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Introductions
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That was a beautiful post, Yozakura! I wholeheartedly agree. My submission is not in conflict with my faith. I’m so glad you are here.
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Hi, I’m Anya, 27 from London. I’m new to the community in a sense, as in I’ve never had a D/s relationship, but I’ve been craving it for years. My circumstances doesn’t allow for me to get out there as such and I just needed to find a place not so intimidating where I can get to know more and be myself. Hopefully this is that place.
I look forward to getting to know you all.Anya
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Hi Everyone. I’m Sansa, 43 and live in San Francisco. My Sir is Ziggy on Husdom and we’ll be married 10 years in September, but have known each other almost 20 years. (We dated for two years, broke up for six years, but stayed best friends, then rekindled and got married after 6 months.) We have two children ages 9 and 7. We dabbled in light BDSM in our 20’s, but broke up before things really got going. When we got married we had kids right away, so my interest in this world had to be put on hold for awhile. Sir and I had been going through a very challenging time in our marriage these past couple years, and I wasn’t sure we’d even last. D/s has honestly saved our marriage. After years together, I was finally able to open up about my interest in BDSM and he was open to it again. The more I read and researched, I realized I am a true submissive and wanted to be in a 24/7 D-s relationship. It’s what I’ve always craved but didn’t even realize it or think “normal people” could have that type of relationship. Anyway, we’ve only embarked on this adventure for 2 months now, but it’s been amazing so far. We’ve probably had more sex in the past 2 months than we did all of the last two years combined. 🙂 My biggest challenge is that My Sir doesn’t want to move as fast as I do. I feel like I’ve finally found “my people” in the D/s world and the kind of relationship I’ve always wanted, so I was ready to dive in head first. Sir wants to move slow and “let things happen organically” which is a bit frustrating since I know exactly what I want (D/s-M), but we’ve come to a pretty good compromise so far and our relationship has never been stronger or sexier. Because we live in San Francisco we’re very lucky to have a thriving kink community here and lots of resources, but I haven’t found anything that focuses on married D/s relationships, so I’m thrilled to find this community on Submrs. Looking forward to learning from all of you!
-Sansa
p.s. I’ve convinced Sir to take a class with me tomorrow night here in the city called “Bedroom Kink for Beginners” and it’s taught by a locally famous Dom and his sub partner of 20 years named Stefano and Shaye. Should be interesting and I hope to learn a lot!:-) -
Hello all,
I am stormy, an artist and a medical researcher/professor and I have just turned 50, married 30 years–hopefully soon-to-be subMrs to Doc, age 64.. an incredibly sexy, strong, super smart scientist and geek (hopefully, Human development psychologists do will do demographic and psych studies on all of us, with the open-information we post, to help open doors for future generations). Anyway, it took me 10 years into our marriage, due to severe medical issues with our daughter and living under “survival mode” for 15 years of our marriage, to tell him about my needs.
It was and is difficult to get him to understand my 24/7 sub needs, except for the kinky sex of course. Many years went by until our children were grown and I felt I could push harder. Two years ago I ramped up my efforts, the internet is so helpful. I started by sending him photos and gifs. from BDSM and Spanking blogs, while I was out of town, and he responded in the sweetest way..he ran out to a sporting goods store and bought a ping pong paddle, and then to a tack store and bought a crop. About the minute I walked back into the house, he practically dragged me by the hair to the bedroom and paddled me till I was stinging and dripping..I made him wait on the crop (was a little scared, but now its one of my favorites besides the lexan paddle, ha). I cried a few days later when I told him it was the best present he had ever bought me because the enthusiasm and the desire to give me what I wanted overrode his fear of hurting me, and that was very encouraging.
Since then the sex has been the best in our lives, and my newly boosted happiness and confidence changed so many aspects of our marriage and our personal growth that I wish I had told him sooner. Now I want him to become more dominant outside of the bedroom. I am very submissive, and very, very, very masochistic/sensation junkie (past events conditioned me as a young child, a future post) and it is a complete turn-on and such a strong need that I get “squirrely”(anxious) if I don’t receive boundaries, instructions, clear expectations, and pain on a regular basis..I actually can’t orgasm unless there is an element of pain, even slight. I thought I was seriously screwed up in the head until I studied some research on “Spanko’s and BDSM players” and then happened on a Fet-Life recommendation to check out subMrs and HusDom since I am in a happy monogamous marriage and don’t like pain unless it comes from my trusted and loving Doc. Ive been stalking this site for a while, and I am astounded at the sensitivity by all the members here..I literally cried the first few days of reading the “available” posts, it was such a relief to see very taboo, sensitive, sometimes scary issues treated with intelligence, respect, open-mindedness, and great care. Its an even greater relief not to be stalked by PREDATORS posing as DOM’s when you are just asking questions, or to be treated with contempt or hostility by immature voyeurs. Your posts have already relaxed me, I’m not worried about the “how-to’s” anymore, I’m not afraid to ask questions, and I really hope Doc will get into the HusDom site and grow into a satisfied dominant..though he is such a sensitive, respectful man, who was physically abused as a child, and who witnessed the severe abuse of his mother, that it is going to be hard for him to get over his “kid-glove” approach to our marriage…he is enjoying the benefits though.
Demonstrating MORE submissive behavior than I subtly show already, asking for a respectful ritual such as kneeling, and encouraging him to read and get advice from MALE Dominants rather than from me was great advice I learned here on my first viewing, Thanx.
I will be asking lots of questions and advice, and I hope to contribute my experience, but I can’t thank you enough for this forum. I know it takes a lot of time and energy to share and help others here, but it is truly valued!
Sincerely relieved,
stormyfeathers
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Hello everyone. I have been plugging around the site for a few weeks now and finally have the courage to introduce myself.
I am an Insurance professional in management (I make a lot of decisions and have a lot of control at work). I have been married to my Sir for 14 years. We have two children (14, 10). I just recently started discussing my desires with him. A lot of which I think stems from the amount of responsibility and control I have at work. I want to surrender all of my home/marriage/wife stress and trust that he will lead me. He seems open to the discussion, but I am worried he isn’t truly Dominant. We have enjoyed talking about different sexual things and about my desires to submit. He has started a few rules, but I am overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. I have read the blog from start to finish (thank you LK for sharing), but still find I need some direction. Any assistance is appreciated. 🙂
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Hello, I am 32 years old been with my sir husband for over twelve years. We have four kids. I use to run a large company but for the past four years I have been a stay at home mom since our last two children were born. My sirhusband has always preferred that traditional type of dynamic and so do I. Our marriage has always been vanilla with lots of argument’s conflict in general we separated and divorced for three years before getting back together. For a while now things have been back to that struggle between the both of us. I have always been a difficult one to express my self. After a long while now of hearing him say what is wrong with you I can’t help you if I don’t know why you are so miserable, I went to him a few weeks ago and expressed my needs wants and desires as best I could. That I wanted him to become my dom. I keep trying to get him to husdom.com but practing some patients. Guiding him isn’t easy I have always just sat back and went along with what ever he wanted.
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Hello
I’m 42 married to my Sir for 18 years who is on HusDom and new to this. It’s been about 4 weeks since I told him I wanted him to take command and he has embraced it with a firmness I didn’t know he had and I love it. We’re talking and loving more than we have in a while or maybe ever and I am glad to have found a forum for me to ask questions of other married subs.
So – nice to meet you all! ?
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Hello all. I’m 39 years old and have been with my husband since I was 17. We have 4 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I’m a Nurse and he’s a retired contractor who has an eBay business. I asked him to join me into this journey after discovering it in a romance novel (not 50 shades), one that actually educated me on the lifestyle and consent and contracts. He jumped right in with his entire being and we quickly realized that we have been very much a D/s-M couple since the beginning and didn’t know it! Part of my tasks are now to get all the information I can and report back to him. I also thought it was important to find some like minded people as my 2 friends don’t really want to hear about my adventures too much.
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Hi! I am 53 years old and Sir is 54. We blended our families 7+ years ago. I have 2 children – a 24 year old working in Corporate America and a 21 year old senior in college. Sir has 2 kids, 15 and 13 who live with us 50% of the time. We love each other very much however we have experienced a roller coaster of ups and downs with one common thread – arguing for situational control. After much research and soul searching I realize the D/s-M dynamic is what we need. I spent many years as a single mom and climbing the corporate ladder – always in charge and always on point. It is time for me to ‘let go’ and allow the man I love to take the reins. I asked for FA on Saturday and he said ‘YES’. We still have a lot of work to do BUT our journey began July 22!
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Hi
I’m DelicateSnow, reintroducing myself after beginning away for sometime. 37 years old with two children, married for 8 years & have been exploring d/s for around 3 years.
Nice to be back 😇
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The basics…I am 47, and we’ve been together 7 years. Between us, we have 5 5 kids, aged 26 to 12. We started out in a vvanilla and long distance relationship. We’ve lived together 5 years now. The vanilla was ok. But I got frustrated one day, and felt something was missing. I was too scared to tell him…and didn’t know what it was I wanted to say. I wrote him a letter, in which I basically said…please stop treating me like a delicate China doll that might break. We started to incorporate some bedroom things. It was awesome! And I was totally greedy. He still couldn’t seem to take it up to the level I wanted, but it was good. Then he was on a trip that got delayed. He was stuck in LaGuardia for 28 hours. We were texting the whole time…and he was in total frustrated beast mode when he got home…fast forward, and he’s apologizing for how rough he was and I was sitting there telling him it was absolutely hands down the best I ever had…and if I had to, I’d send him back to the airport if it meant I’d get it again. So we turned another corner….in the last two weeks, we’ve realized we are ready for even more. This time, I am away from home. We’ve talked at length, worked on details, and when I return home, I will be ready to kneel for FA…with both of us ready to start this new chapter together.
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How awesome is that!
Welcome to the rabbit hole (aka the Warren)!
Smooches,
V
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Good evening everyone!
I’m theoneyouwishyouknew, age 33, I’m married with a 3 year old child and I live in rural England. I told my hubby about my submissive tendencies about 5 months ago now (after 10 years together, better late than never!). He is your stereotypical ‘nice guy’ in every way, but he wants to try it out, at a slow pace. We have also been going slowly with it because of circumstances (living with my fairly young father-in-law who never sleeps or goes out, and hubby works away a lot).
A few weeks ago when we did actually have the whole house to ourselves, we got a bit tipsy and ended up getting out every toy we owned and having a very naughty play session in the living room.
After that, hubby said he felt more connected to me than he has in ages, and I knew I couldn’t go back to how we used to be. We still have a house full of random family staying with us, so zero privacy at the moment…. so we’re forced to take things slow, but its okay because I’m hoping to use the time on here to get lots of ideas! And maybe make some platonic but open minded female friends too 🙂
Looking forward to sharing ideas with you all
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Welcome! Come join us in the chat room when you’re comfortable!
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Hi everyone,
I’m 37, married for 12 years, together 17. We have one teenage daughter. We’ve been exploring d/s for a few months now. My husband found HusDom and I think we’ve found our niche here. Hubby is MrBomber on HusDom. I’m looking forward to learning more x -
Hello!
I am not sure what to say about myself. My husdom and I are very new to the lifestyle and are unbelievably happy to have found such a wonderful place to make new friends. I feel alone on this journey as I cant share this with my friends or my family. This lifestyle has us both feeling like when we were dating. We are excited to try new things and grow together.
We are in our late 40’s and have two older children in college.
We live in the near Houston Texas.
Thanks so much for making a place like this.
Cant wait to me others like me.
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Welcome to submrs! You are not alone, we are here for you! Come on into the Warren Chat room when you are ready!
Smooches,
V
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Daddy’s bbg (beautiful baby girl). He nicknamed me that from the very beginning. I’m 36 and have 3 girls. 2 from a previous marriage and my little one is with my Sir. We have been together for 2 1/2 years. I introduced him to D/s a year ago. He’s now ready to jump in with me and it is amazing!!!! He loves TTWD 😊💕 I’m loving this site bc it is real for real people. Thank you for this wonderful community of committed couples making this dynamic shine with all its beauty.
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Welcome! We love new friends and subport members. I am Prix (Pree), married to Mister Barber for 12 years and D/s-M for almost 2. We have two beautiful boys and live near the WI border. I am 30 and try to get on as often as I can, but am doing clinicals and finishing my grad degree this quarter. Feel free to PM any of us. We are all very supportive.
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Welcum to the site Daddy’s bbg. We are all real people dealing with all the everyday things while trying our best to do D/s-m. When you get a chance come on over to the warren chat and join us in a conversation.
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I am new to everything. Older at 46. My Sir likes to be called Master in our room and My Love anywhere public so that’s what I call him here and everywhere else. He wanted something we could use out in public that wasn’t obvious but he didn’t want me using his name. We have really been enjoying each other again and all the things I have read in the blog and from different people have been really helpful.
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That’s wonderful and welcome!
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Hello, I’m 39, been with my husband for 21 years, married for nearly 19. we have three kids, 18,15, and 12. I am so very new to this whole thing. I was given the information about this thru a very amazing friend who is on here. I have sorta brought up the idea of D/s to my husband, but he knows how hard headed I am and doesn’t think I would ever be a sub to him. I am a control freak and so this will be a struggle for me. To be brutally honest we have struggled for years to stay married. I love him dearly and would do anything to bring a sense of refreshens to our marriage, hoping this helps. I am ready for the change and ready to do what it takes to be an amazing sub (slowly of course). I may “lurk” for a while till I get a better feel of how to get him to say yes!
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Welcome!!! I’m sure once you get to know the other subs on here, you will find a lot of strong-willed women with whom you have lots in common. 🙂
Come join us in The Warren Chat.
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