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Confused
I hope it is okay for me to post here. Myself and my partner/daddy are very new to all of this. I have always known I am very submissive and have done lots of reading about it, and what is expected of me. My partner, previous to me, had absolutely no knowledge about BDSM and did not know what the acronym even stood for. He is very dominant and quite sadistic. I am very confused about our dynamic currently. We are somewhat doing the little girl/daddy lifestyle but also s/d. I only call him daddy during sex and he says he doesn’t think of me as his little girl outside of sex, but in saying this he still likes to punish me if I don’t do the work I’m supposed to, rewards and praises me if i do stuff i’m meant to, he likes to control what clothes I wear, doesn’t let me masturbate etc… He doesn’t seem to realize how easily he can upset me and doesn’t understand sub drop.
While he likes being called Daddy I’m not sure if he actually is one as in some ways he is not very into the more loving side of LG/D, but in other ways he is. I am very confused and wanting to learn how to better balance our life with our sexual dynamic, and also how I should raise my confusion with him in terms he will understand without dismissing me for nitpicking… He likes to just go with the flow but I would like things more structured so I understand. Submissiveness and dominance comes very easily to each of us. TIA
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