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Hello There! Daily Rituals/ Rules?
Hi Everyone,
I decided to finally do a little introductory post after exploring this great community for a week or two. I hope that this is the appropriate forum as I’m not exactly a new submissive.
My husband and I have been married for about four years, but our D/s dynamic has really been developing ever since our relationship began over 7 years ago. We made the formal decision when we married.
I already really like this community and hope I am able to learn a lot as well as share my own experiences. My husband is also a member of husdom under the name “DasDoc”.
The main question/ topic discussion I would like to share now pertains to daily rituals/ rules/ routines. I’m wondering if any of you would be willing to share yours with me. I have been exploring this community, but I’m looking for more ideas. I’m still craving more daily reminders in my relationship as my submissive role/ his dominant role, especially as we are apart from each other all day.
Thank you so much!
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Hi Honey Dew! Great question! I’m looking forward to reading what other couples do. I kneel before my Sir each day but not always at the same time each day. I have a notebook that stays open on the kitchen counter where Sir can write my daily tasks. I also wear a day collar that I can’t take off. I kneel at the bedside and ask for permission to get into bed. Sir also picks out what I am to wear to bed including which panties. These are the consistent daily rituals that we have been able to stick to. We try to do Downtime a few times per week and I’m trying to journal every day. Sir also created a productivity list for me and for him where we can each rate how we are both doing in our Ds each day. While it may seem like overkill to some, it has really helped to remind us each of roles and responsibilities. We rate 1-5 (5 is good, 1 is bad) For instance some questions I can rate Sir on:. Did Sir express his Dominance over Star today? Did Sir communicate his commands clearly today? Did Sir follow through with punishments and corrections today? And some questions Sir can rate me on:. Did star complete her daily list? Did star respect Sir today? Did star serve Sir’s needs today? Did star offer herself sexually to Sir today? These questions sometime change as we find areas that need to be worked on. It is almost like Downtime on paper. And sometimes we fill it out first then talk about it before bed and sometimes we read a question outloud and answer openly as we go. If we get a low score on something we talk about why. It has really helped us do Ds on a daily basis and get used to living this lifestyle naturally instead of forgetting our roles. It is a process but this is what has really helped us get more into a natural rhythm within the Ds dynamic.
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My favorite ritual is my Dream Thought. I am an insomniac, and have a very hard time shutting my mind down at bedtime. Sir now gives me a “thought” every night. It might be a picture, a quote, just an image and they range from completely innocent to vividly explicitly sexual. I to close,my eyes and concentrate on that until I fall asleep. It works almost like guided meditation. First thing in the morning, I to text him what I dreamed. My day ends with an image Sir gives me, begins with my mirroring back to him what my brain dud with it. We’ve found the dreams can express my anxieties, my fantasies, and give us a starting point for some interesting conversation. We are working on other rituals…kneeling before bed, etc. But dream thought has been something uniquely special. He uses his dominence to quiet my mind, to help me do something healthy (sleep) and to further open our lines of communication.
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That is very beautiful. Thank you for sharing. I love how your Sir takes care of you. Very thoughtful and loving.
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Hi there,
I posted our starter set of rules back when we made the list, but they have evolved significantly since some things didn’t play out the way we thought they would. 😉 Here is the current version:
1. Sir will choose my collar daily and will put it on me.
2. Twice per month, buy panties, bra, or lingerie that will be pleasing to Sir.
3. I am Sir’s alarm clock and will wake him up with my mouth on his cock.
4. Journal once per week about our D/s-M. Whenever a new journal entry has been completed, leave the journal on Sir’s nightstand for him to read and reflect upon before our next Downtime.
5. Any and all masturbation must be approved ahead of time.
6. The bed belongs to Sir, and I join him in it as his submissive.
7. Keep the house clean and organized.
8. Work out 4 times per week and maintain current weight.
9. Try out one new healthy recipe per week.
Hugs!
Staci-
I find the exercise one to be quite challenging due to time constraints yet so good for us subs to keep feeling sexy for our Sirs!
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So we have a few rules and rituals. Some of the rules I have are ask for permission to drink whiskey and only ask if I’ve eaten well that day, take care of Sir’s property (meaning me), don’t touch Sir’s tools (meaning the impact toys), no self harm, do as Sir says, open and honest communication, no contacting members in the community without Sir’s permission, I am to walk daily for 30 minutes, ask if I can flash plastic before I do so, let him know my where abouts and so on.
Rituals we have are I am to have Sirs work clothes out ready for him the next morning, every night after the kids are upstairs I am to present Sir my collar and his leash to him kneeling, we have DT (also known as down time at least once a week, and Friday mornings are mouth hug mornings.
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Hello, MrH and I have been together 23 years (married for 18) but have only transitioned to D/s-M about 3 months ago. We have two rituals.. every morning and every night I kneel at the foot of the bed and MrH stands behind me. He kisses my forehead and exchanges my neck wear (I have a day chain and a night collar) then he kisses my forehead again and asks me “who’s are you?” I reply “I am yours” he then says “good girl” and I am allowed to stand. When we have a downtime we have a ritual to start and end it… I kneel at his side and he removes my neck wear. And he asks me to sit at his side. When the downtime is ended I kneel and he puts my neck wear back on. After he has done this he will ask me “who’s are you?” And I will reply ” I am yours, I give myself to you, my body is yours for you to use in whatever way pleases you, I will do anything you ask of me without question or hesitation. My heart and soul are yours”
Hope this helps you
Sweetgirl
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