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First Dinner Function as D/s
Sir and I have been doing 24/7 D/s for just shy of two months. Last night we attended our first event dinner since starting our D/s relationship. The event included some of Sir’s colleagues, their spouses and some singles. The relationships that surrounded us were as new as engaged couples up to people that have been married for many years. Last night was the first time that we interacted with other couples, outside of family, in the vanilla world since we started D/s. The experience was enlightening.
The change of the connection and openness between Sir and I feels drastic to us. We know intimately how we used to interact before starting our D/s relationship and how we are different now. I think we really did not understand what the vanilla world, outside of our past relationship, looked like from this changed perspective until last night.Our children are small and need caregivers. They were with a trusted sitter most of the day due to other obligations we had. We started getting dressed an hour or so before the event was to start. I have been paying attention to my attire, makeup, hair, etc more since starting D/s. I do this because I know it pleases Sir. If I’m being completely honest with myself, it makes me happy and more confident too. We both dress to impress. I am in a little black dress and my silver (discrete) day collar and Sir wears slacks, a black oxford, his leather necklace with his BDSM style Triskele charm on it, slightly hidden behind his shirt collar. He also does his hair in a way he knows drives me crazy. My day collar, the thong I have under my dress, and his Triskele are just a few reminders to each other of this special bond we now share. I wear my collar all of the time and he wears his leather necklace more frequently than not while not working.
After getting dressed we have a moment before departing that included embracing and a light OTK erotic spanking. Who could really resist that with the undergarments I chose, the sky high heels, and having the house all to ourselves in the middle of the day? Needless to say we felt incredibly connected as we departed for this dinner. Had we not already RSVPed and our absence been noticed, I am not certain we would have made it to the event.
We arrive and join the gathered group outside of the event location. The electricity between us obviously still there and strong. It becomes immediately noticeable how other couples, vanilla couples, are interacting. There are no secret looks, or smiles, or slight touches. There are no short whispers in the ear, or hand holding, or even arm around the back of a chair. The couples we were interacting within ranges from appearing to be business partners to actually looking fairly unhappy, with each other or maybe just life in general.Sir and I have been together for 16 years and married 8. I do not think that we have ever experienced happiness like we are now. Pure, untainted happiness. Happiness in life and with each other, all fed by this new dynamic we are applying to our very old relationship. Sir tells me that my submission to him allows him to be who he truly feels he is, with confidence, and it is obvious. We treat each other with the love that we really feel now, daily. There is a burning in his eyes when he says ‘I love you’ now. A phrase that had become so rote over this many years now makes me weak in my knees when he says it. His dominance has breathed new life into me…and us. When you are around people that don’t have it, its absence is obvious and sad. It strengthens my resolve that this bond, this connection, and this commitment is forever. I can never go back to vanilla.
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Thank you so much for sharing this!!
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I cannot thank you enough for sharing this with us. It is exactly what I needed to read in this moment and its so validating.
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There is a burning in his eyes when he says ‘I love you’ now. A phrase that had become so rote over this many years now makes me weak in my knees when he says it.
i love this line. such a testament to how a D/s relationship can help a marriage
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Mala,
What a a happy share! I agree for us, after25 years of marriage….we are communicating having the best kink sex ever. We are only about 4 months. 24/7 for me everyday I’m still working on letting go of the past…vanilla way. Keeping my seatbelt buckled in the passenger seat lol. Look forward to seeing you on chat ❤️Curveysub
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