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Ebb and Flow… Our First Ebb
Sir and I are new to this incredible lifestyle. We are learning as we go with the help of SubMrs and HusDom – resources we could have never succeeded without. Throughout our entire relationship and marriage, we’ve wanted each other but have never clicked. For this first time, we’re in our correct roles and are so happy with full hearts and extreme desire for one another. My biggest fear has been losing it, and we recently had our first major “Ebb” where an argument caused us both to go vanilla, and it was terrifying. The argument occurred because sir was disappointed in my behavior when family visited our home. I made decisions without considering him, sat completely away from him, and basically focused on everyone and everything but him. We’re new to this lifestyle and are still learning to understand working within downtime and the importance of calling downtime for issues like this. So, in our newness, my sir caught me off guard by confronting me about this while I was bathing. My response was negative and completely evident in my body language: eye rolling, aggressive tone, defensiveness. He responded by making critical statements about the last time I knelt for him, which wounded me deeply. I don’t recover from hurt like that easily. As a result, walls went up between us and almost didn’t come down. We knew we were on the precipice of disaster and didn’t know a way out. On our own, we each returned to submrs and husdom looking for answers. I chatted with a moderator, who gave some great suggestions for reopening communication. He found an article about “Ebbs and Flows” on husdom. In less than 24 hours, he shared the article with me, which helped us both understand we’re normal and will recover! Later, LK reached out to me, and she helped me reestablish my purpose… go kneel, show your willingness to submit, give sir his “dom” back, and communicate during downtime. The Ebb and Flow post gave us a three step process for regrouping, which we followed. It’s taken a couple of days to fully regroup, but we have and are so grateful for the guidance and support that helped us navigate our disaster and find our joy, again. Thank you SubMrs and HusDom! Forever D/s-M
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That is great, Mrs. Coach! I love that both of you are working hard for your dynamic! Kudos!
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“Throughout our entire relationship and marriage, we’ve wanted each other but have never clicked.”
Wow I so get that!
I love that you shared.
It is awesome to come here and realize you aren’t alone.
My Sir mentioned that article as well. 🙂 -
Mrs. Coach…. Thank you for such kind words. Here I want to make sure each submissive is safe and feels a part of the whole. To be honest my moderators are told if they talk to a submissive and they seem to be having an issue to let me or KLB know so we can follow up with them, one on one… Thanks to MrsW her concern she let me know that you may need a little help and some kind words. So I followed up with you the next morning. I am so happy that you did not back away from the community like some do.. and when its so important you get subport. We are here..I am here.. We all work together to make sure everyone is cared for..and what do we ask for in return? Pay it forward. Be there for the next woman or man that needs an ear. Be encouraging or just be an ear to let them vent. Be submissive and be honest.. Thank you for sharing this testimony. HUGS! XOXOXO LK
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Mrs. Coach – I’ll have to ask Sir to share the Ebb and Flow article with me. We haven’t hit a heavy ebb in a few months, but I’d love to know the three step process. Through this site, I’ve found many useful processes, mantras, whatever-you’d-call-them that help me clear my head, empty conflicting emotions and focus on our core.
LK – I have to tell you that many have paid it forward on here. You set an amazing tone and have truly built a community. Even when I hit a rough road where I don’t have much time to cum here, I lurk when I can grab a few minutes. Just being in the atmosphere of acceptance and sharing here reassures me that I’m not alone, or weird (lol).
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