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my husDom wont Dom….
Hi,
So…. I’m very new to all of this. I stumbled across D/s relationships, and it felt right. I’ve always been submissive, and my husband has always been pretty domineering. When I approached him about it, though, he was really freaked out. He said he was afraid of losing me, so he would try… which wasn’t okay! We talked that out, and everything seemed fine. We played it by ear, in the bedroom, and found ways to incorporate D/s activities throughout the day. It wasn’t hard, at first… for the first few weeks, everything was great… then he started bickering and nitpicking, he wasn’t happy with the control aspect, then our anniversary rolled around and he completely dropped the ball. Then, in bed, he hurt me and felt horrible. We’ve been out of it as long as we were in it, at this point, and he’s pouty and snippy. We both miss it… Neither of us knows how to restart it the way we initially got it started…? If that makes sense. We aren’t falling into our roles, organically, this time.He still wont get into it.
We ere both amazingly happy! The sex was amazing!!! We were just so connected and available… we were averaging three times a day! We have five kids(collectively)!!! Hahahaha! This has been an amazing experience…
How do I get him back into it?
Tell me… tell me your secrets… I want spankins and snuggles!!!!
Thank you!!! 🙂 I can’t wait to get to know you amazing ladies!!!
P.S. If I don’t know the verbiage, I’m sorry…
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Do you know if he’s read anything about being a husDom? And have you read anything zbout the process on here? The blogs are great 🙂 The reason I ask, is because the reality is accepting the responsibilty to be Dom can be huge and it is an actual process that evolves and grows, that’d why incorporating things like downtime, rules, rituals, and even doing a Formal Acceptance can be beneficial. It’s important he understands what his role entails sobthe blogs on husDom can help too… Me and my Sir have really only been doing this officially for less than a week and we can already see how these are needed.
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