What Do You Think a SUBMISSIVE Looks Like…

[Unknown Member]

I think a sub looks like you me and everyone else here. We do not all look like the Tumblr images.

Now I am a little more concerned in my appearance as to I am trying to impress him. I want to wear what he finds attractive and not baggy clothes to cover my body in shame. It means I am usually wearing a fitted tee, jeans and converse.

The biggest thing for me is as His sub I am holding my head higher. I am more confident because I see myself through his eyes. He is the only one that matters

[Veruca]

Growing up, I was a dancer and always had a dancer’s body…never had to worry. Then there was the period of time where I was one hot “chica” (knew it, flaunted it and benefited from it). After my first child, my body was completely different and I was well aware of it. For so long, my worth had been evaluated by “HOW I LOOKED” that it was hard for me to adjust. As time went on and I grew as a woman (spiritually and maturity), it took less of a toll on my self esteem, but my self image was still distorted. I insisted on the lights ALWAYS being turned off and didn’t like for Sir to see me naked.

Right after D/s, Sir MADE me watch us have sex in a mirror and it was a complete eye opener. I saw myself through HIS eyes and all I saw was desire and passion.

A sub is you and me, like princess said. Those pics are great, but they are just models and truth be told, most of them probably don’t even live this lifestyle in their own private lives…they were paid to take a pretty, erotic picture. What does a sub look like? She looks like the lady in front of you at the store, the mom picking up her kids from school, the professional woman having lunch with co-workers, the lady pumping gas into her minivan…she has days where she is dressed to the nines and others where she just can’t bring herself to change out of those really comfortable pj’s. 😉

[hisblossom]

I agree that the images we see are of models. Unless we have a superstar’s paycheck, we will not be able to afford what it costs to look that way. Personal in home hairdressers and wardrobes the size of our houses are probably out of our budgets. No one is going to bother air brushing our pictures either.

So we are real. We are real in or out of bed every single day. What we can do is be the best we can be, feel our best and shine as real women.

One of the things I found important was dressing in ways that work for my shape and skin tone. If my clothes feel good to me and look right for me, I am more likely to feel better in them. Then he is more likely to enjoy the display I present in them because happiness with yourself is a glow that others will notice.

[Unknown Member]

ooo I likes that share …HM learning to Be the BEST you can be ….with what all your gifts !

I too for sure…Feel better …walk..swing those hiPS a bit more when Im dressed, heels….and I LOVE the way Sir appreciates …wants to touch me all over shhhhhh

SO, HB how did you learn those tips, styles…colors for YOU !

[Unknown Member]

I hear you V…I think many of us …had that body …babies, life, age….it now looks different !

YEs, we are all a 10 for out Sirs, Daddys,Masters…..

Love what HB shared….accepting getting to be the Best we can be NOW today ! and LOVE it !

[hisblossom]

The first thing to do is toss what makes us feel bad. We all know what clothes we have that is worn, stained, stretched out or just makes us feel frumpy.

Throw it away!!

There is no room in sexy and proud to serve our men in frumpy. Frumpy or sloppy says I don’t care how I look, I don’t care to be my best for him. He can see that; he can feel that. Don’t do that to him. Make him feel he is worth the time and effort .

Finding what looks right really is time and effort. I started with looking through catalogues and magazines for whole looks to see what appealed to me.

When I did a wardrobe overhaul, my husband came with me. He enjoyed watching me look through things and try things on. He chose things and helped me make decisions.

I can’t pull off everything I really love but I can do elements. What I have is a look that is all me. And a look he likes.

[hisblossom]

A note on comfortable.

I prefer comfortable but for me soft and stretchy works. I like to wear yoga pants and feminine cut tees or long skirts. I chose pants that work with my figure, they are soft fabric and form fitting.

T-shirts don’t have to be plain or frumpy. The new cuts can work nicely, The soft clingy ones look nice with pearls or chain necklace, can look good paired with long skirts and bracelets.

I am sure there is more out there that can work for pretty and comfortable.

[Unknown Member]

Hello Curvy! I agree with all the ladies above a submissive is a women comes in all sizes,shapes and forms. I say this because submission isn’t what you look like on the outside but what you feel on the inside. What’s in your heart, soul and mind and that is what makes a submissive women.

LT

[bliss-aka-mr-grants-muffin]

Curvy, thought of you today during church. Message was so fitting even though it was about forgiveness to me it spoke to what submission looks like.
“clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” (Colossians 3:12)
hugs and blessings,
Bliss

[Unknown Member]

Beautiful, Bliss.
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I was short and overweight when I met my husband. He knew I wasn’t happy with my appearance and weight, and he knew I was trying (unsuccessfully) to trim down. He told me he loved my curves, the way my hips swayed. He said if I never lost an ounce he would always see me as beautiful including if I gained weight. He wanted me to be healthy and happy, and not worry about my appearance because in his eyes I was (and am) perfect including my imperfections. Because of his loving kindness and the look in his eyes when he sees my body I have never felt self conscious in front of him, other people yes, but never him.

With regards to general physical appearance I think a submissive looks like any woman and every woman – tall, short, fat, thin, in between, fit, flabby, black, brown, tan, yellow, pink, white. She could be anyone.

I think a submissive shines out through her countenance and demeanor. She has eyes only for her Sir, she loves to please him and is happiest when doing so. She is human and has bad days but she knows she has her Sir to rely on and lean on when she needs to. For him she picks herself up and tries again. She recognizes she is enough, but strives to be better for her Sir and herself. She is content in herself. She is full of love, happiness, peace, strength.

[Unknown Member]

OOO I LUVES …all these shoes !! I find myself …looking at other woman….men are they D/sm 🙂 ahhh I hope they are !!

Bliss …what a Powerful verse …OOO

I will Strive to Shine… from my inside Submissiveness ..to the outside !! Cs

[Unknown Member]

Curvy, you shine so bright I gotta wear shades.☀️? I can get a rockin’ sub tan here with all the subshinin’ ladies, LOL. ? to everybody!