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Our starter set of rules
My Sir and I started our D/s-M journey with only a couple of submissive behavior guidelines. I would wear my day collar, I would wait to have him open doors for me, and I would allow him to order for me in restaurants. These have been going very well, and we decided I was ready for some additional structure. Here are the things we came up with:
1. Kneel when Sir enters and await further instructions on how to welcome him home. If children are present, offer an appropriate and respectful welcome.
2. Sir will choose my collar daily and will put it on me when home
3. Keep the house clean and organized.
4. Make a list of 2-5 projects that need done by the family and delegate tasks to the children.
5. Work out 4 times per week and maintain current weight.
6. Continuously improve on healthy cooking.
7. Twice per month, buy panties, bra, or lingerie that will be pleasing to Sir.
8. I am Sir’s alarm clock and will wake him up with my mouth on his cock.
9. Journal once per week about something I enjoy about our relationship or life. Once per month journal about a fantasy (sexual or bucket list).
10. Any and all masturbation must be approved ahead of time.
* These are certainly not suggested as the “right way” to do D/s-M; they are just what felt right in our marriage.Hugs!
Staci - 7 Replies
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I love these! I especially like the “alarm clock” idea.
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Staci those are awesome. I particularly like number 7. I have a horrible addiction to frilly lacey things for my bits.
The alarm clock one sounds fun too.
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Haha Morning Glory… well, Sir has only been home one day since we agreed upon these rules, so that hasn’t come up yet. But my guess is no, he won’t wait patiently for me to wake up. LOL…
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Voww..
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I just wanted to do a quick update, because some of the rules didn’t turn out the way we thought they would…
Rule 1- Kneeling when Sir comes home. Totally impractical. We have a Great Dane and a Mastiff that plopped their butts down right next to me and it wasn’t very sexy. LOL
Rule 2- Sir got me a different collar that locks on, and he has only taken it off of me once in 3 weeks. I do have collars for kink events and play which he will choose, but this has ceased to become a daily ritual.
Rule 4- Delegating tasks to the family. Total fail. I have held them accountable for their daily chores but I haven’t added any special projects.
Rule 9-Journaling. This is going well. I just wanted to add that it stays on my nightstand most of the time, and whenever there is a new entry I move it to Sir’s nightstand so that he’ll know to read it when he is ready.It’s still a work in process, but we are enjoying the journey. I’d love to read about the rules and rituals that other D/s-M couples are following!
HUGS!
Staci-
Awesome update….rules in the beginning should always be attainable! A short list that you can accomplish and your Sir can also keep up with, so there is not room for “feelings of failure” on a regular basis. Sir and I go over our rules and adjust regularly and he also has NEVER given me a rule without discussing it and me agreeing to it.
Smooches,
V
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Staci I love the honesty in your update Try and then try again. Your update is a great example of what works for one may not work for all and just because something looks good on paper does not mean it will work in reality.
Batty
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