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Spankings what do they do for you?
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I think this is the best place to post this….
So yesterday my husband thought we needed some US time. We took the dog and went hiking in the mountains. Saw some amazing waterfalls. We never really “talked”. As I have been going through some very emotional feelings here lately. Questioning the future of our marriage kind of things. Mostly regarding my desires and needs and his lack there of. But anyway, we get home I nap, he wakes me to tell me, not ask, which is huge. Even though I was a little grumpy I did as he said. When I got our he had a flogger and a crop. It was the most intense striking he has ever given me. He was good to check in. He gave me what I needed until I had enough. I think it showed him just how much himself and I was capable of. I was crying. It hurt so bad. Which I liked, but what I liked more, was the thought of him liking and possibly getting some release as well. So I may have let him go further than what I initially wanted. But that’s ok. What has my thoughts scattered, is while I was dealing with the strikes, just as I broke, I had a vision of my mom striking me when I was a child. Very very wrong feelings came through me and I had to fight back a sob, because I knew he would freak, and I didn’t want him to stop. Any advice on this would be great.
After his last check in, he asked if I was sure that I didn’t want any more. I said yes. He then said…Yes What?!? In a voice that didn’t sound like me I replied Yes Sir. Again very emotional point. He has never asked me that.
No we have not communicated about last night. I’m not sure how to or what to say.-
This sounds like good news, I’m glad for you. I agree with LK that you should talk with him about it. Ask him if he’d be willing to talk about it. Thank him for the experience, keep it simple. Maybe ask him what changed and if there is anything you can do to help it continue? Talk about your side of the experience, your feelings, what you shared here with us. Feedback and some suggestions are good that way they can find their own path, develop their own methods. I think most guys need to find their own way of doing things. Good luck going forward.
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Oh, Liz… do downtime today and lay it all out. Its ok to have all those feelings, sad/childlike, mad/mother-father spankings, good feelings..thats the sub, it’s ok sit with him and talk all through them. In the end you may end up sobbing in his arms and that’s a good thing. You are experiencing a new sub reaction to spankings… it get easier and let your Sir know what you are feeling and make sure you let him know if you want to move forward and continue. I went through this exact thing. It gets easier after you explore past the first couple real spankings. PM me anytime.. LK
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I love his spanking, they put me in place, soothe my mind. I get so relaxed after a good spanking or flogging.
Spanking helps me and him grow into our relationship.
We use pleasure splanking, maintenance spanking and punishment spanking regularly and I love it. -
Thank you all for the kind words and support. I’m definitely going to talk to him. I sent a text today on an idea to help us communicate.
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I love a good spanking session. Sir only spanks me for pleasure, so that is all I know to associate it with, and it is almost hard to put into (comprehensive) words how it makes me feel. It’s something that I find I miss if it is not included into playtime at some point. I have experienced multiple emotions during spanking from almost crying to laughing (that really threw us for a loop the first time it happened because I didn’t understand why I was laughing). It first gives me that surge of adrenaline, it clears my head, it pushes my threshold (I challenge myself while Sir is also challenging me) and ultimately, after it is done, I am relaxed.
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For me, spankings was the first kink I asked Sir to do to me, even before we actually started Ds. I found that spankings took my head out of what we were doing, helped me not the think or concentrate on whether or not I would cum or not… Before adding kink into our sex life I rarely came unless a vibrator was involved. My mind as always in it too much and the spanking during sex helped take my mind out of it. Now Not only does it take my mind out of things but Sir also likes to see my red Ass and I love any markings left behind as well. Knowing Sir left them, the memory of the feel of his hand can leaving me glowing for days ?
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