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What it means to have "a scene"?
What is a scene? As a new sub this is something I have struggled with. I want that power exchange so badly. To be panting with desire, pain, and pleasure. I have read books to find inspiration about what it is I want. I have read LK’s blogs about the difference between playtime and a “scene”. One things that remains consistent is that scenes will differ for everyone. Of course! We are all different and will desire different things. I want a scene with my Sir so so bad that it is always on my mind. The biggest question for me is “how do I explain it to my Sir without him feeling overwhelmed”? When we first started D/s-M, like most, we were talking about scenes and playtimes, what’s the biggest difference between the 2. What we had settled on then was the time. Scenes lasting anywhere from 1-5 hours, where as playtime only lasted anywhere up to an hour and was much more spontaneous. Thinking about it from my HusDom’s perspective 1-5 hours can sound daunting! I can just hear the voice inside his head now “How am I supposed to sexually stimulate her for that long? I can’t last 5 hours!” After talking to a bedroom submissive about what her rules and rituals. She was telling me about some rules they have when doing a scene. To my surprise they were just like the rules I had been following in my 24/7 dynamic. A light bulb started flickering. A scene is so much more than just sex. Just like our dynamic. We do not have to be naked and in the bedroom for our entire scene. It can start before he even gets home from work with a simple text letting me know expectations and protocol for the night. We can be in the middle of a scene when out on a date with a higher protocol being met or that he has requested I call him only by his Dom name. The possibilities are endless. Everything we do in our 24/7 dynamic can be transferred into a scene. For instance, my Sir has requested I never touch a door when we go out and once it is time to order he will order my food for me. He has always opened doors for me so I didn’t think much of that rule and him ordering for me sounded like fun, easy rules to follow. But after thinking about applying them to a scene I started to see how it plays into the mindset of a submissive and setting up a scene. I was only seeing the surface of what those rules meant to me, to us, and our dynamic. Because we wanted a 24/7 dynamic for the start I had missed the sparkle of the simple things. I have taken my Sir’s dominance for granted being a greedy sub, always wanting more more more. I feel light as a feather now that I can better explain myself to my Sir. And I am very confident with this new-found light he will be able to plan a scene sooner than later! He called DT tonight so that I can tell him my epiphany about what it is to have a scene. He truly dominates me at every corner. I have to learn to let go more and see what it is I have in front of me.
Always <3
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I could not have express
that question any better. I too
Get confused on scene and play
Fan -
I could have written this myself. We are just 2 days away from our 1 year D/s-M anniversary and we have yet to have a scene. I am trying my best to be patient and thankfully I have all of the lovely subbies here to remind me of the importance of being patient. It took me 11 months and 2 weeks to get him to finally do the “clean the slate” thing. Patience…the dreaded p word…
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Patience is the key for so much, especially this.
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