type of hair removal they are imagining, or are willing to accept a level of grooming that is more in line with the reality of your body (perhaps asking you to maintain a certain style but not the unrealistic “totally bare, photoshopped into absolute perfection, smooth as silk skin of a professionally photographed pornhub mound”).

Because honestly? The way your skin reacts and the way your hair grows isn’t something you can control. It’s just who and what you are. And while it’s fantastic to have expectations and rules and goals and consequences within a D/s-M relationship… That relationship has to be built on the real bodies, hearts, minds, schedules, and budgets of the people involved.

[tigergirl]

I’ll give a hearty second to the prospect of laser hair removal. It’s super-effective, and while it’s an up-front investment, you’ll pay far more with regular waxing and sugaring over time. And if you’re like me (dark hair), you’ll never achieve the results your after with shaving. So talk to your Sir about investing in your body to make it what he really wants! I promise you’ll both love it when it’s all said and done–perfectly smooth for him, almost no maintenance for you. Everybody wins!