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Hubby's gaming buddy!
Hello everyone. Well, I didn’t think this’d happen. I’ve been honest about my desires to my husband for 8 months or so now. We have a busy family home and very little privacy so we don’t often get to have even vanilla sex, let alone anything more creative. Hubby has seemed hesitant to get going on the domination stuff. He’s alarmed that it’s abusive. Despite me saying its not. I’ve suggested he ease in with non-impact domination and said endleasly its all about the mindset. The few times we have played, He’s said that afterwards he felt closer to me and that it was amazing.
Anyway I’ve discovered recently that hubby’s gaming buddy who we’ve known for years … He’s actually into the local bdsm scene, goes to shibari demonstrations in London, and has been dabbling in bdsm for a year or more. I was surprised to hear his talk about all this over prepping dinner, and then I changed the subject instinctively when my sister walked in the room. I think he clocked that I knew what kinbaku was without an explanation though. Anyway my husband is now weighing up whether to seek his advice/mentorship for becoming more Dom.
I think itll be easier for him to process this stuff coming from a guy friend that he trusts. He is so protective of me. Around his guy friends he is less of a softy. I’ve directed him to a zillion Husdom /SubMrs pages and also the BDSM for nice guys website and he wants to get on board but he cant quite get his head into gear… even though I can see he is nearly there in so many ways! He absolutely loves being one mental step ahead of me for example. He purrs when I trust him. The basics are there. So maybe an actual guy chat might help bring them out?
I just wondered if anyone else had experienced a similar situation? And how it played out? Or any thoughts or things I should consider going forward. Also will I be able to look this guy in the eye affer wards and will dinners and playdates wiith the kids ever be the same! I think not but it might be worth it!
Thanks in advance for your thoughts, subbies!
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