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You can call me Yoza
Greetings from the frozen north! I’m Yozakura, but you can call me Yoza. I’m 37 and married to GrizzledYeti on HusDom. We started dating in college 17 years ago and will have been married 15 years this May. In April we will celebrate our 1 year D/s-M anniversary! We have 4 kids ages 13, 11, 7, and 5. Like so many awesome people Sir and I have “met” through HusDom and subMrs these sites appealed to us because we are both Christians, raised with the belief that the wife should submit to her husband. The problem is that there is very little instruction as to HOW it all works. Not only has HusDom and subMrs shown us how to make the D/s-M model of domination and submission work in a Christian marriage, but it has helped me so much to undo the unintentional damage caused by the church. As a teenager attending Bible camps and youth groups, the leaders pound it into your head that sex is gross and dirty and wrong. Then you get married and they expect you to be able to flip a switch and instantly be able to to fulfill all of your husband’s sexual needs. It was very frustrating for us both. I have learned so much from subMrs so far. It has helped me to be able to fully enjoy God’s gift of sex without all the guilt that normally followed. I’m still learning that it’s ok not to be an uptight prude, and having Sir in total control makes it so much easier because I just do what I am told. 😉 Our only regret is that we didn’t discover this sooner!
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Yoza, I could have written your intro. It was the same for us with the primary difference that it took us an additional 20 to find subMrs and HusDom. I’m so glad you and here and look forward to many interesting discussions!
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I was actually just talking to my Sir about this. If the doors were open we were there. I went to every youth devo and rally in my area. Then church camp every summer. Even had a preacher compare me to dirty tape as a kid… that was fun. At 17 all I could do was manage to do was laugh. I think it all made me angry and rebellious more than the guilt you talk about. I never could fully enjoy sex before marriage but once I said I do it was game on! I still laugh when I think about our honeymoon and how we really only left the room to eat. D/s however I always felt was a different animal. My dirty little secret. Vanilla sex are what most people are use to. Kink is for the freaks. lol Thanks for sharing Yoza! So glad you are here 🙂
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