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That time of the month and D/s…HELP
I really need advice on how to maintain my submissiveness during my cycle. I don’t feel very subbie at all. The normal things that would normally get me back on track like maintenance spankings and kneeling don’t work. I don’t want him to touch me, I barely want him to talk to me and I feel horrible because it’s not is fault. My Sir is very understanding and doesn’t make a big deal about it, I just feel that as we grow in our journey, I should be able to get better and better in all aspects of my submission no matter how bad my cycle is. Any suggestions?
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Oh Juliet, I get this way as well each month. My husband/Sir is good about giving me and my body the days it needs to get thru it mentally and physically but will put us back on schedule with a prepared scene he has when I am finished with my cycle. We try and keep our momentum going, for my mindset really, during these times with cuddling against his chest at night and talking about our day after the kids go to bed, sending each other hot notes all week long to keep me in my mindset, constantly whispering in my ear about whats to come at the end of the week… He really helps me a lot because I do not feel like a sub at all those first few days before or during my cycle. Once we start getting to the point where its winding down, my brain comes back again, I am able to do what I do best and be His again. Don’t you wish you could flip a switch and forget that monthly nonsense?! sigh….
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It is difficult, but we actually have talked about it many times even before becoming D/s. In our contract we have language that talks about health and well-being. I have an illness that also flares up and interferes, so we needed something that laid out the expectations in that area. It also applies to my cycle. My cycles are horrible. I often become physically ill. He takes extra care of me during this time and is very understanding and patient. Once things ease up, I am to inform him immediately. The best we can do, in my opinion, is to request downtime to discuss how we are feeling and come to an agreement if one doesn’t already exist. Honestly, most spouses and partners are sympathetic. I’ve never had one that wasn’t. I’m still new at this lifestyle, so others will probably have other suggestions. I figured I would share what works for us.
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I know what you are talking about, it’s frustrating. It almost feels like we aren’t D/s during that week. Sir is great about just being supportive which is great but I m finding getting back into my sub mindset is even more difficult each time.
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Have you tried using a diva cup? We recently had sex with mine in during fairly heavy flow, as we only see each other on the weekends I NEEDED him. We were already almost there, we attacked each other as soon as we were alone so this happened very quickly), I said, I have a cup in, I got my period, there might be some blood, we started, finished and there was NO blood. the sex was great. I’m not sure this is at all what you are talking about? I went through a few months of excruciating painful and extremely heavy periods when I first got copper IUD put in, my flow is still much heavier than it used to be, but the pain is much less, and I am taking whole food iron vitamins to help with the relative anemia, yes my flow is that heavy. As for mood, Mr is away, so if I’m on my period and with him, i NEED that time WITH him. Hope this is somewhat helpful…. If not, hope its at least not annoying LOL!
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thank you for your insight ladies…extremely helpful.
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