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What type of Dominant is your partner?
How would you describe your partner’s dominant style – high/med/low protocol, sensual, sadistic, rope enthusiast/rigger, protector, Master, Daddy, Owner, etc., new? What traits does your Dom have? Please don’t feel limited to my list, there are no right or wrong answers here.
My Dom is protective of me, he is my knight in motley armor. My happiness is his happiness and his happiness is mine. He likes taking care of me so I can take care of him. I am his treasure. Our protocol level is pretty low and fairly simple. He loves using me as his sex toy; he loves giving pleasure almost as much as taking it. Some of our play is TPE then he is my Master for the given time period, when my Little comes out he’s my Daddy, but most often he is my Sir, my Sweetheart. He is cleverly creative and loves trying new things.
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Leader/authority figure and instructor
When it comes to his sexuality, he is a primal sadomasochist who likes it passionately rough. This comes out in his personality in other ways too and sometimes blends with the above aspects of the man.
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Ooh good question Beth.
My Sir is a total Daddy Dom. He is sweet and kind and wants the best for me. He helps me to grow and strive to be the best me I can be. Though He is permissive and polite He has high expectations and expects obedience. He always says please and asks me to do something rather than tells me to do it but with the expectation that the answer will be yes. He has made up a Reward and Punishment box — on certain evenings I get to select a slip of paper from the box. Sometimes it’s a foot massage and other times it’s nipple flogging. But in true Dady Dom fashion there are way more rewards than punishments in the box! He tells me that his Dominance and my submission have given him a calm and peaceful way of approaching life’s inevitable challenges. I’m so proud to call him Daddy.
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I would describe mine as low protocol, sensual, Daddy.
Like his kitten’s mine is polite and words most things as questions. In the beginning I didn’t want him to do that but that is him.
His big requests of me have involved improving my work ethic. That is important to him and he wants to see the same in me. -
Fun share ….. My Sir is a Mix ……I think in public it ROCKS him for a bit of higher protocol ! In our castle is low, med high …I find that gives me Practice ! Our punishment is non physical …probably will stay that way ..take aways and seeing him disappointed in me is far worse
I find our Sex better today more than EVER ….I think its truly the LOVE, Deepness of our souls that re reconnected …and LETTING GOOOOOO
mmm blind fold Please Sir
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Wonderful shares, I’m loving hearing all the answers!
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Mr. J is my other half. When I’m in wife mode cleaning cooking or paying bills hes right there next to me (on phone) in business mode with what real life issues need to be handled. On other times when I’m in my Harley (brat) mode playing pranks, hiding his bathroom towels or putting super glue on his shampoo bottle, hes Mr. J that playful prankster that funishments me so good. On other days when I’m hurting or unraveling and spinning out of control hes the daddy dom I need that lets me unravel so he can put me back together the way he needs me.
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I’m new to all these terms, so I don’t know what to use. He doesn’t have a lot rules outside of a dress code, ritualized greetings, domestic duties, and sex on demand. His rules are closer to guidelines and grants a fair bit of autonomy. His favorite method of punishing me is through spanking with his bare hands. Like any manly man, he is highly sexual, and takes great pride in being so. He is also a very affectionate man and is fond of giving me gifts.
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Wow…this is harder than I thought! I know the answers, I just need to articulate it! LMAO
Sir is the best Sir I know (I am totally biased though!) and we are growing in our roles every day/week/month. I am so thankful and appreciate him agreeing to be my Dom and being open to bringing this dynamic into our marriage when I asked it of him. It is hard for me to say what “type” of Dom he is, because I don’t feel that he really fits any type. He just is…if that makes sense, lol. I would say, that while we are still figuring TTWD out, he shows signs and/or similarities to some of the different types, but none are actually who he is as my Sir.
I do know that I am his priority…my happiness, my well being, my safety. He does have expectations of me in my behavior, how I present myself, what language I use (or more specifically DON’T use). I would say our everyday protocol is low, but we have times when it can move up to medium…haven’t reached high yet. Sir is very big on RESPECT (he actually set that rule for himself too) and he is very private. He does not like discussing our private life with but a few people that he trusts with that information. -
Hmmmmmmmmm, this is a great topic! I would say Sir is a protective, chivalrous, kind Dom. He has grown into his Dom role easily. It was always there, we just struggled with finding our way in the beginning. I don’t think we knew exactly where we wanted to be, but we surely knew where we didn’t want to be. He had to ease into the rougher stuff (notice protective was first) LOL. He still struggles with somethings, but in the last year he has come so far. Our protocol is typically pretty low. He didn’t want to start with too much and have me feeling like I couldn’t measure up. He is slowly implementing new rules and protocols and being more strict about implementation. His Dad was not kind to his Mom, so punishments of any kind were hard for him, but he has gotten much better about sticking to his guns. I’ve also learned not to test the limits!
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I think the more we share and learn the easier it will be for each of us to grow our D/s into what we want it to be. Thank you all for sharing, please keep them coming.
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This is a tough one to articulate!!! We are still starting out and getting a sense of our roles, but he is Sir to me…he has always been my protector, and he likes to take care of me…even spoil me…he does not have a lot of rules but respect is a big one. He also wants me to keep SOAP in mind and has me recite it regularly. He asks me for things regularly and expects submission, which I am happy to give! He does try to command things but I think it’s against his nature :p when he does, though, I love it!!!
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I think this is a tough one as it sometimes depends on what’s going on… I would say he’s fairly low protocol right now. My Sir is strong, physically and emotionally, he’s my hero, like Tarzan, Hercules or even a gladiator. He will always protect me, but not overly protective. Yet he’s creative, sweet and loving and kind. There is no one like my Sir, he was created just for me. He is my rock, his strong hands hold me steady and keep me grounded. He understands me like no one else can. He enjoys binding me in rope (but is still learning) and cuffs, he enjoys impact play and sensation play, but he’s definitely not sadistic. We are still experimenting though. He’s a total ass man.. Loves everything to do with it. He’s not really possessive (which we have talked about be cause I really wish he was, I’m so much more possessive) He definitely own me, right down to my soul.
So what type of dominant is he? I’m not really sure, I just know he’s mine. ?
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My Dom is my Master in every sense of the word. Since we have discovered that D/s is who we are, he has taken every step to learn how to be my Master. He cares for me deeply and lavishes praise and gives discipline as needed. I love to be his good girl though so I don’t receive much punishment. I think I am mostly fascinated by how he has become possessive of me, in a good way. I love to feel his hand on my lower back when we are out in public or he will put his hand around my wrist to claim me. He loves to push me to the edge and is constantly buying new toys/tools for our scenes. He has a weekly discipline schedule and loves to write out our scenes. He also loves to hear my fantasies and has actually written a couple bdsm stories for me based on my fantasies. He is so good to me.
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Reading all the descriptions of your wonderful Sirs fills my heart with happiness. Our partners and relationships are each unique but we all get many of the same benefits – love, guidance, protection, and more. Thank you for the new responses.
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MrH is my rock… he is low protocol. He has very high standards of me, we exist quite happily within our D/s-M and to the outside person I don’t think they would know anything has changed. He is attentive to me, my wellbeing is his priority and he says he gets so much pleasure from giving me pleasure- his happiness is my joy. We are well matched, I love to be spanked he likes to spank me… I like to be tied up he likes to restrain me… he is my world.
Sweetgirl
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My Sir is a total White Knight/Daddy Dom. I have Little tendencies so it’s a perfect mix. He is very exacting in his expectations but also very loving, playful, teasing, and affectionate. He loves my innocent childish side as well as my impish (slightly bratty) teasing side. He doesn’t like to punish or discipline but he does get very disappointed if I don’t meet expectations. His disappointment is just as much punishment for me though. He is a bit of a sadist in scene, though, and I enjoy taking what he dishes out. His standards are high but not impossible. He pushes me to be better and fulfill my dreams and potentials and is the one cheering the loudest when I make my goals. He pampers me and celebrates with me and encourages me to reach higher. When I am down, he’s my rock and comfort and when I am up he’s my play partner and friend. He’s also my compass and helps me focus. I love pleasing him and sharing life and knowledge with him.
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Morning glory thank you for posting your rules, this helps me greatly as I seem to always feel the rules need to be more specific than generalized.
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