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Kissing: Sensual Oral Communication
How deeply do you and your Sir communicate through kissing?
SO much can be ‘spoken’ with a kiss. During vanilla times and times when my sex drive was low, without realizing it, my standard “kiss” was a peck on the lips and I’d return to what I was doing, so he knew when I WAS “in the mood” because that is when some tongue play happened. But, even then, that was the extent of communication through kissing for us in the few yrs leading up to the D/s-M lifestyle.
We’ve learned so much already about communication, not only verbal, but physical, and that certainly includes <3 kissing <3 . We can tell each other what we desire with the movement of our mouths, lips, tongues…the pressure or softness of it, the way that he uses his mouth to let me know where he REALLY wants it to be, and I love it that I can let him know how much I want him in my mouth by the way that I use it when we kiss. The wetness of it, the sound of the breathing, the ways in which we move our tongues in a very specific way in order to convey to the other what exactly it is that we desire.
As a sub, that is especially powerful for me, because I can convey my immediate desire without speaking a word and while falling into him, submitting and enjoying his control of my body and take deep pleasure in the moment, knowing that he’s fully in control and he is ‘hearing’ my desires through the way our mouths are moving together.
Kissing is also a beautiful way to express pleasure and to give positive feedback without words when something is happening that I LOVE and want more of.
It’s actually an amazing and powerful communication tool, and I look forward to exploring it further and finding new ways to communicate with him through kissing, expressing needs, desire, pleasure, intensity, and all of that can happen anywhere at all.
I think that, too often, kissing is underrated and underutilized. - 2 Replies
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I love kissing Sir…I mean REALLY kissing him. We do the normal “peck” all the time when we say hello or goodbye (we never greet or leave each other with out doing so), but when it’s that true intimate moment where we are just devouring each other is so intimate. It’s a build up and I agree, it is its own form of communication. I will say though, that when we are having a scene, especially one that is an intense TPE with impact, I DO NOT like kissing. I am in a state where it almost makes me feel claustrophobic and my mind is not in a state of tenderness. It took us a while to figure that out, but now we know and everything goes perfectly.
So, kissing during “normal” times, yes! Kissing during scenes, no, lol!Smooches,
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I agree, V! There’s a time and a place for it, and during intense scenes isn’t it. 🙂
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