Training

[daantje]

I love this idea! I’m going to opt it during downtime. We aren’t training though. My husDom is still thinking about what to train.
Love,
Daantje

[hekatemaiden]

@daantje I personally have been craving a little more consistency as well as being type A I am an avid planner Daddy– not so much..so 1) it helps me to “know” what is expected & what we’re reaching for goal wise, and it also takes a little pressure off Daddy’s back (not constantly having to think of new ideas or get stuck in rut, which did happen and wasn’t fun! I could tell you how the session/play would go) so its a win win IMO! I totally understand the waiting to be told part, once I was able to (mostly) fully take all of Him without Him feeling He had to hold back too much (though I still struggle if not fully broken in sometimes!) The first real training was deepthroating/full face fuck. That was a good while (and I’ve always enjoyed it even vanilla) but to perfect the ways Daddy expected was 1st real task. Then (and now after a rut back to) anal stretching with extended wear plugs. Overall, each is either to help me stretch or endure or extend current ability so there’s at least hopefully some forward momentum!! ❤ Curious to hear how yours goes!!

[Unknown Member]

hi~~ what do you use for anal training and/or time? i am currently using plugs and working up to longer times. right now i’m comfortable in what i refer as a slim for 2 hours, it’s aprox 3/4-1 inch around at the widest. i have not heard of Ryder??? Thank you!!

[adoredbyhim]

Hello ladies!
I was hoping to reach out to you all. I am very new to the sub life and appreciate any guidance, advice and recommendations you may have. I am one week out from a total hysterectomy- no vaginal Penetration for SIX weeks! I want to continue to train but obviously have a major restriction. 😩 Any ideas or suggestions for continues training with the above limitations?
Thank you in advance!

AdoredbyHim. 😘

[Veruca]

There is a forum for health and wellness…there might be some things in there that you might find useful. Also, please join us in the chat rooms…that is where we talk to each other in real time. We also have video chats periodically, where we can see (if you want to be seen) and hear each other talk about particular topics.

[star-SirJustin]

Hey Adored!!

I just had a baby and just YESTERDAY got released for vaginal penetration after my 6 week post partum check! It’s no fun at all, but doable and the time will fly in the end. As far as continuing to train, we took that opportunity to do more deep throat and face fuck training and used the wand a fair amount. Even when I couldn’t really be naked, a wand on high through clothes does a wonder on a deprived subbie for orgasm control exercises. Sir also got more in tune with sensation play with blindfolds and different sensory implements since he couldn’t be quite as rough as he would usually prefer to be. But I think the hardest part of training during that time was making the effort to remember my place and the value of our dynamic all day, every day, even though we weren’t able to “participate” in all the usual ways. Keeping our rituals like bed time kneeling and collaring and remembering to call him Sir and speak respectfully through the exhaustion were the things that kept us most connected.
I hope some of that helps you get through it and remember to reach out to me or any other subbies via chat or message!

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[hisladybug]

Hi
Sir and I want to begin anal training with the end goal of my body always being ready and able on a moments notice (aka not an hour of play before we can even begin in that area lol). So I guess I am asking for guidance. How do you start? What do you do? How often? sir said he would like me to be able to wear a plug 24/7 eventually (except for using the necessary and for cleaning). Do any of you wear one all the time? I am worried about constipation since the body’s urge to dedicate is facilitated by the release of feces from the lower bowel into the rectum. If we already have something in the rectum…? Do you train your body to “go” at a certain time of day?

I appreciate any pointers. We want to be safe.

[HisgirlCGL]

Hi HisLadyBug,
I’m sure others will chime in but I thought I would start. I do not believe it is recommended to use a butt plug 24/7. In fact, you could cause a lot of damage if you had one inserted that long. In my experience, using a plug for a short time prior to starting play would generally be enough. For us, my Sir just makes sure he uses a good deal of lube and goes slowly to start. Hope that helps.
TTNF 🙂
HisGirl

[Js_bunny-CGL_Ms]

Hi Ladybug
I agree with Hisgirl. I don’t know how long you can wear a plug but I know it’s not all day. When we first started anal Sir used one finger, when that felt good, he used two fingers, when that felt good, then he got to go there. The key is relaxing that part of your body to accept him in, going slowly, and lube…lots of lube. I do have plugs and on occasion wear them just maybe an hour before at most. often if Sir is in the mood he puts it in at the start of play so he can finish there. It does make it easier but isn’t necessary for me. I found that if I can move onto him and settle for a minute with him all in there, then I’ve adjusted and he can have at it. If you get my meaning. Hope this helps.
Jsbunny

[little-bunny]

Hi there Ladybug,
I am going to agree with the ladies here on not wearing the plug for an entire day for potential risks. When Sir and I first started I would wear the plug an hour, or so, a day while doing things around the house and before play time. Lube is key as well as taking it slowly at first to acclimate to him. In the beginning, Sir had me use my wand during penetration and even throughout to relax and that was amazing! No preparation is needed anymore for us, with the exception of some lube, but it took a little while and patience to get to that point.
HLB

[hekatemaiden]

Late Chime!! Sorry was on a bit of hiatus— another story!! So anal training… Yay! First, I am assuming your Sir knows for the end results you mentioned- this is a PROCESS and rushing it IRL will cause a lot of discord. 2 Gameplan– (Mentioning here, I am by no means “gaped” etc- my muscles actually just don’t do that and because even though W/we have done anal training cause Daddy loves it, its still a muscle and yes can of course be stretched but also for me at least, if go too long without it, I still struggle and it will take longer to “bottom out”, so just keep in mind a few weeks training won’t necessarily be the ticket, its kinda ongoing) So gameplan- agree no plugging 24/7, but get a quality extended wear, I like Ryder by Tantus, start in increments each day, 30mins, hour, 2hrs etc though even with extended wear they say to break after 3hrs (the longest i was plugged was during a wedding, reception, and hour trip both ways to airport! I reapplied coconut oil very frequently throughout the night!) Once you get use to extended day wear, bump it up to a “practice dildo” you can take pics during day to show you’re working and stretching etc. You can also do so in front of Yours however you guys prefer. But generally this is still done during the day and anal is included in some way at night, either the entire time or build up to just anal each night after stretching during the day. LUBE we have tried just about everything and really for us the best are coconut oil or “Gun Oil” its a brand. Overall consistency is key and always use your safe words when needed!!!!! Hope it goes well!!