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Insights thus Far…
OK so 6 months into “TTWD” and with being just a few weeks into the new year I felt it is a good time to review what I have learned so far. LK has been talking a lot about renewing your D/s, yourself, and such so why not post what I have learned so far to maybe help others just starting. So here goes….hope you enjoy.
1. It will take time! I know, I know, this is not something we like, but it is true. Sure you’ve done some research, read some books, asked if he would join you in this ( or vice versa) you both want it so that’s it right….WRONG. No matter how many times you wish it or rub the magic lamp,lol… it doesn’t just happen. It takes time and effort but the reward is very much worth it. Be patient grasshopper.
2. There is no “right” way. No formula or exact protocol to get you there. Think of it this way if you will. You are at point A you want to get to point B but it seems so far…..what do you do? Well LK’s site is your GPS (Husdom for the guys) it will lead you to where you want to go. However LK’s point B is not exactly like mine or yours and that is ok, but with her guidance she can get you to yours. ( so will the other ladies as well but more on them later ) So your traveling your path and you hit a road block and are not sure what to do. You message LK and she will help guide you to where you lost your way. Did you forget to make the pit stop at Foundations? Maybe you thought you would take the short cut around Formal acceptance. Where ever the detour was she will help you see how to get back on your path. Communication is Key in this. No communication and it is like driving with no gas, you will never get where you want to go.
3. Being a Sub can be hard, but remember learning to be a Dom isn’t easy either. So cut yourself and him a bit of slack if it is not going as smoothly as you had hoped.
4. Stop trying to be perfect. Things happen. Life happens. It is ok. IF a scene didn’t go the way you thought it would or maybe you lost your temper, it is ok. As long as you remember to talk about it, see where it went wrong, what needs to be fixed, it will be ok.
5. You are never alone on any part of this. The ladies on this site are all great people. They will listen when you need to vent, answer questions you ask ( any question no matter how silly you may thing it is ask it they will answer, newbies KLB in awesome if your just starting out) no judgement is ever cast on anyone, they are always good for a laugh or hug if your feeling down, Lt’s picture shows are legendary,lol. Whether we are just chatting on life, kink or books ( June’s book club so much fun) all the ladies here are awesome. I don’t care if this is your first day or your 3 years in TTWD join a chat once and awhile you will thank yourself later.
6. I can’t thank LK enough for creating a safe pace for us to learn and grow in this. ( oh and Mr. Fox too )
7. I still have a lot to learn. I slip up, I mess up, I am famous for over thinking, I am learning to accept things about myself, but you know what…. I am ok with that. I have a great husband who loves me for me. I slip up, he lends a hand. I mess up, he corrects and we move on. I over think, he quiets my mind. I discover things about myself, he accepts them and helps me grow in those areas. So although I still have a lot to learn with him and you all by myside…..I will get to point B 😉
* to anyone not mentioned above and you may have helped me thus far you are awesome too please know that, but this post would never end if I tried to list you all….hugs.
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Bravo Hislove! I could not have said it any more plainer myself. Patience, understanding, honest communication, and taking the steps by coming out on the LK site and learning from like minded people. Ask questions in chat and don’t feel like you should be were everyone else is in your journey. It doesn’t matter, we all live and have a different family life and our journey’s are different. Like you said, reach out to LK if you need guidance she will get you on the right path. Subtastic Hislove!
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This was a wonderful post, Hislove! Such a great analogy with the “pitstop at foundations” and “short cut around Formal Acceptance” – I giggled but they were so spot on!
We all have so much to learn from each other and you’re absolutely right about LK and Mr. Fox providing a safe haven where we can connect, learn, and grow with TTWD. Thanks for a great post, lady!
xoxoxo
june
PS – I’m so glad you’re enjoying Book Club 😀 -
i love this ll! Really needed a lot of these points tonight.
Overthinking oh yeah that is totally me. I’ll have to hit you up for suggestions on that.
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