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Rules and rituals
Still and I started our journey late this summer, so we are still very new in this dynamic of our relationship. We took in the vast knowledge and experince from both sites and just now talked about adding rules. We have been having downtime once a week and on Friday he brought with him several rules that we agreed upon. First of which is that I cannot open my own door, including car doors, when we are together. He will also pull out my chair for me at the table. And since I am a busy mom, like most everyone on the site, I have ignored myself so he now requested that I get my nails done once a month. Also, I am to wear newly aquired cute underwear to work each day. Since he leaves significantly earlier than I do for work we don’t really have any morning rules. I wanted to reach out and see if anyone had any rules they felt were good for them as a first rule or for early on.
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Hey Terenya! It sounds like you and your Sir are on the right path of taking your time and finding the rules and rituals that have the most meaning to you. I love that your Sir is dedicated to making sure you feel, look, and are treated very special. Way to go, Sir Still!!!! A few things I do for my Sir include serving his meal and beverage when we are home and I usually always reply with a “Yes, Sir” or “No, Sir.” I look for ways to show him respect. I also text him my whereabouts. When I leave/arrive at destinations. Doing so ensure him I am safe!
Take your time! When your rules and rituals become routine then add one or two more. Please keep us posted and let us know what is/is not working!
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We have 2 rules. Our first rule was put in place to address my tendency to withdraw and not communicate when I’m upset. Our first rule was that I’m not allowed to give the silent treatment, which I did in our former vanilla life. The silent treatment was hurtful to my Sir and damaging to our marriage. Our other rule is that I am to text him each day when he’s at work. We also have 1 special bedtime ritual. We’ve kept our rules/rituals pretty simple so that we can stick to them. 🙂
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One rule that we have is that when a text arrives I have ten minutes in which to respond. The only time I can miss deadline is if I’m driving or in an appointment. But I need to text and inform if any of these will be applicable. If not, there will be consequences.
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ML, I often have my phone on silent and miss my Sir’s calls or texts. I recently purchased a Fitbit watch. It has been a “butt-saver!” I love that calls and texts display so I can get to my phone. Whew! Hmmm, wait. On second thought, I like my spankings! 🙂
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