What are your limits?

[melissajf]

I would say I have a hard line on breath play, losing ability to breathe scares me a bit so we decided together, Sir and I, to leave it alone and set it aside.

[ssb]

I love some dirty talk.. The dirtier the better usually 😉

However there are a couple of words/names that he absolutely cannot use (anytime really) but especially when we are playing… Sir and I have put those words on our hard limits.

~SSB

[blondiet]

I am not a fan of pain so anything like needle play is a hard limit for me. I’m still pretty new to D/s and pain cancels out pleasure. Sir and I basically just discuss new things and he talks me through what he’s doing. I will try things and if I don’t like it, then Sir won’t do it again. Except bondage. That is something I don’t like right now but have to work through and submit. I’m making progress!

[Unknown Member]

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[Unknown Member]

My hard limits are any kind of water sports or deification..Its just not my thing and breath play I find way too frightening. Pet play is a no no for me and Sir…Other than that we are good to go 🙂

[twiztidzgurl]

Sir and I set our hard limits, and most are mine, as he is in control and does not have to do anything he does not please anyway. Our hard limits are no scat, knives, beastiality, and the word cunt, as it has very negative connotations for me that I can not overcome. That’s about it, anything else is fair play 🙂

[littlestudent]

We are okay with choking and bondage, name-calling and dirty talk are something we both find fun. 😉 For me, my hard limit is he cannot put his hands over my mouth for any reason. I had a situation once where it was used to assault me and I can’t seem to get past it in the D/s bedroom dynamic. Perhaps one day.

Littlestudent

[june]

Our hard limits include: no scat, blood play, beastiality, or breath control. Oh, and no belt – it brings back too many memories of getting spanked with my dad’s belt. Ironically, I adore the flogger and really dig the crop. Go figure. Some things I listed as a hard limit have been re-negotiated and tried (such as the crop and also a ball gag). Go slow, take things one by one, and as your Sir learns your limits you also learn to trust more. With that, comes the freedom to be willing to try new things. Great topic.

[cslim]

I am not sure of my limits yet, I’m so new to this! I am really great with pain, bondage, whats that called, berating (??) This is a great discussion, I wouldn’t be able to do anything with waterworks or hot lunch types of things. Ummm.. Mr told me “You’ll let me do whatever I want.” I was lost in the moment and didn’t respond, he grabbed my throat and asked if I heard him, of course I said yes. He always makes sure I’m ok with something new first though, starts of slowly, tells me to do something, if I will try, I say I will try, there hasn’t been anything I haven’t done or at least tried yet. We are discovering my limits together. <3

[trivelina]

Ours are:

– Nothing intended to cause a permanent change to my body (broken bones, tattooing/branding, any cutting beyond superficial and *no* cutting on stretched skin).
– No intentional involvement of bathroom stuff.
– No animals.
– No references to size or fitness.

[hersubject]

O/our current hard limits have been set by my Queen. I am glad she has set them, but I have given over my ability to set limits to her – whether that marks me as a slave rather than a submissive I’m not sure although my Queen is adamant I am her submissive – she would not hold a slave in such high regard she says (I think previous scene experiences have coloured her view).

The limits are no polygamy and no public humiliation. There are some things like scat and bestiality that don’t even hit the radar – so I suppose they could be considered hard limits.
Currently that’s about it, however, whilst I was Domming, her hard limits included no tweaking of the nose and more interestingly no insertion of toys into ME anally. When W/we first got together she viewed male subs as disgusting and for a male to have anything inserted was a hard limit (a bad experience being made while a sub previously to fist a male sub).

When W/we realised that W/we were in the wrong roles and swapped, that hard limit evaporated and the more research she looked into regarding male submission the happier she became with it.

So, if you’re new and feel ‘how come I have so many hard limits? No one else does’ or wonder why no one else seems to have the same limit as you do, just remember that these things can change over time as people grow and change.

My thoughts

HerSubject