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What truly is M/s?
I am foundationally a slave.I like being a slave and prefer it over being a sub. Neither dynamic is better than the other,just different. A slave means something different from a sub and slavery means something different from submission.
In slavery, people think you don’t have a say/voice/opinions/rights and to some extent its true for me. M/s can vary just like D/s. Everyone’s D/s is different, everyone’s M/s is different. Its what you make it. M/s doesn’t mean strict D/s can be strict too. Masters don’t have to be strict/oppressing to be true Masters. Masters can be kind.In my slavery I do not have a say UNLESS Master says I can d that doesn’t make me less of a slave or ‘like a sub’ you have the right to have a say its a privilege for me if I get to.These are for things like training and scenes. I can say if something is bothering me I am allowed to call downtime. I have a voice just with restrictions. I do have opinions and I’m allowed to share them. (Things like politics or what colour curtains I prefer). I have rights, restricted ones. I can only have these things if Master allows me to.
Originally I had my list of limits but now Master has chosen our limits and the list is considerably shorter. I don’t have access to my safe words all the time like during punishment and certain scenes or activities. He can tell me to do dangerous things or do things he knows I don’t like but he doesn’t. Master controls everything from what I eat how much I drink and everything to do with money. I’m not a fool for giving him all my money nor am I incompetent. I can handle all money problems by myself I choose not to. I have access to money and don’t have to tell him when or how much however again with restrictions (like I can’t take money to buy a popcorn machine since it ”makes no sense”). It has to be for reasonable things. I don’t have to ask either.
He controls everything in our relationship and me and I like t that way. I need the structure and the ‘strictness’ and complete lack of control over everything. There’s a fine line between M/s and abuse. He does things I don’t like (nipple torture) but that isn’t abuse he does things that were on my list of limits that he didn’t include n our new limits but that isn’t abuse. Abuse is overlooking the safe word when I can use it or drugging me. Fine line.
M/s isn’t bad or intimidating and slaves aren’t robots I mean we’re awesome but not bionic awesome lol
I love my slavery no matter how it seems to others. Slavery is freedom and that has different meanings for every M/s relationship. -
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Emily,
What a beautifully written description of your special dynamic. Thanks for sharing your dynamic with us. I have never really known or heard the M/s described from a personal view such as yours. I have more appreciation and a better understanding of M/s as it relates to you and perhaps other ladies with the same. Your dynamic is what you want, desire and have consented to so that is what it is all about. M/s is your special relationship and I see that it is very personal and beautiful too. -
Emily, thank you for sharing. I understand a little better now, I am so glad that’s its right for you. I now that structure is important for all of us.
You did an excellent job of sharing your dynamic.
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Emily – Thank you for sharing this with us. I also find it very interesting to hear how other dynamics work. I’m happy you have found a structure that works well for you.
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Emmmmily,
Glad you were feeling wordy last night! This was a very enlightening post and you two have a very special dynamic. While traditional “lifestyle” D/s is great, it’s great to hear about other dynamics both because of the new ideas and dispelling any incorrect notions. Thank you for sharing! 🙂 -
Thank you all for commenting, I appreciate your kind words 🙂
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Thank you so much for sharing with us. A lot of what you said ring so true for us as well. Master doesn’t like putting labels on things as everyone have their own definitions sometimes for words. But best describe I am a bedroom slave with restricted access to certain things. Like no safeword in punishments and He has the right to restart a scene if I do call a safeword and after talking He feels it isn’t a valid reason for me stopping a scene. (although that has never ever happened but He did talk to me about it). Out of the physical side of our relationship though I have a lot more say, in that instance a bit more like a submissive. It is partly due to me having to have that control over things to run the household, to using my strength for the best of our household so I need to have more free run over things and being a Stay at home mum.
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Thank you for sharing this, Emily. I’m very new to the D/s scene and am wanting to learn as much as I can about how others embrace the dynamic. I don’t know much about M/s, but I really appreciate you sharing.
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