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What service means to me
Well, I’ll start out by saying this post is part of a punishment my Master gave me for not completing the tasks assigned to me for the day. husDOM helped him realize that spankings were not actually a punishment for me. lol
While my favorite services to give to my Master are in the bedroom, I have been trying harder to work on my domestic skills for him. We have two children, ages 15 and 17, and most of the time my domestic skills are more for them than my husDOM. I enjoy making him happy and doing things either he has assigned for me or that I just know that he likes. We have always had an amazing sex life and even included the basics of BDSM before we I ever asked for a D/s relationship. It isn’t always easy though balancing that with my daily routine. For this reason, I feel that it would mean more to him if I increased my domestic skills and catered to him outside of the bedroom.
He recently asked me to research to determine what time of submissive I thought I was and I am the furthest from a service or servant sub. I have never been the “girly” type or what I would call a good housewife. So for me I feel that servicing him in this way would not only be more challenging for me but would show the extra effort I would be putting in towards pleasing him. However, I’m quickly realizing that I am not very good at it. I’m thinking that maybe I should stick with using my bedroom service skills to avoid having to write essays and forum posts for punishment. But we all know that’s not my decision to make. Master will tell me which of my skills of service he wants pleasure from and I will do as I’m told. But let’s be honest, this won’t be my last punishment.
In the meantime, maybe you all can give me some advise.
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2 Replies
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Dear HisSub17,
Let me start by asking a few questions….if you are not a good housekeeper, how is this act of service going to be sustainable for you? How will you measure your success at a particular task? How will you prevent frustration from setting in 5 days in? 2 weeks in? A month from now?
Oftentimes housecleaning is a default early request of a dominant because of his frustration level with how the house is kept and it is an easy rule to make. But if it is not something that the sub is successful at at the outset of the relationship, just because it is now a rule, it does not mean she will be successful at it just because he says it will be so. I think your Sir has set you up for failure unfortunately. You will both measure the completion of a task differently. You will both measure the satisfactory level of the task differently. And you will develop animosity towards this rule and him for it. Rules are meant to be achievable. Yes, they make you stretch and can be a challenge but should never be something that you should be thinking of a way to get out of at the beginning. That has bratty sub written all over it and your Sir should give this particular rule some serious reconsideration.
Best of Luck
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Thank you for replying Para. You’ve brought up some good points. I was actually the one to ask my Master to incorporate more household duties into my daily tasks. He had started a couple of little tasks and I realized it was the motivation I needed to continue. I guess it’s not as much as I’m not good at it, as it is that I wasn’t making the time to do it. Since I have posted this he has listed one household chore a day above what I typically do. He does take into account my normal schedule and anything I have going on in addition to the normal before he assigns it to me. It’s actually working out really well. I’m finding that it’s becoming more of a habit for me and not as frustrating as I thought it would be. He doesn’t punish me if it isn’t done “well”, just if I haven’t tried at all. I am happy to report I haven’t received a punishment at all in two weeks and I’m getting better at it by the day. We are having DT twice a week right now to make sure those bratty behaviors don’t start rearing their ugly heads and I can speak freely about how I feel about my tasks. These tasks are increasing my self esteem. I feel that I am becoming a better wife and subMrs. It’s not just benefiting Master, but myself and our children as well. Which makes me feel better about myself also. I have to say it has surprised and delighted me at the same time.
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