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Stumbled upon D/s by accident
Hi Ladies,
It’s exciting to be here, I just joined today.
I am not sure yet if this is something that will be right for my husband and I. To be honest, I am accessing the website on my phone and struggling to make sense of the platform. But I thought I would start by introducing myself and reaching out to this community. Any help with navigating the platform and getting the information I need is appreciated.
My husband (45) and I (40) have been married for 14 years and have 3 children together ages 13, 9 and 6 years old.
We have had a typical tradicional marriage up until about 4 months ago. After neglecting our sex life for many years, specially since adding a third child to the mix, I felt like a big part of my life was missing.
I stumbled upon a post on Reddit of a husband claiming he had “free use” of his wife’s “holes” whenever he wanted and the way he described it turned me on immensely.
This man was saying on his post that his wife of 11 years agreed to be his personal slut and allow “free use”. What that meant is that she would always be shaved and clean and keep her “holes” ready for him for whatever he wanted at any time. He could have anything sexual at anytime he wanted, no questions asked or foreplay. She would wear easy to access clothing and no underwear around him. He could shove fingers, his penis, penetrate her and get a blow job any time he wanted. Free access to her body .
I thought about it for a couple of days and asked my husband to read the post and if this was something he wanted to do. His reply was “of course I want this but what’s the catch?” “What’s in it for you?
My answer was that I would love to have him do those things any time he wanted to me. That it turned me on immensely to give him control of my body.
And that’s how it started for us. And from that moment 4 months ago my sex life has never been better. I was expecting hot sex but the feel of his power over me is something I didn’t expect to enjoy so much. It totally shifted our relationship to each other and the increased respect I have for him out of the bedroom too. The power exchange is affecting all areas of our relationship.
That’s what brought me here to this point. Looking at what would work for us in the future as our relationship grows and transforms and gets deeper and stronger.
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Hi and Welcum, @Red-rose ! Glad you joined! This is a fabulous community, and as much as we’re alike in many ways, we’re also very individual and different. That’s the beauty of us sharing here; seeing the variety of D/s-M dynamics that are expressed through TTWD!I feel like a LOT of married couples get to a point where they start dabbling in BDSM, and yet don’t even realize it, because they don’t even know to categorize it. My Neo and I started this earlier this year (after being married for 27 years), and though he was essentially the one who brought it in to the relationship, the more we do, the more I realize we’ve had elements of kink in our sex life since the beginning… we just never really acknowledged it or knew how to approach exploring it more (for fear of the other judging). Since we’ve start TTWD, we communicate more openly and honestly than ever before… which of course, leads to more pleasure for both of us!
Keep playing! Make sure you join us on Discord, where we have a lot of conversation… and come to our live Zoom chats (check the Calendar, under community)! Such a great group of us here openly sharing and enhancing our experiences… definitely post any questions you have, delve into LK’s awesome library of articles, and poke around the site. The only limits are our imagination; as I always say, there are foundations and guidelines for D/s-M, but ultimately, we all make it our own and what works best in our relationship.
I’m the group leader for the Bondage Bunnies group – the BIGGEST turn on for me in TTWD – hope you come and join the group, where we talk about all things around bondage. 😎
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Hello @Trinity69
Thank you for you prompt reply.
I am sorry for taking so long. Real life takes over with the kids and my small business (I own a small clothing store in my small town). But the D/s relationship with my husband is at the center of my heart. I don’t want to put my relationship with my husband on hold anymore, it is the one source of energy and happiness that is now a constant in my heart.
I will look into discord. I have never used it before.
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Welcum and I am glad you are here. For me, this is a perfect community. It really respects and values my Sir and I as a married and monogamous couple but also encourages us in our need for D|s and all that cums with it. We have a great group of people here. I am the group head of the toy/tool group. Please join, we have lots of fun!!!! Look around and keep an eye out on the calendar. It’s full of events. Again Welcum!!
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@subrianne-CGH
Thank you, I will join the group. I have much to learn about toys. We have very basic toys so I am excited to try new things.
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WELCUM Red-rose!
Our communities offer you 3 ways to learn Married Dominance and Submission. The communities are truly what you and your partner make of them. The relationship, the marriage cums first in Married Dominance and Submission.
First we offer you research. We have been doing TTWD for almost 10 years! We have so much research speaking to others that dare to make this journey. I have written of our personal journey all along the way, our ups and downs… We had no one to help us along the way of MONOGAMOUS D|s-M…. So we created this place for married couples to enjoy the enrichment and healing that using BDSM and other sexual dynamics and techniques can offer.
Look and read the articles. The new sub chatroom on site tells you what articles to start with. You read and learn all you can, to where you are at in your journey.
Often couples then start “hands-on” practicing what they have read and talked about with others. Setting up a new dynamic can be confusing but we can help CLARIFY.
We have a start up METHOD that we review in live chat once a month.. Don’t miss it. This method gives you in steps how to begin on a strong foundation and with no assumptions. We help you check off all the boxes.
Finally, the most important, we offer you practicum, we have mentors and groups where you can chat with them live about their experiences. . The best way for couples to learn is to surround themselves with others that do the same things. This helps you feel acknowledged and validated in your feelings.
HusDOM and subMrs offer this complete immersive community.
P.S. Courses are also cumming soon!
Welcum to the community! IF YOU NEED ANYTHING … email me LK@subMrs.com
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@Kaninchen-Founder
Thank you for creating this space. It is so nice to meet you.
My husband and I have much to learn and explore. A huge challenge for us is having the kids at home when we are home. Time and privacy constraints.
I have listened to some of your podcasts before joining the community.
I am slowly reading the materials and trying to figure out what I want and what my husband wants. I have to yet present all of this to him.
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Hello! Having just joined as well I completely understand the confusion on navigating the site. I did find that using my laptop made it make more sense. I’m still wrapping my head around the calendar, discussions and groups as well. There isn’t anything on the calendar over the weekends coming up which was a little disappointing for me to see since that’s when I’ve got some extra time. But there’s a lot of good information on the blogs– both subMRS and husDOM. Welcome! Hope you find your way along whatever path you need.
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HELLO! Glad to see you here!
We do sometimes have chats on weekends. November’s calendar is still in process. We thank you for your patience. Group Chat’s usually happen during the week, due to most of the subMrs Volunteers use their weekends with family. But, watch the calendar as I usually have a Saturday afternoon chat. There is a Spanksgiving Challenge this month and Kneeling Exercise as well that you can do over the weekends… You can always reach out to a team member or mentor and ask questions as well. The community is what you make of it… Lots to do and read and chat about. I am always available my email for any concerns or questions as well! Hope to see you at my chat!
HUGS & WELCUM!
LK
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Hi, it’s nice to meet someone who is new as well. I am absolutely lost in the platform still but slowly figuring it all out.
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I found Discord much easier to navigate and more natural for me to use. I’m more comfortable with that for quick discussion threads, and the website for the calendar, blog posts, etc. ❤️
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Welcum @Red.. I’m new here too & do most everything from ph phone as well.. I like the discord as there seems to be more activity.. LK & crew do a great job at carrying everything back & forth between here & discord..
use the search magnifier if you’re looking for things.. I’m still getting used to this one.. LK is gonna start Kneel What You feel on Nov 8 (I’m searching that one now!)
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Hi there, so nice to meet someone else who is also new. I am looking into discord and thank you for the magnifier tip.
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