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Safewords
Many people will tell you that using a “safeword” in the context of BDSM is a good idea. In fact, I’m one of them. A safeword is simply some word which you can use as a code word to tell your partner to stop if something you’re exploring becomes too intense or crosses a boundary–perhaps even a boundary you didn’t know you have.
Part of the value in BDSM is that it offers a way for people to test their limits. Because of this, you may find that you react to something in a way you didn’t expect; if this happens, you may need a clear and unamiguous way to let your partner know that you need things to stop.
This becomes especially important if you are doing something such as resistance play, when words like “no” or “stop” do not actually mean “no” or “stop.” In such a case, it’s very helpful to have a word that does mean “stop.” I myself use Green, Yellow and Red these are not words that are used in ever day usage and they mean what they say and they are easy to remember during play.
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OLDIE but, GREAT Share ….LT
Im sharing on this because ,I see soon many New Subs on line every day ! This is for us CRITICAL to be in place ….
Im truly FREE, when Im on Fire,sub-space … So, we must have these safe word …because, for us if Im Flying Im loud …LOL…this could be a bummer for Sir to stop thinking Im in pain …he’s hurting me . !!! Also , after lots D/t …Communication ..for us . Sir , truly understands my safe words …Yellow is … slow down …lighten up , not to totally STOP . Red is everythings STOP ..period …check in with me …..If I cant communicate no guessing here …Its a STOP ! Green …..we really don’t use to much now that we have played, discussed yellow – redFinally, DONT be afraid to use your words !! I find each play time scene…my tolerance is different , I can be in a different mind set/place. You are not disappointing your Sir 🙂
Fly – High,
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We also use green=go, yellow=pause (I need to talk with you), red=full stop (end of play) for our safewords. I think it’s really important to practice using them. I have hip and shoulder problems and I often use yellow so we don’t over stress my joints. And Sir often checks in with me and asks me how I’m doing, how I’m feeling. He feels it’s his job to keep an eye on me, make sure I’m okay while we are playing. It makes him happy to know I’m comfortable enough and value myself enough to keep me safe for him and use my safewords.
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Nice Share …Beth …FULLY Trusting, Knowing your safe is a HIGH !!!
Subb/Safely
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