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D/s ok with God?
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I asked myself this same question when I stumbled upon D/S. My husband and both are followers of Jesus and have been working in youth ministry for over 10 years. I know I make mistakes daily, but I never want to do anything that is intentionally against God’s will. So, I run everything through my Jesus filter, which is basically just seeing how it aligns with Scriptures. What I soon realized, is that d/s aligned perfectly to a Biblical marriage. Most everyone knows the scripture of ‘wives submit yourselves unto your husband’ and most people stop there. But if you study and read further, what you find is how God commands the husband to love and respect his wife. I could write an essay of the different characteristics and how they compare, but for sake of time I won’t. What I can say is that the characteristics and attributes that a Godly husband should be, mirror a good Dominant. And at the core is love. A Godly husband is to love his wife. A good dominant is to love his submissive.
So what about the kink? In my opinion, society has perverted sex. Society has turned it into this dirty monster that is a secret guilty pleasure we should never talk about. Here is the deal – God ordained sex! Sex is a beautiful thing! God wants us to get pleasure from it. Don’t believe me? Grab a Bible and turn to the Book of Solomon. You definitely can’t read your kiddos a bedtime story from this book. It’s very descriptive but in such a sensual way. And again, the tie that binds is love.
So in the end, in my opinion, I do not think God has a problem with a d/s marriage. In fact I think it’s how He has wanted it from the beginning! -
To answer LK’s question:
Some may find this strange, but I never asked that question. Mostly because I felt absolutely no convictions about it. If anything there was an affirmation that this is right and ok. I will not get preachy or pull out any scripture (but I can in private if one would like to message me privately 😉 lol), but I feel like this is how it is supposed to be anyway and all we are doing is really getting back to how a marriage should function in the eyes of God. As far as the kinky or BDSM side? It is my personal opinion that there are very few sexual acts that a man and wife can do in their bedroom that would displease Him. He gave us the ability to have sexual pleasure and we are expected to have sex with each other…and ENJOY IT! It is a physical manifestation of two becoming one….so what if that involves some spanking, vibrators or what ever! LOL -
This was very helpful to read! Thank you ladies for sharing and being so open. This is something I’ve struggled with and have researched myself and I’ve come to agree with you too! As scripture states, I feel it is right to submit fully to him and take pleasure in our journey!
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Who else would your God want you to experience your “garden of eden” with?
HUGS! LK
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a share from Curvey …
I dont pretend to quote any book …but, if memory serves…..
In one book …God made Eve so , Adam would not be alone. He thought Adam needed a helper 😉
Our Male & Females bodies are designed to connect like glorius pieces of a puzzle…when they connect it brings Joy, Pleasure, Happiness ……
all sounds good to Curvey ;–)
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Totally enjoyed reading this tread. Thank all of you for sharing. Batty
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I am a christian and was raised that sex was a bit of a dirty secret. My HusDom and I have always been close but I have never enjoyed our sexual relationship as much as I have since starting D/s. The verse mentioned several times in this thread about wives submitting to their own husbands has been the scripture for sermons over the last few weeks. This thread has been such an encouragement to me as I have pondered this question over the last few weeks within myself. Thank you to everyone who has contributed here. I have been very blessed reading through all the comments.
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God created D/s relationships…
Too many people focus on the negative term society has given it..
But in reality “every relationship” is D/sGod/man
Parent/child
Teacher/student
Boss/employee
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I loved reading this topic.
I have to say I never wondered about whether or not ttwd is ok with God. I’ve always learned that wives submit to God first then to their husband. And that spouses should enjoy one another on every level they can and that includes sex. So for me it’s never been an issue. It might have been the reason why ttwd is so Ppealing to me. Not that I started this out based on religion but the beliefs you carry obviously have roots into religion of you are religious ofcourse. Lol
Although I’m not a Christian I believe that would be the same for them as it is for me.Jezz
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Thanks for commenting Jezz, Please keep commenting in the forum threads… HUGS! LK
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I have heard this topic come up several times in chat in the last couple of days. I was surprised to hear new subs say that they felt being a Christian would put them in the minority within the D/s-M community.
Sir and I are very active in our church. My personal feeling is that there is no conflict between D/s-M and my faith. I believe that my submission to my husband is well within God’s plans for me.
Hugs!
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I agree with you completely Stace. Wolf and I have long been very active in our local Christian community. I find no conflict between my faith and D/s-m and I have searched. I feel more at peace with God when I am fulling submitting to Wolf.
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This is an excellent topic. Trying to squelch my desire for a D/s relationship after we were married just about destroyed my marriage. I was consumed with guilt and shame for the desires of my heart, which were to submit to my husband. I was convinced that the kink aspect of my desires were sinful, and so in an attempt to fall in line with what I thought would be pleasing to God…my husband and I attempted to strictly vanilla. It ripped the carpet out from under our entire relationship. we had been D/s our entire dating lives, and suddenly had lost the one connection that made us …US. I believe that the way we expressed our D/s outside of marriage…going to public clubs, play parties, etc was outside of God’s plans for our lives. The baggage that created has been hard to overcome, but we are depending on the grace and forgiveness that God offers to cover that sin. We have asked God to restore the years that the enemy has stolen from us, and he is doing an amazing new work in our marriage through D/s M. I am learning to submit to my husband and he is learning to lead our home in ways that we never imagined before. Biblically, I see nothing wrong with the “kink” aspect, as long as it stays within the confines of honoring and loving/respecting one another as we were commanded by God to do. I am so thankful to you, LK, for starting a talk on this subject, because it gives an opportunity to be reassured and to know that we, as Christians, are not alone in the D/s M world.
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i’m several years late to this conversation but words cannot describe how happy i am to have found it!
i’ve been struggling with this since Master and i discovered D/s-m. We are Christian in a very black & white church. The only gray area is what happens in the bedroom. There is a lot of church culture that has spread some unofficial “rules.” But sometimes it is hard to decipher what is culture and what is doctrine when everyone around you takes the culture as truth.
Because of all of that, i’ve been worrying if i would have to choose. Religion or D/s? In my heart i know i would choose D/s but it was a hard pill to swallow and admit.
i’m so grateful for this thread because now i have the confidence to continue on this beautiful journey without choosing one or the other.
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I’m glad you found this, as I haven’t seen it. Sir ᏩᏯ and I are christians and since finding D/s we have said several times how nice it would have been if the G-rated side of D/s was at least introduced to new couples in their premarital counceling. For ME, I submit to God first, He’s like my Top-DOM, then to my Sir ᏩᏯ who also submits to Him. It reminds me of an image I saw when I was young but never understood: God holds the big umbrella over Sir ᏩᏯ and he holds a smaller umbrella over me and I hold a still smaller one over any minor children. 🙂
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i love that!
i need to share that with Master. Thank you!
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