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My Dom is Young.
Hello ladies, I hope perhaps this topic will help someone else who has a similar relationship or, maybe, I might receive some advice from those of you who have been submissives for much longer than I have. My Dom is wonderful. He is beautiful and terrifying. He is also 7 years younger than I am. I had a hard time bending to his will at first because of this; I am someone who has never, ever dated (let alone had sex with) a man who was younger than me before I met my Dom. The more I grew to know, understand and fall in love with him and his personality, however, the more I came to realize– our age difference makes no difference to either of us. He is an old soul. He finds the women (he calls them girls) his age to be shallow, wishy-washy, and devoid of a strong personality. He has dated women older than me in the past as well. But my friends have made me doubt (yes, I have doubted us) our D/s relationship because “Oh my god, he’s so much younger than you. How can you even get anything out of this?” The answer to that question is that he is NOTHING like men his age. He is mature, he is responsible, he is in upper management at his job (something unheard of at his age) and well-respected. He is a good employee, son, lover, and friend. And most of all, in spite of my being older than he is, he is Dominant and he is a natural at this lifestyle. Never too heavy-handed, always supportive and understanding, but definitely knows how to correct me and put me in my place when I need it. I apologize if this seems like a topic that isn’t relevant… I am merely curious as to how many submissives there are in this community who have faced this particular issue and what all of you think. Any thoughts and advice, shared stories and opinions would absolutely delight me. 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read this.
littlestudent
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Hey LittleStudent…. My Sir and I are same age so I can’t really say I have been in those shoes.
I also advise only on experience. So, I would say that you may be a little concerned over this because it is natural and very human. You are engaged and not married as of yet so its still early in your relationship. I would say take your time both of you… enjoy one another and don’t take things so seriously. You have a lot of years to sort it all out. Make sure you both work on your foundation first and then just have some D/s experiences. Don’t feel any pressure.. I will leave it to other subs that have had your sub-shoes about the age thing… I am sure they are out there and will give you great advice… Age is just a number… HUGS! LK-
Thank you for reading LK! And I appreciate the advice you gave, as far as taking our time. We are waiting another year until I finish nursing school before we accelerate things to the next level. I do worry that I may be having a bad effect on him because he is young, even though he is mature for 21… But, his mother loves me and tells him I’m “the one” so that gives me a confidence boost. 😉 Also, he is on HusDOM and has been talking to your Sir the past few nights I believe. He really enjoys the site! Thank you!
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Always! XOXOXOXO LK
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Little Student..well first of all congrats on finding your Dom!! Sometimes it takes many long years to find what you have. Your friends care for you and might be worried for you but only you know how you feel. It sounds from what I read you have a very caring and nurturing relationship and if your sir treats you with the respect and love you deserve then nothing else should matter. Embrace the lifestyle and the relationship you both can learn from eachother. Your age gap is small and your both in your twenties it really is not that bad. Its just that society has a different way of thinking. Although I do not have the age gap I truly believe that what the heart wants the heart gets no matter what the obstacles are. Congrats again for finding your D/s and hopes that you can get your answers you are looking for.
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Thank you Sweetness. I didn’t realize before I was told by many here that it is rare to find a Dom I connect with so well as young as we both are. I feel very fortunate to have this life now. As for my friends, I believe what their issue is may be that they are just not used to the idea of one of us “dating” someone so young. It is difficult for them to comprehend, in part I think because vanilla relationships are sometimes not as intense as D/s relationships can be. Thank you for commenting love 🙂
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Hello Littlestudent, I agree with Lk, also if your souls and hearts are in the same place and the connection is there, that is all that matters. Don’t worry what people think or say because the relationship you have is with the man you’re with, not them and that is what matters.
Lt♥
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Thanks LT. 🙂 I love him fiercely. It takes a lot of effort to bite my tongue and not be rude when someone makes a remark about our age difference. I look very young (freckles, red hair and blue eyes) so it isn’t obvious unless people know us. I do feel like I was always just waiting to find him, and here he is. Funny how life works!
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My Queen is almost seven years older than I. W/we are older than you (I am 37) and the only issues the age gap have had for U/us is that my Queen is again mother to preteens after managing to get all hers to adulthood.
As time goes on, the respective physical ages become less and less important in any case – as people grow in experience they tend to… Plateau might be the right word, at a certain mental age. This means that provided the right intellectual/emotional involvement is there, physical age is not relevant at all.
If the two of you have this connection already, be happy and enjoy it. As others have said, it can take years to find a person who clicks (and that’s as a vanilla person – how much harder is it in the world of kink?)
Enjoy and good luck
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HerSubject
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Thank you for posting, HS. Your view is very helpful. I have 2 small children and I was worried that would be an issue for my Sir, since he’s 21 and has no kids of his own yet. He loves them though and wants us to have more children together. We have now realized and understand that we have found something very unique for as young as we are; many people here have told me that. We feel very lucky and are holding on tight to this love and D/s we have established. 🙂 Thanks for your thoughts, much appreciated!
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