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Submissive vs Slave
Hi wonderful ladies! I need some advice. After a few months hiatus due to both of us having medical issues, some things came up as we are getting back into it. Please bear with me, and ask questions if something doesn’t make sense/I need to clarify further. Maybe direct me?
Can a sub still be a sub, but with slave tendencies? I take care of Sir all the time anyways (just natural for me). Lately, I’m not sure if I fall in between? What does that even look like if that’s a thing? I’m a submissive at heart for sure, and don’t think I could ever go full slave, even for Sir, but can they cross at times?! I really feel like I have the overarching need to please him in such a manner.
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I would encourage you not to overthink things too much. It doesn’t really matter “what” you are as long as you are the best version of that you can be. I would call myself a 24/7 sub but I’m not sure I would fit anyone’s else’s definition. None of that matters really. What matters is if you are being the sub you and your Sir have agreed to…even that can change over time. To use an overused phrase…”You do you.”
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Hi daisy. I know I struggled with the submissive/slave thing as well. I agree with pearl – it’s your dynamic – do what fits you and your Sir. The following 2 articles came to mind when I read your post, hopefully, you find them helpful.
https://husdom.com/dominant-training-submissive-vs-slave/
https://husdom.com/total-power-exchange-tpe/
Also, recently my Sir asked what I thought being a submissive was, which ended up being a great discussion and added a lot of clarity for me in our own dynamic.
Best of luck to you and your Sir in finding your own path in D/s-M.
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