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D/s while Traveling (with family)
We are leaving for a week-long trip with Red’s family tomorrow. I can tell he’s feeling anxious. We generally get on quite well with his family but there are times where tension can build and people start snapping at each other.
What are some things I can do to be supportive and bolster his confidence? I plan on asking him directly as well but wanted to get advice from y’all. I want for us to remember us and our roles with one another even when out of our norm. Thank you!
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Dear Darling,
Recently Greyson and I went away for a long weekend with the family and my son’s friend. We were in close quarters, so there was not much privacy. We took the opportunity to practice having Sir open my car door, and decided that I will walk on his left, so we also practiced that skill. Looking back on the trip, I think I could have brought my journal and kneeled discreetly when the kiddos were at the pool. Playtime was on hold but I did get to practice patience.
Warm regards,
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Darling, When it comes to family, all bets are off. All you can do is maybe make a couple hand signals up before you go. Maybe one that says I am on your side/I love you. Another saying “Do you want to go/Do you want me to interrupt whats going on?
Another good hand signal is meet me in the bathroom in 2 minutes. Excuse yourself and wait for him to knock. You both can grab a few minutes BEFORE people start wondering where you have both disappeared to. LOL! But, these little stollen moments can be enough for you to hug or say I have your back…. Just a couple ideas. Also, take your wand and massage his back and neck before bed at night and maybe he will do the same favor by massaging something of yours later.. LOL!
HUGS!
Best subMrs Wishes!
lk
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I have been looking in to hand signals as a way to try to better continue our dynamic in public. However, all of the hand signal training I find seems to be only for the bedroom. Has anyone come across anything more useful for social interactions?
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Hi, Huntress. My Sir and I have a couple that we use out in public. One is that we are almost always holding hands. If he squeezes my hand, I know he is reminding me of my place. It may be a correction for something or it may be just a gentle reminder. I return the squeeze in order to acknowledge my submission to him. If I do not return the squeeze, it is seen as an act of defiance that will be dealt with in privacy later.
Another one we do is that he will slide his glasses down and look over the rim at me. My response to that is to lightly touch the front of my day collar, acknowledging his collar on my neck and the submission it represents. again, this may be a correction, or it may just be a form of encouragement saying, “I’m here for you, draw on my strength”, etc. When it is meant as encouragement, it helps me calm down and re-focus. When it s a correction, sometimes it takes every ounce of strentgh to lightly and lovingly caress the collar. It is our public version of kneeling, and if I’m mad or worked up…it takes a LOT of self control to respond the way I’m supposed to instead of blowing him off. The act of submitting to him in that way often gts my mindset back where it needs to be without him even having to say a word.
Others thing we use are just general motions….he will point to a spot on the ground and expect me to be standing there when he gets back…..or at a chair and I will sit….he pulls a chair out for me when we eat out, and I know that is where he wants me to sit, etc.
Hope these help!
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